Every since I was a child me and my mother never got along. I have always wanted a close mother daugther relationship but it never works. At times I find myself feeling as if I hate her, but I know that's not the right feeling to have. We fuss and fight everyday and I dont know what to do. She's so negative and it kills me, because she never gives me encouraging words of wisdom. Please help!
2006-09-10 04:05:05 · 8 answers · asked by Ultimate Diva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im between the age of 21- 25, my mother is 58. But she's this way with my older sister also who's 40.
2006-09-10 04:11:50 · update #1
I am 44 years old and still have a "delicate" relationship
with my mom. I am careful how I interact with her. Ever
since I was small, we have had many problems. When I
was a teenager, it was extremely turbulent. I was well-behaved
and it still didn't please her.
My suggestion to you is this: Be yourself. Let her be herself.
Try not to prematurely judge her. It is difficult, I know. My mom
is very negative, but remember this, enjoy the time you have
with her. Life is short. You said you wanted a close mother-
daughter relationship; you can have this. Just remember, it
may not be the ideal relationship you envision. People are not
perfect. Accept her for who she is. If you do this, perhaps,
she'll relax and you two can connect on a comfortable level.
Good Luck. I'm glad I discovered a way. Remember, this
is not an uncommon thing. Don't compare her to other moms.
As for the negativity, let her "vent". Help her make changes
to give her a more positive outlook. Not everyone is happy-
go-lucky all the time.
2006-09-10 04:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My moms the same way. Although I can talk to her... she never acts like she cares. It does hurt me, because I will see my mom on the phone with her friends talking and helping them with there problems, but then she cant give me the time of day to help me.... or even listen. I dont know what to tell you to do... because I havnt figured it out yet, although I find that talking to my aunt and my grandma (i am VERY close to both)helps me. If I were you I would find anouther family member, or a very close friend to get the words of wisdom from. Hope I have helped!
2006-09-10 11:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to give you the right info We need an age range for you. Not you exact age but within 3 years. And was you mom young when she had you? How many years are there between you and your mom?
2006-09-10 11:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation because of my decision to be in a relationship with my boyfriend. About an hour ago she told me that if he is the one I choose then I must leave her alone. She is not in close vecinity to me but everytime we speak we argue. The best advice I can give you is to love her from afar. Hell, I'm confused myself.
2006-09-10 13:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by CONFUSED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad. My mom won't even talk to me and my friend and her mom fight everyday about the smallest little things. I guess the best thing to do is ignore your mom's negative comments and focus on all the good things.
2006-09-10 11:26:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nora 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lizzie Borden, Adolf Hitler, Mick Jagger, Bill Clinton and Howard Dean they all had issues with Mom.
2006-09-10 11:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by B'klyn Barracuda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mother is the same. she never encouraged me in anything i wanted to do. i have just learned to f*ck all the negative people, be your own critic and live life how you want it. i know it's nice to get encouragement but that shouldn't stop you from doing what you want. all you need is motivation.
2006-09-10 11:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by *JC* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope i don't get on with my father also
2006-09-10 11:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋