Four years ago my then best friend & I got into an argument that caused us to part as friends. Following the incident, she seemed to make great effort in severing the friendships I formed with other people. She constantly talked about me &, according to some, spread very false rumors about me being pregnant & aborting the child. I'd laughed at it at the time, but when rumors of all sorts began to come, I became depressed. She never confronted me herself but I'd hear bits & pieces from 'whisperers' & mutual friends who asked me not to repeat.
This was in boarding school. Now we're both going to the same university & I've found out she's continued to do the same. I'm not as bothered by it, but it hurts tremendously. I'm considering confronting her but I'm not sure how much it would achieve. I have a feeling that she's trying to get to me and I'm a little worried that forcing an argument would mean 'giving in'.
How would you handle this? Your comments would be greatly appreciated.
2006-09-10 03:28:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She probably wants attention, and by spreading the rumors thats how she gets it. I wouldnt go up to her and say something, I would just agnore it and if somebody asked me if one of the rumors were true I would just say no (becuase it would be none of there busness anyway). Hope I have helped!
2006-09-10 03:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Chelly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of the Pied Piper story. I'm gonna tell ya!
There's this man that had a flute pipe, and he wanted to show his talents off by showing everyone that he had magic in his flute. So he played his pipe and all of the animals followed behind him as he marched down the street, but there was this one small Mouse that never did and he became confused. So he pondered and pondered as to why his magic failed him and in the end the truth was revealed that the Mouse could not hear.
The Moral of this story is that people in general can lead you to the water, but you don't have to drink it right? So if you hear of something that is not right, then it wouldn't matter if you didn't hear for the first time that got you so confused like the Pipe and the Mouse. Undertaking what is not heard ios the real answer to solve your problems.
2006-09-10 10:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation with an old friend of mine and I stop doing things about the rumors he keeps spreading my real friends are not interested in that kind of rumors and neither am I. anyway I am a lot more popular in school both with girls and friends than he is so it is not that much of a problem for me and unfortunately I cannot really help you so good luck with your final choice.
2006-09-10 10:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dreamcaster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confronted her and asked her what the hell is she doing???..but after doing it, and she still continue it, dont mind her..she maybe need lots of attentions from others...u know...lack of attentions...or maybe she has no friends to come with and she feel jealous to the people around you....just be yourself..and laugh out loud on those rumors and gossips...!!
2006-09-10 10:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by jO-An 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are bothered by it if your hurt by the rumors,Just ignore them(the rumors) never reply to any of them at all and just move on.Four years is a long time to carry a grudge don't you think?
2006-09-10 10:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would go up to here and say hey could you stop saying false rumors about me cause that's not cool. i didn't say any rumors about you so don't say any about me. that's what i would say.
2006-09-10 10:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would go upp too her and just talk with her...and ask her to put her in your shoes she prob wouldint like it at all soo she should stop the hateing and start the loving lol
2006-09-10 10:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How did you handle it at boarding school?
2006-09-10 11:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by blind_school 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋