2006-09-10 04:36:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My girlfriend and I had the same problem with my teenage daughter when we first moved intogether. I told all of them to begin with that if the kids couldn't deal with it, I would not stay in the relationship. And my daughter realized that her nastiness was making ME unhappy! I thought at first that she was mad about me being gay, just turns out she had a bad experience with my ex's 2nd wife, and she was afraid of having another "wicked stepmother". I talked to her, and my lover talked to her, and we came to an understanding. My daughter knows now that if she has a problem with me lover, she can come to me without being worried that I will be angry at her. And I handle all of the discipline to keep the peace between them. If my gf has a problem with one of my kids, she defers to me before saying anything to my daughter. My son on the other hand worships her!!! I think that boy loves her more than he does his own father. Don't assume that the problem is because yall are gay, it could that they think she will love you more than them!
2006-09-10 07:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by Robin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really would have to give more detail to get a good answer.
Are they being hostile because you are in a parent role?
Are they wanting their original parents back together and taking it out on you?
You need to talk to their mother and see if there are some ground rules that can be set. Kids can destroy a relationship unless the adults take steps to work the problems out.
A friend of mine came to me with a problem like this and I tried to help her find resources on the net. You would be amazed how little there is out there about gay step parenting.
It's not completed yet, but I started a site specifically to fill that need.
http://gaystepparents.com/
Not much has been done with it yet, but you can register since the forums already work. At least when a few people get talking, there will be a support system available to talk about these types of problems.
2006-09-10 06:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 13:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to deal with it..
Tell your g/f that you are not going to tolerate rudeness and abuse from anyone...
She straightens the kids out or you will have to leave..
2006-09-10 04:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a 4 legged brat setter. Teach him to only bite when they whine.
Peace
2006-09-10 04:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by jewingengleman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on. they're kids, you're in their space, you're not their dad! Of course they're going to give you a hard time. if you care enough about mom, you'll find a way to change their minds about you.
2006-09-10 04:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sit down and have a serious talk with the kids and tell them exactly how you feel.tell them that they're hurting your feelings.an
d you just want to be they're friend.not they're enemy.
cinderellamirage
2006-09-10 06:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to hold them accountable to being respectful then work with her.
If she is enabling this - GET OUT -run - very fast...
2006-09-10 04:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by Timf4515 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Which is exactly why I wouldn't date someone with kids so that it wouldn't cause stress in our relationship.
2006-09-10 07:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There must be a reason they don't like you.
Kids have an instinct. They know who likes them and who doesn't.
2006-09-10 04:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋