I made a terrible mistake of breaking conversation with an intimate question while trying to be funny. And now she's overt shy towards me and she doesnt respond to my messages anymore. By now she probably knows I have intimate feelings for her and maybe avoiding because she might have a boyfriend. But everytime I see here she just smiles when I try tohave a casual talk with her. I usually stutter when I talk to her at times and I think she kind a like the attention I'm giving her. What should I do to make the girl of my dreams mine? I'm so confused I wanted to start out as her friend then I blew it I think. I really like her all I can think about is her, I can't even go on a day without thinking about her. How can I make her answer my text messages again?
2006-09-10 06:09:39 · 7 answers · asked by vain_existence 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
send her flowers every now and then!
Don't listen to others who discourages you about it! Since you once blew it, then follow a new approach, think and make plans, watch Hitch, think of something and don't give up.
One more thing...because the circumstances r unusual so u need unusual measures, i don't recommend that you go right now and ask her and try to be frank and all this bullshit...I mean sincerity and straightforwarding is ok..but one thing at a time..
Good Luck man...
2006-09-10 22:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kalooka 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked how you can "make" the girl of your dream yours, but that is not possible. She will be yours if it is meant to be that way. If she does not like you then there is no way to make her yours. If I could make the boy of my dreams mine, id never be single ;)
OK, with that said I will offer some advice. You can sit there all day and wonder if she likes you or not, but the only way you are going to know is to tell/ask her. The next time you have the opportunity to talk to her (a relaxed setting ike a coffee shop or something) you just need to tell her the truth. You can say something along the lines of: "I'm sorry that way I said blah blah, I think I came off too forward or I miscommunicated what I wanted to say. But in that, I want to tell you that you do have my interest and I would like to know you better as a friend and see where that takes us." Being honest is the only way you are going to get an answer. This approach is not intimidating bc you are offering your friendship and an introduction to your personality.
Good Luck
2006-09-10 06:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't "make" her yours. What you can do is calm down a little. If you are stuttering when you talk to her, you are obviously nervous and probably making her feel nervous as well.
Just try to act casually around her and stop text messaging her. Whatever you are doing is not working, so pull back, take a break and think of a new approach.
2006-09-10 07:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by kp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with what Me said. The most important thing is not to alienate her. It can get very awkward when this situation happens, you have to try and make sure it doesn't. Just explain your feelings and move on. If she feels the same she will come around. Trying to force her into liking you, or giving her an ultimatum like "if you don't like me i can't be friends with you" etc, is a bad idea. Just let it flow. If it is meant to happen it will. Just be prepared that it might not.
2006-09-10 06:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Message a Sorry every three hours for a couple of days and then give a break for seven days. You will receive a message OK. BOL
2006-09-10 06:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by PG 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not much advice one can give a Moron..but since you asked...
It's obvious you're not ready for any relationship at any level with any other human much less of the opposite sex.
Therefore return to you closet and close the door. have your Mommie leave you meals just outside and a Bucket in which you can relieve yourself. Maintain this self-exile until Madonna comes to your house in person and says you can come out. O.K.? Got it? Do it!
2006-09-10 06:59:21 · answer #6 · answered by B'klyn Barracuda 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
well, you can't make her answer your message, and you can't make her like you. people want what they can't have, so i would say just get on with your life. if she does like you then it will happen when she is ready for it.
2006-09-10 08:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by searching4something 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋