my boyfriend has had quite a few past relationships, all his girlfriends were really good looking and i awlays think he might be compairing me to them. it pisses me off because i always think about it!
2006-09-10 01:26:54 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why? He's with you isn't he? they wouldn't be his ex's if he were with them now would he? Don't worry about it, all it means is he's been looking for that special person to spend his life with maybe he's found it in you.
If you don't stop harping on about it, you will become the next ex. Trust me he won't put up with it
2006-09-10 01:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no point being paranoid girl, you obviously lack a bit of self confidence or you wouldnt be so paranoid. Ask yourself this...do you ever compare him to ex boyfriends or other peoples boyfriends,etc? If you say no to this i honestly have to think that you are not being honest with yourself. We all do that even when we are chatting with our mates and stuff. I think tho the point is that if you are overly paranoid you will never have any happiness with him or anyone. You need to accept that life is not a stagnant pond and that people and the world around you change/changes all the time. You can never see whats coming around the corner so live happy and enjoy what you have today there are many different reasons that you may or may not have that tomorrow. Also maybe it would help you to talk to him,your friends and maybe even a counsellor to see where your insecurity comes from and if you understand it you will probably see things a bit differently,
work like you dont need money
love like youve never been hurt...and...
dance like no one is watching
Be happy :0)
2006-09-10 01:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, we should assess if your self-analysis is correct. 'Paranoid' literally is to be out of your mind. In Greek, 'para' means 'beside' or 'beyond', and 'noid' refers to 'noos' which refers to the mind. The noun 'paranoia' meanwhile refers in the last part to 'oeides' meaning 'like, such as' itself derived from 'eidos', a word meaning 'form' or 'shape'. So to be paranoid is to be out of your mind, suffereing paranoia however is to be 'such as beyond'. Therefore, captain James T Kirk of the Enterprise suffered paranoia, while fanatic Trekkies are paranoid. There is a slight but significant difference. You called yourself paranoid, but are you really beside yourself, out of your mind? In the last sentence of your analysis, you mention you always think about it. If you do think about it, and have a synchronical awareness that you thought about the same thing before, a paranoid state is highly unlikely. Unless of course you suffer from schizofrenia (lit. "splitting the mind") to such a degree that your boyfriend could not compare just one current girlfriend to a number of ex girlfriends. I hope this is not the case, especially when you are, as you say 'pissed off'. As my assesment of your autodiagnose already suffers from too many uncertainties, I shan't reply in another analysis based on extrapolation, but I do think that, on the basis what you yourself have established and what I have elaborated on, I can comfortably provide you with an advice. I'll mention it below, and I wish you a pleasant day.
Life is too short for thoughts to be wasted on worries.
2006-09-10 02:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by McAtterie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. He is with you right? so why be insecure about his "ex". They are "ex-girlfriends" for a reason. Maybe they are pretty but maybe thay have warts or something in the inside...Its not the physical qualities you have that matters to him...Its who you are as a person:) Go and give your man some loving...lol
2006-09-10 01:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only person who would be losing from this paranoia is you. know that if u can't trust him then its going to be tough for the relationship to work out. be open with him about it and tell him that sometimes it would be nice if he could reassure you. honesty needs to come from both ends. don't be too tough on him. if his exes are pretty it must mean he's got good taste and u must be just as gorgeous. give urself some credit too.
2006-09-10 01:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Monkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is with you, isn't he, and he doesn't have to be. Have confidence in that fact. Either talk it through with him or accept the fact he's your boyfriend, you've choose each other, he obviously fancies you at least!!
Remember, you can sit around worrying and eventually drive a stake in your relationship, I believe your worrying about something that is of no consequence.
2006-09-10 01:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by devilish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is not your boyfriend nor any of his ex-girlfriends, it is you and your lack of security. Somehow you need to learn to feel "comfortable in your own skin", to relax and learn to be more carefree. I have a friend who's totally like that and the men can't resist her.
2006-09-10 01:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry honey im in the same boat. my partner has had a fair few to many ex`s and i am always worrying about them. it plays on your mind like hell. you need to say to yourself he is with you and only you if he wanted to be with anyone else he would have walked by now. i know its easier to say than do and i know its hard honey but be strong and you can do it. if you need anymore help contact me pettit_laura@yahoo.co.uk all the best x
2006-09-10 02:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so get over it, im sure he isnt doing everything your saying he is, pull yourself together girl, and stop being so paranoid, you keep up this kinda behaviour and you will soon be an ex too, let me garauntee you of that, no man likes super psycho clingy girlfreinds, that accuses them of stuff every five seconds.
2006-09-10 01:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your insecurities that you need to overcome. Listen, I am an old man, and I say if your “boyfriend: has so many lovers, then you are just one in a long line
2006-09-10 01:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋