my dad is depressed and often gets headaches,backaches etc what can I do to help him?

Question

He aches all over very often,suffers from depression,has high blood pressure and he drinks a lot of beer,which makes me even more worried...please help me..

Answer 1

Maybe one of these # can help.

HELP WITH MENTAL PROBLEMS
Mental Health Info Source 1-800-447-4474 Mental Health Resources and Information

National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY Mental Health Resources and Information

SUICIDE PREVENTION
Suicide & Crisis Hotline [phone] Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention

SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO
Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors
Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens
Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens

VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500
Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline
National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line
National Youth Crisis Hotline [phone] Youth Crisis Hotline

ALCOHOLISM AND DRUGS ADDICTION

Alcohol/Drug Abuse Hotline [phone] Information and Resources

Alcoholics Anonymous
Grand Central Station
P.O. Box 459
New York, N.Y. 10163
(212)-870-3400
http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org

Answer 2

Just Give Him His Tablets Tell Him Your Worried About Him Drinking And Then Make Him Not Have A Drink 4 Certain Dead Lines Like Not Drink For 1 Week Then 2 Etc... hope I Helped Babe Cause My Uncle's The Same And I Have To Sort My Cousin Out Lol Gd Luck! Tell Him To Take Some St. John Warts For The Depression There Only A Herb So They Cant Make You Feel Worse And You Can Take Other Tablets With Them Not Like And Other Anti-Depressant!

Answer 3

This is a tough question because my dad was very much that way. And most of the time you are powerless to do anything. In fact my Doctor told me "your dad will always be the way he is, it's you who will have to change". He went through counseling, to no avail, took anti-depressants which helped at times, drank, which never helped anything.
I would make an appointment with the family doctor, and privately have a talk with him. If nothing else, he can make you feel more at ease and give you suggestions on what would and wouldn't work in helping your dad.
Best wishes from someone who has been there.

Answer 4

First of all I believe your Dad should go to the doctor for a physical examination. The body will not heal itself very well in a state of depression.He possibly could have alot of inflammation in his back which requires strong anti-inflammatory meds to get rid of the inflammation.He possibility needs to be on anti- depressant medication too. His headaches could be a result of the elevated blood pressure along with drinking which, the blood pressure can be controlled with medications too. All things considered these things you stated don't get better unless they are treated by a good physician.

Answer 5

Depression? You can buy SAM-E or St. John's wort at the drugstore. Both work. Try the SAM-E first. It takes care of achy muscles AND depression.

High blood pressure? There's medication, but diet and exercise are the place to start.

Beer? That's bad. If he drinks a lot, nothing else will happen. Try going to a local al-anon and talk to other people whose parents and loved ones are alcoholics. Your father may be.

Answer 6

The beer is not OK because of the blood pressure problem. Just show your dad minor, daily acts of kindness such as making him a cup of tea, asking what he'd like for lunch. If he makes a habit of saying he doesn't want any lunch, just don't ask him but make him some lunch anyway and just call him saying "Dad! Lunch is ready!" Ask him to come out for walks with you in the fresh air. Don't tell him you are worried about him or say you are trying to help him as that might upset him and make him feel like a burden. Just tell him you like his company and would like him to come for a walk with you. Is there anything he used to like doing, or anything he's good at or knowledgeable about that you could ask his advice about? I think it would help your dad to feel useful again. Has he retired recently? I've heard that retirement can come as a shock to a man who's worked all his life, robbing him of a sense of structure and usefulness. It might do your dad the world of good to know that you still need him.

Answer 7

All kinds of ailments can come from depression, i.e. the back pain may be a result of the depression.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy can be effective in treating depression, success rate is about 50% I think so might want to look into that.

There's also a thing called the Hoffman Process, Google it find out more

Answer 8

Don't worry about the beer, that's okay.

Take him out places frequently before he becomes agoraphobic too. If you can get him to walk short distances and then longer ones, up to a half hour at a time, that would be excellent.The simple act of daily walking will cure his depression, clear his headaches, and lower his blood pressure.

But it will increase his appetite for beer, so tack on a stop at a olace to imbibe at the end of the walk, or bring a bottle or two along for him to have when the walk is over.

He'll be a happy camper in no time!

Answer 9

the beer just feeds the depression. High blood pressure is from worry. The pians all over are from "carring all the weight of these problems". You can't help him unless he wants help, and pride will make that even harder. Assure him of your love, and pray for understanding for him.

Answer 10

First talk to your dad about how you feel, then try to solve his problems, i would suggest ways to help him. My be he would benefit from a change in his life style with more exercise and better eating. Walk more and get fresh air try to reduce the beer = sugar intake as this may be why he is depressed and has headaches.

Join some clubs and socialise with other people who can help him and you. Speak to your local Doctor who may suggest other options try Internet better health or better living.

Good luck with it.