I have been with my first love for over 15 years, married for 8. We are still currently married however due to miscommunications we both chose to date other people. We are both now in serious relationships, as soon as he gets back from Iraq we are planning to divorce, I am now 5 monthes pregnant with my boyfriend of almost 3 years and I am feeling so confused. I cant stop thinking of my husband. I miss him terribly. I know he is happy with his GF and it kills me that she took my place. I listen to sad songs and go through old pictures and memories in my mind. He was a good man to me and my 1st love my first for everything. We grew up together. I dont want to get a divorce now. i want him back even though I am pregnant with another mans child. The other man treats me like a queen. what is going on????
2006-09-10 05:49:00 · 9 answers · asked by Butterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your first love will always be your first love.But even thru those years you couldn't get past miscommunications then it was not meant to be. stop listening to sad songs, and don't linger on memories and pictures but treasure them as something that was past. You are lucky you have a new man who treats you well.concentrate on that .you might loose a diamond looking for a rock.
2006-09-10 06:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by magnolia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're stuck.
First of all, when the two of you were having problems you should've communicated. Lack of communication skills often leads to divorce.
You allowed him to date other people and you did the same. If you weren't pregnant with a great mans baby, I would say talk to your 'first love' about regaining trust and getting back into a relationship instead of divorcing.
But, now you have to think about your childs well-being. Your hormones are rising and it could just be the hormones that are causing this emotional state. Also, how can you possibly tell a man that treats you like a queen and has impregnated you that you want to go back to your husband?
Are you really ready to hurt someone else?
Also, if your husband moved on and sees you moved on ('cause your pregnant) he is obviously serious about the divorce and is ready for a new start.
2006-09-10 05:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell you husband that you love him...if he listens and takes you back, even with the baby, then you are soulmates. I hope it works out for you. My heart goes out to you that you have lost someone after 15 years but sometimes we do things without quite knowing why. I hope that he feels the same. It would be a very happy outcome.
2006-09-10 06:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by applecheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did it all backwards thats whats wrong...how could you start another serious relationship without any closure from the previous one? Your still married for Gods sake. And now your pregnant? Get on with your life, you made your bed now you have to lay in it.
2006-09-10 06:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, calm down... unfortunately for you, you have gotten pregnant with your boyfriend's child. however, you have to follow your heart and try to explain to your husband that you really like him. i know it might be difficult but its bettter to do it now then questioning yourself what if everyday. tell your husband about your child and try explaing your boyfriend about your feelings toward your husband. and try not listening to sad songs, it gets you down and its not good for your child. i hope you can work this out but as i see it, it is a huge situation... good luck...
2006-09-10 05:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by eugina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Miiz Nena.
2006-09-13 07:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by gjmite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a kid so please dont take this too seriously...but i think you should tell him how you feel...and even if he doesnt feel that way it might help get it off your chest...and you are in a very...hard...position...i wish i could help more but i really dont know what to say...good luck...
2006-09-10 05:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart.
2006-09-10 05:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-09-10 06:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋