Hi-
i'm not sure if i'm being over-sensitive or not, but i really need help with this situation.
Me and husband recently became friends with two couples, who have already been good friends from before. I'm having problems dealing with one of this couple. I liked them a lot until recently. They seem to be very pushy and always push my husband to drink more and my husband always fall for it. The wife in this couple always addresses any question to my husband even if i'm right there...My husband doesn't seem to find any problem with this and always acknowledge her. But that leaves me feeling ignored and left out from the conversation. The husband in this couple seems to be on a mission to make my husband a fond drinker. Now ofcourse leaving contact with them is not an option because my husband won't agree to it. Please help me as i'm losing sleep over it and cry almost everytime we see them.
I may just be acting over-sensitive, but please tell me how to handle this situation either way
2006-09-10 02:17:22 · 5 answers · asked by none 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First your husbands drinking is his choice. Temptation is not a crime. The mistake of drinking to much will always fit squarely on your husbands shoulders. As for being sensative you are probably right. They like your husband more then they like you. Is it right for that to bother you?
2006-09-10 02:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not quite sure what it is that's ailing you... the fact that you're being ignored or the fact that they are trying to make your husband an alcoholic. If it's the latter, then it seems to be more his problem, then we're looking at an unhealthy dose of peer pressure a la high school, If that's the case, you need to take a stand for yourself and talk to them, the couple. Be calm about it, for if you lose your composure, it will be on you. If it is simply that you hate being ignored, then have a drink with them, as stupid as that sounds. Be your own person, either way, don't succumb to any pressures your husband obviously has, but you'll need to nip this in the bud before the molhill indeed becomes a mountain.
2006-09-10 09:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation. My husband is clueless that this woman is coming on to him. She wipes his mouth at the dinner table and kisses him all the time. I am really hurt by this and it is very hard to just put it behind me. We have been married for 24 years so just walking away is not an option. I though I was married to my best friend it was horrible to have that myth shattered.
2006-09-10 09:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by blzabobb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be letting these folks know that their behavior is unappropriate and unrespectful as well. They should not be pushing your husband to drink so much and treating you as second choice. Tell that husband of your's to get his act right and stop treating you like second fiddle. Also,I'd be wondering why they are trying to get your hubby drunk. Something is not right and I'd be suspicious too.
2006-09-10 09:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell ur husband to limit his drinking cos u dont like him when he is too drunk to walk straight. also try and budge in whenever u think of something u might like to add, or just try and question ur hubby's answers or somethin that gets u talking, and i think that u might be just abit over sensitive but not that it really matters, seems u got it under control
2006-09-10 09:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋