Iv been with this guy called dean for 6 months, his mum made him leave me, we were engaged and i had a misscarrege liek 3days before he left me he didnt even get upset! he called me a liar! he keeps telling me he loves me and wants to be with me but he refusses untill next year and i dont know why! he keeps sayign he likes this girl and shes liek 14! and hes 26! i find it discusting but i cant walk away! i love him so much id do anything for him, hes been married before and they are in the middle of getting a devorce, he said hes depressed but on msn he was in the convasation with me and 2 my friends and this girll caled tina and started goign on about he had a hard on over her, when i freaked out got all depressed he said that he was joking around and that he want me! then a hour later he said he likes her! im confussed, he sent back all my stuff from his n one the shirts i gave him and now hes not talking to me but txts me saying he loves me and misses me all the time! whats he doin
2006-09-10 03:27:37 · 31 answers · asked by bunnyjaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he hurts you because you talk WAY too effen much
2006-09-10 03:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
From what i can gather this guy needs to sort things out in his life. ONe day he dumps you then he says he loves you then he changes his mind, then he texts saying he misses you.
You said he's going through a tough period and probably this is the reason why he looks so emotionally confused. But his behaviour and the mixed signals he sends are driving you mad as a result.
So, for his and your own sake i strongly suggest to take a break from each other. I know that you love him but it is clear that your presence isn't of any help and more important you're suffering because of this situation.
There's no way you can build a healthy relationship on this basis.
So try to stay away from him, do not answer his texts, or better change number ,make new friends, start a new life.I know it's gonna be hard at the beginning but it's so worth it. You'll feel born again. I know that cos i've been there too
I wish you the best of luck
2006-09-10 12:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by sid_blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can mean that simply he has no feelings for u because if he is 26 and in love with a 14 yr. old girl that is very repulsive!! Girl u need to leave him and move on if he says like he means it why would he listen to his mother? u need to lighten up girl because there are other men out there that may treat u right and make u fall for him. He is not the kind of guy for u because if he truly loves u he'll stick by u. don't stay there and do nothing just go and do what u have to do and just be who u are because simply if he was married and is getting a divorce then it shows that u shouldn't meddle with a married man u maybe hurt.
2006-09-10 10:41:34 · answer #3 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard hun, but you have to realise this guy really isnt into you. He usues you when he feels lonely and plays nasty mind games. He is 26 you say? He is acting like a 15 year old and liking 14 year olds really isnt a good sign, hes just doing whatever he can to hurt you. My guess is that hes using his mother as an excuse as to why he left you, at 26, your mother cant make you do anything. I think you already know that you need to give up on this guy and change your number and have nothing to do with him-you probably didnt want to hear that, but from what you've said its the best thing that you can do. You dont say how old you are but I feel that you are younger than he is and he obviously likes to dominate and play games with girls younger than him, so he can feel good about himself. It will take time but you WILL get over him and eventually you will find someone who treats you like you deserve to be treated. Good luck honey xx
2006-09-10 10:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CLASSIC PLAYER!!!
He doesn't love you or anyone,not even
himself deep down at the root of it,so he
cannot love anyone!!!
Let him go girl for your own mental health
and for your own sake period. If his Mom
doesn't like you,it most likely won't work
anyway,but he's not a nice guy from what you
describe in your message so be happy you can
get free from him. Many guys would love an
easy target like you to abuse and use and even
beat up on when they are bad guys to start with
so be happy to have your freedom from him!!!
You might believe that a guy is the whole world
or that yoy need a man to be happy,but thats
just your lack of love and confidence about
yourself. You need to realize that you used him
too because if not,you would have liked your
self enough to have stayed away from this guy
long before all this got started up!!!
Needy & clingy people with a low opinion of
themselves go for these kinds of people,and
these people know it because they don't like
who they are either,but they won't change -
either,unless they really want to change.
We can only feel good about who we are when
we realize that we don't need someone else to
make us feel like we matter and are worth some
thing!!!! You have to get on with your life and
find a way to be happy,because he won't help
you do it. Get a life,and learn to enjoy it!
Life is a gift,and it will be if you learn that!!!!!
2006-09-10 10:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sound of this its seems your boyfriend is very insecure. This could be caused by a number of things as bad previous relationships, as you said, therefore he seems to crave love from other women to fill this empty space inside him. The reason that he keeps clinging onto you is that of his worst fear, rejection. He obviously feels much pain from his divorce ending as he is very young. This pain will always stay with him and at this stage 'empty' love is projected onto every girl he meets. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and the reason he denies it is that he is too scared to fall into a proper realationship again without feeling hurt. I suggest you to keep in touch but take it slow and take a long cooling off period so that you can asses your love for him. At the end of the day what i say could be wrong and its your descion to make. Good Luck.
2006-09-10 11:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats he doin???what are you doing? you are gettin messed up over a 26 year old creep who likes 14 year old girls..(paedo alert !.)..who doesnt care less for your problems and openly tells you he has a hard on for other girls...get a grip,phone your friends,go shopping buy new shoes and ice cream buy fave food and choc and have a girlie night in with mates. While they are there to cheer you on ...and comfort you after...call him and tell him to shag off as nicely as possible. You'll feel better,your mates will think youre the ultimate in 'girl power' and you will feel so proud that your self esteem will rise and you will eventually find a really nice non creepy boyfriend who treats you and others with respect. Good luck with it all x
2006-09-10 12:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is playing head games with you i am going through the same thing with my ex we where together for 5 years and he thinks he can just dump me and still stay in my life every time i am interested in some one else he comes around and says that he loves me and wants me back the best thing i can tell you is to move on with your life you will be a better person to just forget about him that is what i have done i hop this helps you
2006-09-10 10:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by pebblez3868 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW you wont listen but i had a man like this before. I finally got a way from him. IT was the best thing that ever happened to me. THERE are others out there trust me. YOU think you will never love again. BUT to me its was just sex with him. YOU Said the magic words when you lost your baby and he didnt even care. SHAME on him. I care, sorry that happened. HE is playing you. SOUNDs like he is a mommies boy too. please 4 me move on. BUILD your self esteem back up. HE has tore your self worth .
2006-09-10 10:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's being a potential paedophile. Walk away with dignity, he sounds dangerous. If he so much as *touches* the 14 year old, you go to the police.
2006-09-10 10:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by nert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ditch him quickly. The point is you are opening the door for him to behave like this towards you and he's enjoying making you suffer. You obviously have no self-confidence otherwise you wouldn't let him treat you as his personal doormat.
2006-09-10 10:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋