I live with a composive lier,yes married to him. But he lies about the women he knows and meets. All of them knows me, but I'm not suppose to know them. He tell me they are just friends, but friends don't have sex with friends.
2006-09-10 06:06:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some men are wh*res, just like some women are.
2006-09-10 06:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by NickyO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a firm believer that everyone deserves a second chance. I am not saying that I understand or even condone what she did, but I think that if she and you both are willing to put the past behind you and work on your marriage you can make it work. Have you tried counseling? Sometimes just being able to sit down with a third party and talk about your differences you are able to find the love again. I know a lot of women cheat to fill an emotional or even physical void that is in their lives. Talk to her openly and honestly and find out how you can keep that void from returning. As for the hurt and trust, that will have to be earned back over time. Just remember to be honest with her and make sure she understands how you feel. However, if she is still seeing even one of these guys or is still seeking men out, I am sorry to say there is no way in Hell you can repair the damages that have been done. Best of luck...
2016-03-27 05:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they're stressed out. Sometimes they're unhappy with their relationship. Sometimes they have poor self esteem and having affairs makes them feel temporarily handsome and wanted. Sometimes they're seeking adventure or experimentation in sex that they don't feel comfortable asking their wife to try. Sometimes, they're just selfish jerks who can't think about anyone's happiness but their own. No matter what the root of the problem is, once they start, you can never trust them not to do it again, and the impact that it has on your relationship and your own self esteem may never go away, either.
As far as why they lie about it and try to cover it up, if you were having an affair, would you go out of your way to make it obvious or to tell your spouse? Maybe, but probably not unless you felt so guilty you couldn't live with yourself or you were going out of your way to be cruel. Besides, if you admit something like that, you're partner may not be "grateful" for your sudden honesty and might not forgive you, but they aren't hurt by your hiding it until they find out. So, while they're already being deceitful, it's only logical that they play the deceit out as long as they can. So, the lies just get bigger and more elaborate until they become a way of life.
Also, the fact that he does feel that he has to lie to you about his infidelities means he doesn't trust you and how you'll react. If he's honest with you and you are able for one reason or another to put up with his infidelity, that's one thing. But if he's not honest with you about his infidelities, then you're never going to be happy with each other, will never trust each other, and the two of you will just grow more and more bitter until there's nothing left of your relationship.
He's either going to have to come clean with you and stay clean, or your relationship is doomed whether you decide to end it now or try to stick it out.
2006-09-10 06:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why your husband is a compulsive liar and cheats on you all of the time is a different question than the general one, "why do men cheat".
Your husband is a mess. Why he does what he does is:
1. Because he can. He is getting away with it.
2. He has zero respect for you; as a person, as a wife.
3. He's a selfish pig.
2006-09-10 06:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They cheat on their wives because sometimes they feel they want different flavor of the night and that they can get away with it... They cover up their lies because they simply don't want you to learn about his cheating and then dump their cheating @$$ and simply because if they can't find someone to stick it to, they have a backup which meaning a wive at home... And they also know you can find someone better than them
2006-09-10 06:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE AWARE, that you know them ,better than you think,..he brings to the marriage bed ''all'' the women he has had sex with. any diseases, infections, that these women have, and also the ''other'' men they slept with...look 1-5 years down the road, is this the man you really want to be with, if so , your question is mute.
2006-09-10 06:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by 65MPH-HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People generally cheat on people because they are asswholes.
I think they cover up their lies becasue they don't want to admit to themselves or anyone else that they did anything wrong.
2006-09-10 06:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by horrorfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
قال مسؤول حكومي يمني إن رجال قبائل مسلحين خطفوا خمسة سياح فرنسيين في شرق البلاد. ويتعرض العديد من الأجانب في اليمن للخطف على يد قبائل تطالب بخدمات أفضل أو بالإفراج عن أقارب محتجزين ولكن قال مسؤول حكومي يمني إن رجال قبائل مسلحين خطفوا خمسة سياح فرنسيين في شرق البلاد. ويتعرض العديد من الأجانب في اليمن للخطف على يد قبائل تطالب بخدماتقال مسؤول حكومي يمني إن رجال قبائل مسلحين خطفوا خمسة سياح فرنسيين في شرق البلاد. ويتعرض العديد من الأجانب في اليمن للخطف على يد قبائل تطالب بخدمات أفضل أو بالإفراج عن أقارب محتجزين ولكن أفضل أو بالإفراج عن أقارب محتجزين ولكن
2006-09-10 06:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by dragor321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your guy is like that, could be a million reasons, but the thing here is this: he can only treat you that way if you let him. Leave the dirly lying rat!
2006-09-10 06:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me but i don't imply u to do the same. I really don't understand too if they spouse did exactly the same thing to them. My dear, be strong and courageous.
2006-09-10 06:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋