Why Judge?

Question

Why do people Judge people they have never meet in person, they judge them by what they read and hear.... Like people judge me because I'm 17 and have a 3 year old. Are you me? do You live my life? Do you go through everything I go through? No! so why judge? Why do people judge? Some one please tell me cause I dont understand, is it because people get joy out of it, or is it addictive, a habit? What is your reason for judging someone?

not a single mother.......

dont judge people I dont know....
Do judge people by there actions I see with my own eyes.

Answer 1

good to judge

Answer 2

It's easier to judge someone you don't know, than to look at your own problems. People are raised that way. Sounds like you are upset with your situation too. Things can only get better. I trully believe everything happens for a reason. So your child was suppose to be born 3 years ago. You can't let other people get to you. You have your life to live. I don't judge, I am not the one who has to live their life. I always say to each their own. But I was raised to judge what I didn't know. It took a lot of years of suffereing to see that it is our life to live not someone else's so who cares what people think. And I shouldn't judge someone I don't know. We are Americans. We think everyone's business is our business. We complain, we judge, and we eat. We are not perfect. No one is perfect, not even you. I know it bothers you that people do that. But it only bothers you, becasue you are bothered by your situation. I've been where you are right now. I am in my 30s and have 2 children. I know it's hard. But it's all for a reason. For what ever reason you brought this child into this world. ANd he will love you for it. Strangers can't make you feel what you don't already feel. IGnore it. What seems so bad really isn't and will get better. Best of luck. Take care.

Answer 3

I hear you girl. People judge me all the time because I got married when I was very young. I think it's when people make assumptions about your situation and just come to conclusions that you have a sad life because (in your case) your young with a child, or (in my case) I'm young with a husband. Ignore them. Even if you were doing things the way they would want you to do it, someone else would come around and talk about you. I know too well. People just have nothing better to do but put down others and make themselves feel superior, which they're not because in reality, we are all equal and different at the same time. We all deserve to be here and be loved and respected, yet we all have the choice to live how WE want to live, not how others want us to live. That is the beauty of free will.

Bless you, and don't worry about what people say! Just hold your head up high and be proud of who you are! =)

Answer 4

How else would one find balance & growth in their own life?

It raises our own capacity for learning about others, self-esteem and self-worth when we apply our own values system in determining what we might feel to be right and wrong.

I am 46 years old, with a small boy and girl. From the information you have given me, this is a first impression of you and would like to show you the following judgements or impressions that I feel about you:

1) You are asking good intelligent questions that I imagine a lot of girls in your circumstances ask.
2) You are very lucky to have a child so early because you will see your child grow, become an adult, make decisions, find answers and disappointments along the way. This will make you wise.
3) You have grown with your child.
4) You are beginning to understand the importance of an education and you already want somethig more for your own child than what you have.
5) You will enjoy more phyisical activity with your child than what I could with my own.

These are just a few of the things I can see from your questions.

You might ask those you judge you to see the silver lining in your life rather than trying to show you what they think are dismal choices you have taken. Usually a 13 year old girl has not made the choice to have a child, however, you have chosen your path and people should at least respect that choice rather than knocking it down.

People automatically judge on first, second, and sometimes on the third impressions of meeting you. It is very natural. You or someone you know may be sharing your personal details to early in new relationships or with new friends.

A tendency to slowly let people know less about your past needs to culminate into things that are more important into those areas of the future, such as those places you need to be in order to provide for yourself and your daughter.

Please remember that the rushing to judgements of others can affect the way we see ourselves and our own self worth.

Congratulationss on the great questions that we all can learn from! I know I did.

Answer 5

I judge everything that I experience to some extent.

There are two reasons why people Judge others. People try to find faults with other people because it make them feel more secure. I try very hard not to be like this. I feel very secure about myself already.

People also have the desire to predict the future. People make judgments about how people will act and behave in order to make decisions about how they should act around them.

Now, speaking about you, there are a lot of things that people have to go through in life. There are a lot of reasons why you make the decisions that you make, and I am unable to tell you what I would have done if I were in your situation because I'm not in that situation. I wish you the very best in whatever path you choose.

Answer 6

It's a natural thing that people do. You can not tell me that you have never judged somene. I'm sure you have an opinion of Paris Hilton and you've probably never met her.
Just holding judgements about people isn't wrong, it only becomes wrong when you wont allow yourself to get past your judgments.
Besides, I'm sure that there are a lot of people who look at you and see that you are raising your child well and just don't vocalize it. People are more likely to give a put down than a compliment.

Answer 7

Well, let's look at this objectively. You are currently judging all of those who judge you. So, why do you judge them when you don't even know them? Are you them? Do you know what they go through?

Judging is part of being a human being. Everyone judges everything, from what they like to eat to who they want to hang out with. If you didn't judge your friends, you'd hang out with pedophiles and other assorted rapists and the like. So "judging" isn't a bad thing. It's having poor judgment that is bad.

Don't jump to conclusions, and you should be fine. You had a child at 14. That's your business. It doesn't matter to me one way or the other. Now, if I watched you beat the snot out of your child in Walmart for laughing out loud, I'd judge you harshly for that.

We have a right to like what we like and dislike what we don't. The only way to determine that is to make judgments. If we are stupid, uninformed, or just plain mean, then we judge poorly. Otherwise, we judge in a normal, healthy fashion...

Answer 8

It is because people can't see somebody doing something stupid and shut up like nothing is happening, like seeing a fourteen year old girl having a date or having sex, they know she is going to get pregnant and be a single mother, and miss her best years,when still a child, sorry girl you can't scape this, and when your kid get to be 14 years old I'd like to see you not judging and by the way some people get their kicks out of it, while others want to help you, you need to know the difference

Answer 9

To a certain extent, judgmentalism is a necessary part of survival. One judges everything everyday - the quality of your coffee, the quality of a musician, the quality of a person. Now, unfortunately, people are too quick to judge the quality of a person. They use shorthand methods - for example, if a person smokes cigarettes, he or she must be a loser, or if a person is wealthy, he or she is probably very smart. Of course, it's not entirely accurate. There are people who a wealthy but are not very smart (as smart is normally understood). So why do people persist in judging despite its inaccuracy? Because, by and large, their judgments are correct. And every correct judgment confirms one's view of the world. This provides security to the judger, the the world is what he or she thinks it is.

Answer 10

People like to judge others because it makes them feel better about themselves but none of us are perfect. Just ignore it and get on with your life....It doesn't matter how old you are and how old you were when your child was born, its being a good parent that counts. My son was born when I was 14 also.....he's 28 years old now and I don't regret a thing. Be strong and ignore the negative comments.

Answer 11

In general I think we all have a preconceived idea about what is "ok" in our society. The moment we look at someone we place a judgement of some sort, like a girl who had a baby at 14, I would immediately feel for you and place a judgement that you have a long hard road ahead of you. The problem happens with judgement I think is when it may leave ones mind and heart and come out verbally making the other person feel insignificant or "wrong" Good luck with that baby!