when do you know its time to let go and move on?

Question

i know when you get a gut feeling about getting married you should wait,but i still want to marry and be with this person,but i still get this feeling that i shouldn't and somethings telling me not to trust him,when do you know its time to let go and move on?

Answer 1

sounds like its time to let go and move on. Its better to do it now instead of after you are married. Good luck

Answer 2

Hey nyc,

Getting the jitters before the big day is one thing. Not trusting your partner is quite another. From what you say, you're not sure about this guy, because you're not sure whether to trust him.

Look back at your life. How many times have your intuitions turned out right, how many times did these gut feelings work out? If it's more than a few times, I suggest you reconsider, what you feel may be true.

And if your instincts about people are usually way off, then look at how you feel when you're about to take up a challenge or do something new. If you're jittery and try to find excuses and a way out, then it could be that you're trying to do the same here.

Look back, find out which end you're standing in. And then decide.

Answer 3

Unless you believe in magic, getting married may not bring the results that would change your feelings of doubt and mistrust. If marriage is a result of feelings of the heart, so too, should you follow your intellectual instincts. If more time doesn't bring about improvement or resolve, then you may very well be ready to move on. You could be faced with regrets for spending so much time that could otherwise have been devoted to a new, meaningful, and rewarding relationship.

But only you know the answer . . .

Answer 4

Same thing happened to me. I went ahead and married the guy against that "gut feeling". I was married 4 years, 4 months and 4 days and it was a living Hell. From that point on, I learned a very good lesson.....go with the gut!!! Don't do it, sweetie, for you will certainly pay a very high price!!!

Answer 5

If something is telling you not to trust him, you already don't trust him.

You have two choices: 1)move on, 2)go into therapy to find out what is at the core of the distrust. Both of these are valid responses.

But now look at your heart: don't you want an engagement and wedding free of serious relationship councilling?

Speak the answer to yourself. Say it out loud.

You know now. Nothing comes along to make the decision - to implement what you know - any easier. Life is tough. Good luck with it.

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Answer 6

Follow your heart if something is telling you to be cautious then there is a reason for it. If you want to hang around feel the situation out to make sure that its just not pre-wedding jitters than do that but what ever you do don't marry just yet.

Answer 7

If you think your ready to love this man, then put your trust in him. Sometimes its best to think it over. Sure you may have a gut feeling about getting married, but try to give it some time. You'll never know when you'll fall in love with this person. Marraige is a fragile thing.

Answer 8

You know it's time to move on when you aren't completely sure about this person and you can't trust them.
Because if something is telling you not to trust him, there's probably a good reason for that.

Answer 9

Always follow your instincts. There may be something going on that you won't find out about until it's too late. Better to be safe than sorry. If you don't feel right about it let go and move on.

Answer 10

Its whenever you are ready. No one can tell you when its time. If you really want to be with this guy then go for it. Life is too short, you never know whats going to happen. good luck!