This guy im going out with isnt treat'n me right and i know and so does everyone else that i should break up with him, but i just cant do it, i love him, and i dont think theres gonna be another guy like him, *is fighting back tears* even my mom says shes not gonna alow me to date him. its just that hes been blowing me off alot and stuff, and flirting with some other girls including my friend. so help! please! i dont wanna let him go, but i know i must, *is crying* please, someone help me just let him go........
2006-09-10 05:12:01 · 14 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The best thing you can do is rely on the friends and family whoa re supporting you now. If you stay with him and want to break-up later your friends and family may not be so supportive. It's going to suck for a while but make a clean break (don't call, email, IM, NOTHING!) so you can give yourself time to get over him. Enjoy being single for a while and hanging out with friends you may not have spent much time with since you've been with him. And in a few months you'll realize that he wasn't worth the hurt or else you wouldn't be considering breaking up with him. There is always someone better out there and someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Maybe it was this guy at one point and it's not anymore, life is too short to just settle so get the hard part (actually ending it) over with so you can move on to better things. Good luck!
2006-09-10 05:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Beccawho 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a guy doesn't treat you well and is flirting with others, etc, he's not showing you the respect and the caring you deserve. Obviously you're a kind-hearted soul who needs to be treated with respect and love. You need to recognize that this guy is not gonna be the one and know that somewhere out there is a guy who will love you, respect you, and treat you well. Sure, it'll hurt for a couple weeks now to say goodbye to the hopes you had for this fellow, but in the long run, it's better than hurting everytime you see him flirting with others and in knowing you've disappointed your friends and family as well as yourself by staying with this guy. Drop him like a hot potato and find some great guy to love and who will love you.
2006-09-10 12:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sue B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me you will be happier when you do. You are sad right now because he is what you know and what is safe for you. It's not so bad being alone for a little while to get yourself together and really think about what you deserve. Which is a lot better than what he is giving you. How can you love him fully if you are not loving yourself completely? If he loved you as you feel he does then he would not disrespect you with "flirting" with other girls. You deserve better and someone who cares about making you happy.Turn your back and don't look back. For no reason, no excuses. Stay strong!
2006-09-10 12:22:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its not easy to let go because you love him, but my question to you is: why do you love him? He doesn't act like he loves you if he acts that way. You don't mistreat the one's you love. You have to tell yourself that you deserve better. You need to have enough confidence in yourself and let him go. Get rid of the negativity and allow the positive to come in your life. It will take a while for you to heal, but you will. There are others out there that will love you and treat you the way you should be treated but you won't know that unless you let go of him...You'll be all right. Everyone sufferes a heartbreak from time to time. Maybe he'll realize what you're truly worth when he doesn't have you anymore. Good luck and hold your head up...
2006-09-10 12:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question here is why would you want to accept someone that treats you like crap and you know it? Is your self esteem that low? Don't you think it's time to wake up? If you enjoy crying and being depressed just to say you have a boyfriend,keep him.Is that enough help? Do what's right for your sake.
2006-09-10 12:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
life is full of hard decisions and if hes not treating you right you dont need to be with him. there is a guy out there better than him and you deserve that . i feel bad for you and i wish you luck be strong and let him go you will find someone who will treat you good and love you like you deserve to be loved i promise just give it time
2006-09-10 12:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you should just pray and just thank God for what you have. If it meant to be he will come around just don't show him that you are hurt by it and treat him with kindness but don't do as much as you would when you guys first started talking.
2006-09-10 12:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by cj05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah I know how you feel. But believe me, you'll find someone better. Why can't you let him go even if he treats you like crap? Sadly, you don't love yourself enough to see that you don't deserve to be treated that way. Learn to love yourself first.
2006-09-10 12:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by beetee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it. You will heal and amazingly you will find someone that was way better than him!! It might hurt to break it off with him but think of your future happiness when you are with a guy that treats you right!!
2006-09-10 12:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sweety, it won't get any better. Let him go, move on and I guarantee someone else will come along that will be better than him. Love is blind so you need to force yourself to see. Good luck.
2006-09-10 12:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋