my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and have not been using any protection for the last 6 months.were not trying to get pregnant but i think its weird that it hasnt happened.has this happened to anyone else?should i be worried?
2006-09-10 02:03:49 · 22 answers · asked by stacey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
some couples are just more fertile than others,some people try for a couple of years before they have a baby,some have on split condom or a moment of pashion and hey presto bambino.if your worried see a doctor to put your mind at rest.otherwise k-sera sera.
2006-09-10 02:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by NICHOLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you 2 trying to do - an experiment? How could you have unprotected sex, without any intentions of getting pregnant - and then wonder why you haven't conceived?! that sounds to me like an experiment - you know, just checking if I can have babies! That's a very unfair and dangerous game you are playing.
Ok, it's possible for couples not to conceive for 6 or more months of unprotected sex. Depending on your age, if you are really trying to conceive, doctors can start fertilitry treatment if a woman has not conceived in 6, 12 or even 18 mths.
start to protect yourself against unplanned pregnancy and diseases!
2006-09-10 09:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sofia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the fact that you're not using protection when you know that that is what leads to pregnancy means that you ARE trying to get pregnant. There's really no gray area here - not preventing pregnancy is the same as trying to facilitate pregnancy. But please don't think I'm criticizing you - I found myself in the same boat and it took me a little bit to be honest with myself and take responsibility for my intentions. For me, I think I didn't want to admit I got pregnant "on purpose" because in my head that seemed like a stupid decision for someone like me to make (unmarried, been with the guy for a year, still waitressing instead of having a great 'career', and no savings in the bank). But honey, these are your decisions to make, and don't judge yourself or allow others to judge you!
I think you need to get off the fence. Talk to your boyfriend and agree on the fact that you are trying to conceive. Make your intentions clear to yourselves and the universe, and perhaps your body will follow suit. Maybe this sounds new-age, but we can't deny that our bodies and minds are connected. If your mind accepts that his is what it wants, perhaps the message will get through to your body. At the very least, it will relax you and put you in the right mindframe for when that test comes out positive.
Once you've done this and given it a few months, you'll also be more prepared to take other steps if you don't conceive, like seeing a doctor.
Is your problem weird? I don't believe it is. Some people (like me) get pregnant if you look at them funny, some people have to work at it. Trust me, whichever category you fall into, the grass looks greener on the other side. perhaps you should read up on ovulation, and how to figure out when you're ovulating. Generally, women can only get pregnant during a 48hour period, and that's within a week after your period. If you guys don't have sex during this time, it's not weird that you're not pregnant. alot of women I talk to don't like to have sex right after their periods, but get in the mood right before their periods, when ovulation is long over.
Even still, my best girlfriend is celebrating her 1 year anniversary tomorrow, and she and her husband haven't conceived yet. For the first few months, they did what you are doing, and left it up to chance. Then they tried to plan it. She was really upset when they decided to go see a doctor, but the tests all turned out fine, and they were sent home with the advice to just be patient, becuase every couple is different, and there's no one "normal".
Emily
26 Maine
2006-09-10 09:41:46 · answer #3 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird that it hasn't happened yet...maybe God is giving u a break but trust me if ur having unprotected sex u WILL get pregnant. My bf & I did it for about a yr & I thought something was wrong with me...but now I'm 6 weeks...
Yes u should be worried if u don't want to get pregnant. You should also be worried about STDs.
2006-09-10 11:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why oh why are you having unprotected sex if you do not want to get pregnant it is the most stupid thing to do. If you do get pregnant have you thought it out what you will do have an abortion which can muck you up mentally or keep the baby in an unstable atmosphere?
Some of your answers have suggested using condoms to prevent the transmission of sexual transmitted disease but I think it is to late to worry about that but please go to a family planning clinic or GP to get some form of birth control such as the pill or injection Please go it is important
2006-09-10 09:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by raymag3550 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband were together for longer and we never used protection. Are you guys on pills, especially him? His load would be thinner if he's on meds. Or drinking. Other than that, it'll happen eventually. You should start using birth control if you don't like to use condoms. since you're a monogomous couple that would be fine. I'd want to be more prepared financially and emotionally before I had kids, if I had it to do over again.
2006-09-10 09:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Exodus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not trying to get pregnant then why would you stop using protection. You're just asking for trouble. Just because it hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean it can't happen. What will you do then? Are you okay with getting pregnant if it happens? You should be worried that it will happen if you keep this up. You probably just not having sex on your ovuation days. You're just lucky so far.
2006-09-10 09:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, this happened to me too and I thought that I could not have children. So I decided that I wanted to have a child so I started to monitor, to see when I will ovulate. So I did and I got pregnant with my son...
Do not worry, if you want a baby then you should have sex during the time that your ovulating and that usually happens after you have your period...
2006-09-10 10:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 17 years and no baby. I was pregnant once about 4 years ago, but I had a miscarriage. I have Poly-cystic Ovary Syndrome is why I haven't had a baby, but you may or may not have a problem.
2006-09-10 09:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband and I had sex with no protection for eighteen months. I just got off the depo provera shot. It really messed my system up. It's perfectly normal--but I'd still go to your doctor and see what he/she says about it. I know how it is--not trying to get pregnant, but not caring if you do. If you do not want to get pregnant, I'd suggest that you do get on some form of birth control. Whatever you are trying/not trying to do. I say go to planned parenthood or your doctor and talk to them about that.
2006-09-10 09:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋