I admire people who always seem to say the right thing at the right time, while I go around shocking myself…and others…by the things that come out of my mouth. I am like a person walking backward, watching the results of my actions rather than looking forward anticipating them. While the “stop and think first before you speak” answer is great , most of life involves impromptu responses. Can this be corrected, or is this just my personality, and must I live with it?
2006-09-10 04:49:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Referring to yourself as a "social retard" is one of those items that you should have thought about before you said it. Retard is a poor choice of words. Ignorant is the more appropriate word for your actions and the only thing that can help you with that is a simple lesson in manners.
2006-09-10 06:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Me 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋
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I admire people who always seem to say the right thing at the right time, while I go around shocking myself…and others…by the things that come out of my mouth. I am like a person walking backward, watching the results of my actions rather than looking forward anticipating them. While the “stop...
2015-08-24 05:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have ADD or ADHD? If so, the impulsiveness you describe is one of the symptoms. I also suffer from "social tactlessness" sometimes. It isn't meant to harm--it's just a kind of honesty that I have a hard time filtering.
Your best bet is to tell yourself that starting right now, you're going to approach every interaction DIFFERENTLY. You're going to act as if everyone you meet is new to you--and you'll focus on the other person. How? By asking tactful questions, and not talking about yourself, in the beginning. That reduces the chances of blurting out something you didn't want to say.
Trust me--most people are so happy to talk about themselves that they won't even notice if you contribute little. Remember--this is an exercise. Keep the attention on the other person until you can train yourself to think before you speak, and build up your confidence. Good luck!
2006-09-10 05:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This "think before you speak" can be easily corrected.
Include the people around in the "watch" list instead of just the situation alone.
When people are also keenly observed, you will easily and instantly judge correctly (without effort of separately thinking 'first' before speaking), whether they are in a state to understand what you would say about the situation, past present or of future !
2006-09-11 19:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always stop and think before I speak. But lately I end up just saying whatever I'm thinking anyway, because if I didnt I wouldnt have anything else to say. I used to always decide against saying anything. Have had negative results. Probably going back in shell
2006-09-10 05:28:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 00:56:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, I am also socially retarded, was home-schooled mostly and was usually sick so i missed out on vital growth, now im timid of people and inhibited in social situations
2015-01-26 10:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Johnathon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Is there some chance, you have allowed someone to hypnotize you? Something is bothering you below the surface and causing a mismatch in your reality structure. There is a simple solution for you in allowing yourself to drop the concern altogether, "So What, Duh," and walk away setting your mind on better stuff. To that end, with your mouth and with your heart, call out, "Oh, Lord Jesus, I need you! Have mercy on my troubled mind and set my mind on Your purpose and Your heart's desire, to know and appreciate, what You appreciate. Lord Jesus, Yes, just as I am, if you will."
2016-04-04 04:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can correct it. You are smart to notice it but most are not that fortunate. You have to do this exercise for 30 days and let me know what happened .. you get up and write in a small paper " I have intelligent conversations, I am pleasant, every one finds me interesting and fun.. " write it say it for 9 times and burn it outside... It has some thing to do with your subconscious communications.. to long to explain. Try it and it works. believe it works. I did it and I am the life of the party. People stay in line to speak to me. 30 days.. You can do it late night or early mornings.
2006-09-10 04:58:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! We can woik sum kina miracles by "Positive Mental Attitude". In other woids, stop shockin yersef! You've been around yersef long enuff ta 'know' yer 'old' sef. Now it's time ta start anew! It's perfectly obvious it's correctable. Merely recognize dat it has nuttin ta do wid yer personality. It has ta do wid yer thawt process. You know yersef betta dan anyone so show us you & quit hiddin behind the twit yer displayin. Tank you berry much! +2 Callin mysef am idiot max me loox like am an idimut, huh?!8-O I stay smart! ;-) [you-5!]:-|
2006-09-10 06:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-06-21 19:53:12 · answer #11 · answered by Effie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋