i want to have sex with y boyfriend , but iam scared that if i hav sex wid him , it will jst ruin our relasshionship .. i love him alot , but what if after we have sex he will feel differently about me ? and also , how was your first experience of sex , like how ddi it start ?
2006-09-10 02:12:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
you must be certain of how you both feel. Don't just have sex because he is talking you into it. When you do have sex make sure he uses a condom. You should know when the time is right and not have to ask anyone it will just happen
2006-09-10 02:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by raymag3550 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would like to know. is how old you are. both physically and emotionally.
Sex. to me is making love. not just a poke in the body for pleasure. You should have enough respect for yourself. that it is something you can handle without guilt or question. Since I am a loss for your age. If you are under 16. and you know nothing about birth control. deseases that are carried from one to another that can really affect your life forever.even kill you. Never have unprotected sex. and worry big time. Are you ready to have a baby if something goes wrong. Making Love is what I call it. Loving someone means different things to different people. Real love comes when two concenting responsible adults make good desicions that are healthy and will not affect them in a negative way. Think about if you do have sex with him and in a week he drops you because the desire has been fullfilled. How crazy is that going to drive you. How hurt. , How angry. will you feel used.
You asked about my first time. I had what was called an intact hymen. I was naturally a virgin forever wihtout medical intervention.and a slight surgery. I was devirginized in a hospital.for the tissue into my vagina was thick and blocked anyone from coming in.
I had it removed and since I had been living with a boyfriend for 1 yr. and 21 . I was very anxous to make love to him. The first time it hurt. for it has to open and stretch your insides. After that is accomplished., if you relax .it is the best feeling if you are both gentle wth one another. Then the passion will come. and it will be electrically. amazing.
But remember what I said in the biginning. Don't jump in if you can;t swim in deep water yet.
I am 57 , married 2 times. i have run the gammit of victorian or easy. i have always loved making love. or great sex. but I have had a lot of experience with this topic. as my daughter is 30 and handicapped, and dealt with both my and her female issues. take care. and make sure you are ready...and not doing just to please him and making him love you more. wrong reason......... Happy a Happy Life. Pick the right guy. and have a great sex life too. star
2006-09-10 02:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by stardancer4949 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK sweetie a little bit of advice: If you need to ask this Question you are not ready. As someone else said you must be legal even with contraceptives you stand to end up pregnant and at least if your legal you'll be a little older and a little more ready to deal with a child. I was pressured Into sex for my first time and just did not enjoy it. I'm with my current guy 9 months and only recently started sleeping together and the sex is fabulous in comparison to everything gone before!! For a girl an orgasm is very emotionally connected. It'll feel right when it's meant to happen. Trust me when it's meant to happen it will. And for god sake if you really want to do it and go and do it please please be safe.
2006-09-14 00:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex untill you are certain that you want to!! maybe talk to your boyfriend tell him how you fell!! if he really loves you he will wait till your ready!! dont do anything without being on the pill or use a condom or both even!! can never be too carefull
The first time you have sex can hurt a bit cos the penis will break layer of skin called the hymen inside the vagina it only hurts for few mins and you may have a little bleeding!!
2006-09-10 21:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Xena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're sure you feel ok about doing it, because it's horrible to regret your first time or who it was with. My first boyfriend was a virgin too and desperate to lose it. We rushed into it, then he dumped me for another girl a few weeks later. I wish I'd waited til my 2nd boyfriend because he was a lot more caring and respectful. Don't do it if you're under 16 (in the UK). It's illegal and if your boyfriend is older he could get done for rape.
Make sure you know the lad really well and you have a stable relationship. Don't do it just because your boyfriend wants to, or because you are scared of him wanting to split up with you if you don't do it. It's your body and you have something very precious, make sure you share it with someone who will respect you for sharing it with them.
Condoms - don't do it without one. They can be a lifesaver because of STD's, and they also prevent pregnancy. Women who have sex without condoms are more likely to have problems later with smear tests etc. Also I'd go on the pill as well to make sure you are covered if the condom breaks. Would you and your boyfriend both be mature enough to deal with it if it went wrong and you got pregnant? No form of contraception is 100%, there's still a tiny tiny chance.
Make sure you feel really comfortable with each other and RELAX. Your first time will probably be a bit sore. I bled after the first time, I think most do, so if that happens don't worry its normal.
Sex can be very cool, it's amazing if you feel really deeply for someone because it can make you feel so much closer, but think about your decision.
2006-09-10 03:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give each other sexual satisfaction without actually having intercourse , this will allow each of you to learn the others body and become comfortable with it ,
only when you are both completely comfortable to lie naked together can you hope to enjoy intercourse as it should be enjoyed .
Take your time you can't suddenly decide you want to go handgliding and just buy a handglider and jump of a cliff , if you take this attitude you guarantee disaster .
2006-09-10 02:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you aren't yet ready to do the deed. Don't let it be like an obligation towards a relationship. Relax, it'll happen naturally-just use protection, the world is already over populated & most are infected with the HIV/AIDS dilema.
Ps. If it helps, Im still "pure" (25yrs) all guys I date turn out to be just morons.
2006-09-12 23:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Luvy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, it would probably ruin your relationship with him. He just wants some of your booty.
Wait til you get married. By then you'll know if it's right for both of you, then screw his brains out!
2006-09-13 04:55:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dont have sex unlesss if he hasnt had sex because with my first all he wanted was that and we did have a good relationship tooo but after i gave it up! its like where is he he juz left me for that!!! hes an ahole hah but naw if i was you id waitt!!!
2006-09-10 03:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by MeZziiKaN_MaMii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you are mature enough to be having sex? You cannot even spell correctly!
2006-09-14 00:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋