I had a falling out with my best friend recently and we havent spoken for a few months. We were like sisters although at times, she did take me for granted and let me down on a number of occassions. Imstuck in a situation now where her brother has just died and i feel the need to go to her. The problem is that my partner is telling me to stay away from her as she and her family have thrown some horrible insults and accusations towards him since the argument which has left him angry. Im torn between going to see my friend just to offer her my condolensces and sticking by what my partner is saying out of love and respect for him. Any one offer any advice??
2006-09-10 02:19:55 · 11 answers · asked by carolina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would go to her and console her. it sounds like she eally needs you, no matter what they said about her brother people say mean things when they are angry but ium sure thye still loved him. After this mess with the death is over keep your distance. you dont need a friend to take advantage of you. Within time you guys might make up.
2006-09-10 02:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello i feel that you should follow your gut instinct's,it's times like this when she will need you,we all no that when we are angry we say dreadful things about people and to those we love and care about,please let bygones be bygones (forgive and forget) try and put yourself in her shoe's,I'm sure that you would want her beside you as you were so close,your partner should respect your wishes on this,the insults that were thrown at him were probably meant to hurt you not him,please go and see your friend in her time of need and make up,as i seem to get the impression this what you want to do,i wish you well and good luck
2006-09-10 09:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by amber_xx66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just might be the ice breaker that you need to be close to your friend by offering your condolences. Remember sticks and stones will break your bones, but, names will never hurt. And even though they have said hurtful things about your partner, you have to be the bigger person right now. Good Luck.
2006-09-10 09:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you to do this will never steer you wrong.you cannot sit back with a desire to do something good for someone and let it sit,what decision you make when you are younger stick with you your entire life if you feel strongly that you should go then go,but understand that emotions aretrong during times like these and keep you lips in check,so you do not say anything you would regret.good luck in any decision you make i hope this is helpful
2006-09-10 09:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by robert d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is not the time to think of your feelings, she needs friends and she needs you. Comfort her and let her know you care. she just lost a brother.You do what you feel is right, not what your partner wants.In this situation he is wrong.
2006-09-10 09:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by need2knw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend really needs your help. I know that you are doing as your partner says out of loyalty and love but you really need to help your friend in her time of grief.If you have to do not tell your partner that you are going to talk to her.
2006-09-10 09:24:00 · answer #6 · answered by agrace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, anything that happened before will be meaningless. She needs you and go to her. If you go and she doesn't want to see you, then at least you know you tried and she knows that you cared enough to come.
Sounds to me like your partner might be jealous.
2006-09-10 09:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look into your heart, you will know the right answer.... do what feels right to you, it doesnt matter how horrible a person has been in the past, or how long you have known them, when one has died, it is polite and appropriate to offer condolences........do what feels right.
2006-09-10 09:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain about the demise.Your partner will understand
2006-09-10 09:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a beautiful letter about her brother, the past good times and tell het you wish her and her family the best through their difficult time.
2006-09-10 09:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋