It bothers me... I had a brother who past away last November, His heart had enlarged.. well he was the only one who i could tell anything too.. I had learned from his friends that he had been having chestpains... and from his colledge that he had to keep moving or his leg would fall asleep.... I just don't understand why he never told me... he was found near the railroad tracks the morning after he went out with some friends cause he walked everywhere.. he just never made it home.... he died alone and in the cold... He was only 19, he would of been 20 last july... I just want to know if anyone else knows how I feel.... and that is anyone aware that our generation is dieing because of heart failiure... some one has to know...
2006-09-10 03:21:08 · 17 answers · asked by Roxy H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like to thank you guys who are being seriouse about this... so that means everyone but John B, cause he is being ignorant
2006-09-10 04:10:06 · update #1
My brother died from a brain aneurysm... I can't say I know how you feel because we all experience and cope with loss differently. But I can say that in time you "cope" a little better everyday. (Ironic is that as I sit hear answering this a song that makes me smile and cry reminding me of my brother started playing... "who you'd be today" by Kenny Chesney. )
I miss my brother so much... and I wish he could see where I am at and what I am doing in life. Share in the love with how the family is now... but he can only see it from a distance. but hey this is an answer for you... not about me...
There are many stages of grieving... My brother died in the eighties... gosh I can't remember the year I just remember it was Christmas. I can't tell you not to dwell or imagine what he went through because you will. I can't say get over it because you won't. I can say that you just have to live with it.
I will tell you to take a positive approach of finding happiness and live your life to the fullest and appreciate every second and moment you have with loved ones. Don't take many things for granted... don't waste a lot of time on arguing over nothing... every second spent in turmoil is one less spent laughing and smiling and saying I LOVE YOU. Don't dweel on what you don't have... appreciate the things you do and the oportunities presented to you... live every day. And share a smile and give a smile.
And don't put off saying everything you need to say to him now...
2006-09-10 03:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by lastepmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my brother last year from an aneurysm in his brain he was only 27 we were extremely close he was like my own child and best friend combined. Still to this day it hurts and i guess in a way im still in denial about him being gone.
It does seem like people are passing away at very young ages lately and its not only heart failure.There was a kid still in high school here in my area that dropped over while out with some friends eating who was said to have heart failure , there were other kids only being in their 20's haveing heart attacks caused from pills to give you energy. I really dont know whats going on with this generation why so many young adults are passing away but its scarey none the less.
Im so sorry for your loss but i can relate so your not alone.
2006-09-10 03:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by tess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother pasted away last November 20th, I think about him ever day and miss calling him just to talk. My brother was very ill for a long time and older than your brother but, A lose of a sibling hits right in your heart and it feels like a part of you also dies. His spirit is with you always. Take good care...
2006-09-10 03:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance lost his brother at a very young age, in the 80's, he has watched his niece and nephew grow up with out their dad and though the years has dulled the heartache of losing him I hear him say, "if Derril where here", so very many times it breaks my heart to know that a love for a brother was so strong that even death could not break that bond between them. You too will always have your memories of your brother, keep them and cherish them. Heart disease is a killer of all not just our elderly but for every man, woman and child in every walk of life at any age. Be strong and bless you
2006-09-10 03:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have. But first, my heart breaks for you. How sad!
My brother was a mentally handicapped person who also had epilepsy. They think he died from it. No one is sure. I hadn't seen him in many years because when i was a teenager, the "doctors" said it was too dangerous because he had tried to rape a nurse aide. So i the next time i saw him he was cold and laid out for us to see and say good by to.
I do know how you feel but it's been about 7 yrs now.
May God comfort you. Go easy on yourself.
Karen
2006-09-10 03:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by karen i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend died last year, he waspushed infrount of a speeding car, watched him die, then found out he was depressed and had aids and loads about him, i will never understand why he didnt tell me! :( i miss him so much he was my best friend ever and a great boyfriend! i know hwo you feel, i knew him 8 years before he died, now not a day gose by were i dont think i could fo stoped it he was only 15 :(
stay strong hunni he wouldnt want you to be upset
jaz x
2006-09-10 03:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by bunnyjaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your lost. I haven't lost a sibling, yet, thank god. But one of my closest girlfriends lost her sister last december. She was only 28 and was such a lively beautiful person. I know my friend and her younger brother(along with the whole family) are still struggling to get by everyday. It's a long hard journey, but just keep talking to your family and friends. i think that talking about your brother will help keep his wonderful memory alive.
Keep your chin up.
Hope this helps!! :)
2006-09-10 03:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am a EMT, and lost a brother @age 44 in a Motor vehicle crash.. I was in the Ambulance that transported him to ER. It was real hard for a while, but now its just hard. You will miss them forever..just try not to dwell on the empty-ness. We can survive.. thats what survivors do..sorry for your loss and best of luck..
2006-09-10 03:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by michael o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Roxy, I am terribly sorry for your loss. Those of us who (thank God) have never experienced this can never begin to imagine what you are going through. I am sure the pain will go away with time. You just have to be patient with yourself and remember the happy times you had together. I will be thinking of you.
2006-09-10 04:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jackie J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have it was hard for me to. my brother died in 2004 becuase my 16 teen year old cousin had mulested him he burned him with cigarets and made him fall down the stairs and he was only 2 years old ,and his was rolled to the back of his head so i called 911 and they came.it was my moms birthday to and she went out.
2006-09-10 03:30:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋