I have got a fella we have been together for 5 years, even though i love him i am not "in love with him" on the other hand there is this other lad who i get on really really well with and he has said he wants to be with me. he is the nicest lad ever and i know he wll never do me wrong where as my current fella has. The prob is i cant break up with my boyfriend, what should i do
2006-09-10 01:54:59 · 25 answers · asked by hottie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just to make something clear i have never cheated on my fella, the other prob is we all work at the same place
2006-09-10 22:33:16 · update #1
You need to think long and hard about this, if you dont love your boyfriend perhaps it would be better in the long run to call things off
2006-09-10 01:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by lizarddd 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Question 1 if you are not "In love".why are you with him,
Question 2 do you go out with the other guy while you was with your boyfriend?
Question 3 if you break up with your boyfriend and go out with the nice lad,In 5 years, will you do the same with that Guy????
Question 4 As you said "I Know he will never do me wrong where as my current fella has, Is he seeing somebody behind your back (LIKE YOU ARE DOING TO HIM)?
Thank hard before you do anything stupid..
2006-09-10 09:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not say u can't break up with ur current bf.maybe you are feeling this way because you've been with him for so long and feel some sort of obligation to him. but it is understandable that after five years of being with the same guy, you will start getting restless and want to meet others or try a different relationship. If you've stopped loving your current boyfriend then its only FAIR that u break up with him. do the both of you a favour by being honest.what is the point of being in a relationship that is not only lacking in honesty but love. Get out now.the longer you leave it, the harder it will be. Just make sure that in five years time you don't get bored of your new lover.
Remember the beginning of every relationship is fun exciting and full of flirtation, but towards the middle, things might fizzle out a little.you should know, you've been in one for 5 years!
2006-09-10 09:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by sUnSh!ne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are saying you are not in love with your man is because you are now comparing whether you realise it or not. 5 years is a long time to just ditch, especially if there's no cheating, abuse involved. try and work on it go out a lot more and tell you what that thing that got you together in the first place is still there you only need to take time and look for it. all the best
2006-09-10 09:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by malaika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's difficult but you MUST break up with the current boyfriend as soon as possible. You can't stay with him if you're not in love with him. It also sounds as though you're not in love with the other lad either. Can't you just devote some time to yourself? There's nothing wrong with being single, and it's far better to be on your own than waste time and emotions (and not just YOUR time and emotions) on men that you don't feel strongly about.
Dump the boyfriend but don't take up with the other one unless and until you feel sick with horror at the idea of him being with anyone else.
2006-09-10 09:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your fella that you don't fell the same about him no more and you want to break up with him just don't go with the other lad to you have finished with you fella
good luck i hope you get your new fella
2006-09-10 09:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....I hear where you are coming from and I have the t shirt!!!!
I loved my ex, but wasn't "in love" with him. We also have a child together so a little more complicated, and I was with him for 7 years. Plus we lived abroad, so many complications, but do you know what, I left him 2 years ago, admittedly into the arms of another guy, who sounds similar to the guy you like. I have to say, that relationship went very wrong....BUT....I am so happy now, I am really glad I split with my long term partner, he is a sweet guy, but not the guy for me to spend the rest of my life with, and I am now retraining, living a solid, uncomplicated life, and have met someone 4 months ago, who at the moment is making me soooo happy. So my advice to you, is to leave your current guy, try with the other guy you like, but more importantly build up your own self respect, so that you are in a happy space with or without someone....then if this other guy works out.....all the better.....
Loads of luck, but go for it, you are the one who has to make the move.....do it....you won't regret it in the long run.....x
2006-09-10 16:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by happyballerinagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u not in luv with ur current fella u need 2 let him go.bcoz u wasting ur time and his time ,time u culd have spend with the other one. u need to break up with him @ ur house, tell him how u feel about him and all the wrong he did 2 u and how u deserve and want more from a relationship and his not giving it 2 u and u have and need to let him go.
2006-09-10 09:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by nicest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you break up with your fella?....if you are not in love with him, then whats the point in staying with him? this other guys is giving you some attention, he's diverting you into thinking that maybe you'll be better off with him, go for it, dont hurt your boyfriend, tell him how you feel.....set yourself loose, that way, no one will get hurt
2006-09-10 09:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by shellysnapz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you break from your boyfriend?..do you have children together? you have some kind of obligation to him? if he has hurt you before as much as you say he has , why continue it? If you arent in love with him, why continue to string him along, in the long run you are only going to hurt yourself by doing so......let him go, if you like this other guy, go be with him, and give it a go, there is only one way to find out if its the right thing to do, and that is to do it.......
Maybe you arent suited to each other (you and your current boy), let him go, give each other the chance to truely be happy with another person......
2006-09-10 09:04:55 · answer #10 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋