I cheated on a very special girl as it wasn't going well for a few months due to stress from both of us, we both knew there were problems but did not talk and we put on act in front of everyone. it was not planned and I let down my guard and got roped into a situation i could get out of, (my fault entirely not looking for sympathy!) I confessed that i cheated and talked in great depth , we finished but have started seeing each other as friends and are getting on as friends really well (the laughing, the fun, the pleaseure to be with is back!) I know i've betrayed her, lost her respect and that of her family who meant the world to me.
I know everybody says "once a cheat, always a cheat and you did it for a reason, but is this true and should i write this off entirely.
I care for but dont want to upset her.
has this worked for others and no i'm not generally a bad person, and could do without bitter girlfriends or wives with plenty to say.
I'm human, I have needs and feelings to
2006-09-10 03:20:15 · 13 answers · asked by Dale H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"Once a cheat always a cheat" is NOT true. I cheated on my partner and we worked through it. It took a long time to rebuild the trust. And we put a lot of work in to fixing things. Both of us realized that my cheating was a symptom of problems in the relationship and that we both played a part. However, we did end up breaking up several years later. I think there is a possibility of it working out for you, if you both really want it, both learn from your mistakes, and both learn how to communicate better and cope with stress in healthier ways. Everyone makes mistakes, and if you have learned from yours, and it sounds like you have, then I think you have a chance, as long as she can forgive you and regain her trust in you. I learned that cheating is not worth what it costs you and I have never cheated on anyone again ... and that was over 20 yrs ago. I will never cheat again. It is not worth it.
2006-09-10 03:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by some chick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 20:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Paulette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two answers to this. Firstly I must admit I have never seen a couple who split manage to work it out and get back together, and that's also from personal experience (3 attempts, all failed but we're still close friends).
Secondly - life's too short. Talk about it and if you both agree give it another go. You've already proven you can be friends after a betrayal, so why not? You may miss out on the perfect chance if you don't.
2006-09-10 03:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by nert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been there and done it before, i once cheated on a partner and amazily were still together but its not how it used to be. theres no trust between us at all, he hate it when im out for the simple fact he dont trust me anymore and i cant blamwe him really. without being contradictive an ex is an ex for a reason. even if she did forgive you the relationship would never be the same. she would most probably want to know where you were at all times and you would be constantly tryin to prove to her that you never going to do it again, and you could never be your true self speaking from experience. everyone makes mistakes its what makes us who we are.
2006-09-10 03:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can work. BUT only if you really want it to. Start out very,very, very slowly. And make sure you have got all the seeds sown that you need to. Make sure you are up for a commitment. If you cheat again you will loose more than you lost the first time.
2006-09-10 03:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-24 17:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Adan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because your asking this question , therefore you are not being genuine with her now .
Right off the possibility and let the future unfold you'll never get your old girlfriend back but you might find the changed person she now is may come to find you attractive .
2006-09-10 03:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going through the changes of life. Your normal and that's cool, but keep in mind that sooner or later we have to stand accountable for our actions and it is best to use your better judgement when making decisions and act accordingly...you'll go far that way! Be the better Man always and take care of number one that's you my friend.
2006-09-10 03:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is an ex for a reason, dont even think about going back, show some self respect
2006-09-10 03:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enotalone.com,try this site,it does help!
Friends is a great place to start or even to
keep things if it has to be like that. many
people don't even get that much from an
ex after they cheat.
Cheating happens,and so does forgiveness.
Maybe if she can be with another man for
awhile,she might understand how you felt
and also realize she still cares for you too?
2006-09-10 03:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋