I know that people are different, and some are very easy to open up. This kind of people tend to make friends with lots of people. But there are some who fear to open up to others for various reasons, what do you suggest the reasons are? If you meet such a person and hope to befriend him/her by opening up first, and you sense the reluctance to open up in this person. What do you think you'll do? Keep trying and be very patient or just give up and move on? Either choice you make, please tell me why? I'm interested in psychology AND your opinions and/or experiences. Thanks a lot for sharing in advance. No jokes, please.
2006-09-10 01:43:23 · 8 answers · asked by danielle s 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What if you learn something about me that get used against me later?
What if i told you a childhood fear in strictest confidence and you go blabbing it about so that everyone knows?
What if things just don't work out and this lurking fear exists, especially if we broke up acrimoniously?
Best play it safe and tell you just what you need.
2006-09-10 01:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 1⤋
I believe that the tendency in some people to be extroverted is ingrained.
It has to do with how the person was brought up in some cases.
At times the person may have had a negative environmental experience that they cannot shake.
This is truly a good psychological question.
I have had some psychological training at university level, yet I am a bit rusty right now.
I suggest you realize first which personality you are talking to first in order to determine whether a relationship of any type is worth pursuing. practice patience with all you meet, you will be better for it.
Just do not let a negative personality deceive, and reel you in to harm you. use discretion.
There are a lot of psychology texts out there that would give you more insight than I could at this point, but just take my opinion into account. I am sure you will get a lot of good answers on this one. I would like to see them too.
2006-09-10 02:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by theodore r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I can't answer without a little levity.
We are all in agreement that if we PRACTICE, we can do about anything. Many folks just don't get much 'opportunity' to PRACTICE making new aquaintences. Many of us have 'phobias' & 'issues'. YOU don't want jokes, I'M convinced that jokes are what keep me sane! I was buttphuqued at 11 and it's no joke but I MUST joke to open-up & freely say that it was 45 yrs ago & I have a 'frame of reference' & high 'reverence' for victims of abuse. It's said that abused people turn into abusers themselves. Fortunately, I've escaped the 'cycle', but my 'abrassive' personality has hindered my ability to win friends & influence people. It's necessary to share this bitter experience to 'validate' my answer to you. I can share 'annominously' here but would wait years to reveal such circumstances face to face. It can't be too difficult to recognize that each & every living soul has experienced, from one time or another, much more severe & tradgic situations which 'effect abilities' to interact. Mine was a 1 time incident. It isn't necessary to have a wild imagination to consider other incidents [like a kid being held captive for 8 years]! So considering the gross & diverse aspects of the human spirit, it should be perfectly obvious that the amount of patience, sharing & understanding cannot be arbitrarily manefest by your disallowance of a little levity or predetermined 'measured' effort. Your 'sense of reluctance' could merely be that YOU are a scurvy dog in the eyes of a subject. No jokes?= No answer for you! If I gotta splain it, you wouldn't understand! datz +2! :-{
2006-09-10 02:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who are used to the change that occurs when they get a new friend to visit them at home or see their home/family situation, and they want to avoid that happening again. Thus they feel they can never open up or make friends. Not good ones. Distant ones, but not close ones. So after a while, they just don't even try.
2006-09-10 02:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 13:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just very shy, just as some people are very outgoing.
Or they have been rejected many times before so they prophylactically reject and reject others before others reject them.
Most people who do this are very sensitive inside and usually good people imo.
I would try to be friends with them and try to gain their trust.
2006-09-10 01:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by iamlaura2006 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
mabey some people,like me, are afraid to open because of what others might think or say...mabey there afraid that if they open up it would be to the wrong people
2006-09-10 02:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by Z ten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some fear they might get hurt and shy too sometimes.
2006-09-10 01:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by janwiseusman 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋