I went to a party about 4 weeks ago and had little too much too drink and woke up with my ex. bf naked at his house we apparently had unprotected sex. i rarely party and up till then had not for 6 months . i am in my second year of college this year and am terrified . i am pregnant with my ex. bf child . i have a bf of my own we dated for 6 months and were on a break when this happened. i attempted to call my ex. bf but his gf called me a liar. my bf was pissed when he found out and really angry because my ex. bf is his best friend but forgave me . But my bf told me apparently my ex.bf is married to this girl for 2 months now she was pregnant and it turned out to be a tubal and due to emergency surgery may never have children.
2006-09-10 06:22:14 · 17 answers · asked by jackie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do not want to cause drama but feel he should now and my bf said he is not doing it for me. i was not aware my ex. bf was married!!!
2006-09-10 06:23:17 · update #1
his wife was away with her parents on vacation when this happened
2006-09-10 06:23:56 · update #2
i feel horrible
2006-09-10 06:26:48 · update #3
well you didn't help. . . sorry
2006-09-10 06:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I too am wondering why you were at the party without your boy friend and why you drank too much , drinking is no reason to end up in bed with your ex or anyone else for that matter it sounds like you may have been a little irresponsible in all matters and i am sure it did not help their marriage any and what is he doing having a one night stand after 2 months of marriage , it is a good thing he is your ex , so i think if anyone ruined the marriage it is him , because you did not know he was married , i also agree that a dna is in order that will solve any misconceptions , i also feel maybe you should check up on your current relationship , because obviously there is a problem somewhere or you would not have allowed yourself to go that far whether drinking or not .
2006-09-10 14:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by lilsis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovely.. this is why u dont put urself in these types of situations.. its one thing to drink and have a good time.. but dont drink to the point that ur so intoxicated that u end up sleeping with someone.. ur lucky it was someone u atleast knew.. No u didnt ruin his marriage he did, he cheated on her.. u didnt cheat on her.. hes the one that married not u.. but what a fine mess ur in now.. pg with the x bf baby that is married.. take it u havent told ur parents.. would hate to explain that one to mine.. Well all u can do is be the best mom u can be.. buTTTTTTTTTT are u positive that ur bf now couldnt be the father, i know u said ur on a break but did u have sex with him anytime in the same month that u did with the x bf??????? damn suddenly thinking we may see u on the next Maury Povich Show lol..
2006-09-10 13:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not here to judge you, so I'll just give you some advice.
If you want your ex boyfriend to really, seriously know that he is 100% the father, then inform him that he is and when the child is born get a DNA test immediately.
Then, him and his wife and your boyfriend will all know that the EX bf is the father of your child.
After that, it is up to you on what you're going to do. You and your boyfriend could raise the baby but how will you explain to your child who his/her father is? You're going to need help with that.
However, although you made a very bad choice and some mistakes.. I applaud you for not going out and getting an abortion just because you're pregnant with someone elses baby.
2006-09-10 13:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you sure you are pregnant that I hope you consider adoption, there are a lot of people who would love a child and can't have one. As far as your story of her not being able to have another child, that doesn't make sense as you even after a tubal ligation have another tube, there is nothing that you could have done to cause that! I think that if I was you I wouldn't drink you can't handle your liquor and as far as your x goes you were both wrong so except that and move on!
2006-09-10 13:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really care if you ruined the marriage? I would be more worried about your stress level. Stress is really hard on babies. Have you looked into adoption? I know a lot of people that would love to have a baby that isn't from a mother that is high or drunk for the whole pregnancy. I wouldn't let your ex have the child though. His wife might take out her hurt about his infidelity out on the child.
2006-09-10 13:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what can i say? YOU ARE A *****>>>HONESTLY YOU ARE>
however do consider the child and do not hurt him like other bitches do. It is not his fault that you had unprotected sex nor that you have the vagina in your hand. Keep the child in there till it is time and if you wish or need to then give him into adoption some normal happy marriages would grow him like their own. Sorry for the other 2 persons on the mess that were hurt by your stupidity.
2006-09-10 13:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm still trying to figure out ... , 1) why you weren't at the party with YOUR bf, 2) why you drank to excess, 3) why you are blaming yourself unreasonably, 4) why was your MARRIED ex-bf at the party ... major points, you have a bf, but you are not married, your ex-bf IS married, ... if anyone "ruined" their marriage it was him because he cheated on his wife of TWO months (well, ONE onth when he cheated!) ??? that guy is no prize, you should thank the Lord that he is your EX ... get off the blame bus .. it takes two and you were drunk ..chalk it up to stupidity on YOUR part and UNFAITHFULNESS on his. stop agonizing over it, your bf forgave you .. now you only have to decide what you plan to do about your baby .... you have no obligations to your ex ... he may have financial obligations to your child ... get your priorities in order ... and stop feeling guilty for his wife .. her medical issue was a fluke of nature, nothing to do with you, so stop trying to buy ownership of her loss
2006-09-10 13:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter to your ex boy friends wife and say:
I want to tell you that I am sorry for any pain that this may cause you, but I am pregnant and it is (the guys name) baby. We made a mistake, but now there is a baby involved and we must be adults about this. Please find it in your heart to forgive us. We must talk about the baby, please put in hard feelings aside and call me.
This way she will read it, and you are letting her know that it happened and it's not about tearing anyone apart but instead trying to find a positive way to deal with what has happened. GOOD LUCK
2006-09-10 13:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have but it's not your fault for telling the truth.But now that your pregnant what do you do now?Are you ready for a child?
2006-09-10 13:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a means to an end. But it's all a big mess
2006-09-10 13:23:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋