How important are the first impressions?

Question

What are the first things that you notice? If you get the feeling he/she doesn't like you, how do you react?

Answer 1

The "impressions" one notices are colored by the nature or level of acceptance within oneself.

The first thing I notice is the level of a persons fear, capacity to maintain eye contact is a good indicator of this, as well as general body posture and alignment.

It never occurs to me that someone might not like me. If they react in some way that indicates they are fearful, or anxious in my presence I just chalk this up to issues within their MIND, and realize that acceptance of ones core energy often frightens those who are unable to embrace the core energy within themselves.

I ceased taking "responsibility" for others lack of acceptance some time ago.

Answer 2

It depends on the situation. For example, if you're looking for a job, first impressions are extremely important at the interview. When meeting people, however, first impressions may or may not be important. I think it takes time to get to know someone who may at first come across as quiet, withdrawn, overbearing, or loud and boisterous. Some of my best friends, when I first met them, I didn't particularly care for them. After I got to know them, and discovered things we had in common, my entire perception of them changed. Sometimes people are shy when you first meet them, and that's misinterpreted as aloofness. In social situations, I think one should look far beyond first impressions. I wrote a poem about that once:

"When meeting someone for the first time,
don't think of it as a danger --
Remember that some of your very best friends
Were first of all, a stranger."

Answer 3

The first impression is very important, but it can be changed later.
Usually we judge on the first impresion by prejudeice (witch is bad) and intuition (witch is good).You have to know to tell them appart.

First things i look at is the clothing style and they eyes.The clothing is AT TIMES a reflection of personality and the eyes are a gateway to the soul.Many times i learned alot of a person from the first crossed Eyes experience.

If a person doesen like you, it may be uncompatibility or just a fact that you should deal with.We shouldent expect to be liked by everyone.It should not affect you that much.

Answer 4

First impression is important to determine where I should stand or how I should react. The very first thing I notice is the way she responds or gestures to my, for example, enquiry. If I feel she doesn't like me, I'd walk away. If I feel offended by how she responded -- like she seemed rude to me -- I would react the same way but as much as possible not to seem as if I caused her to react in such a rude manner. As much as possible, I would make myself feel not deserving such a negative response; UNLESS if I feel that it is possible my enquiry could receive a negative response then I think I'd rather apologize before I walk away... like, "Oops! I'm sorry."

Answer 5

i think first impressions are very important. it tells you how a person really acts.but say normally you are a really outgoing person, but you get shy around new people, thats ok. just let some one know what an outgoing personality you have next time you meet them. but always be yourself.

about the part of some one not likeing you, thats their problem. you shouldnt have to put on an act to impress some one. if they dont like who you are then the problem is with them, not you.

Answer 6

First impressions are kind of hard to ignore! If I feel like someone doesn't like me than I don't go out of my way to try to change it because they are going to think whatever they want and take me at face value until they really know me and then their opinion might change about me and then again, it might not.

My reaction is indifference because I am out to impress no one and this keeps the stress down in my life!

Answer 7

i used to think first impressions meant everything. but when i opened my business and started hiring, i found out different. everyone is on their best behavior when they first meet someone. after a specific amount of time goes by, their true colors show. so to me first impressions don't mean much in any situation.

Answer 8

when you meet someone the first thing they notice is how your dressed. if your dressed in something nice like a good suit of dress they are going to think you are a good person, well paid, smart but you could be the smartest or richest person in the world and your wearing something sloppy like baggy paints and a worn out t-shirt they are going to think your a poor person, a slob, lazy, an idiot, ect...
if they don't like you big deal, it's there loose, just ignore it and finish the conversation then go on your way.

Answer 9

I agree with Wise. My friend, whom I communicate with in some form everyday, be it text, email or conversation, I couldnt STAND when we first met through a mutual friend. Now, I dont know what I would do without her some days. She is closer to me and knows way more about me than the person I claim as my "best friend". So first inpressions can be misleading.

Answer 10

In my experience, its fundamental, so always remember that there’s no second chance to make a first impression