should I contant my wifes lovers wife?

Question

My wife is having an affair for 2 years. We are 1 month from the divorce being final. I just found the e-mail address to her lovers wife. Should i make contact with my wifes lovers wife?

She already knows. He doesn't live at home, he lives with my wife.

My wife said she is in love with this guy and his wife already knows a bout it and they cant afford a divorce. He has 3 kids and I have our six, My wife says she wants him to be apart of our kids lives. so, shouldn't I start to become apart of the new family?

I have never had contact with my wife's lover's wife. I think that learning more about HIM would be a benifit. I love my kids and want to protect them from this unfaithful MAN.

Answer 1

No...get over it and move along

Answer 2

I would. She probably has many concerns about your soon-to-be ex as well. Ask to meet with her and discuss the inevitable relationship between your children. I'm very sorry you're in this situation. It is always the kids who suffer the most. Also--I hope both of you are pursuing child support. Even if she can not afford a divorce, she won't need an attorney if she contacts her child support agency--if they're separated, she can get an Action to compel support. If those two cheaters want to 'play house' fine--but they better be supporting the children they abandoned! Good luck!!

Answer 3

You need to worry about yourself not the family affairs of your wifes lover .You say you're a month away from your divorce being final.Let go and get on with your life ..Start fresh.All the rest is his problems not yours.If your soon to be ex wife wants to get herself into that kind of situation so be it,that's her choice. Good Luck!

Answer 4

If u feel the need to.. id simply just email her, let her know who u are, and that u wish to talk to her, and if she doesnt mind for her to contact u back.. that way it lets her make the choice if she wants to discuss it or not..

Unfortunately unless u can prove ur kids would be in harms way around this man, theres not much u can do to keep them out of your kids lives.. and i think u know that, and i think u know the real reason is that ur hurt and ur angry and u just want the dirt, and u'd love more then anything to conquer and destroy if u can.. so please be honest with urself and not use ur kids as the excuse of why u feel the need to get the dirt..

Answer 5

Well let me tell you what I know from experience and not from being a cheater or from being cheated on ..But from being a child at the time my father was cheating on my mother..Don't get consumed in the revenge.It is devastating enough that it has happened..It has destroyed your life I'm sure.But for yrs.my mom would go sit out side the ladies house my dad was cheating with got into a fight with her and still to this day after being divorced she will drive by their house ..Cause now my dad and that women got married but I think my dad is now cheating on that women..And my mom wants to find out..I think the best thing to do is to deal with you and your wife's problems and move on..If he is married he will also get what is coming..I completing believe what goes around come around..And if you have children do your best to protect them from finding out or being involved in it as best you can.I'm now grown with kids of my own married for 13 yrs.But because of what I went through my whole life with my dads cheating I have trust issue..So be very careful on what you do with this whole situation....My dad cheated with many women for many yrs..Just be happy you found out and make the best decision that is right for you and your family..Hope this helped God Bless and I'll say a pray for you ..Cause I know this is tough..

Answer 6

In this case...no. This matter is now between your wife's lover and his wife. The only business u should be concerned about is between u and your own wife. As much as it might sound like a "good revenge", it's always better to take the high road and not stoop yourself down to their level.

So bottom line: operate from logic, not from emotions.

Answer 7

What is your intention in contacting her? Is it really the right thing to do to tell her that her husband is cheating.....and in an email? I think in most cases, a person has an instinct when their partner is cheating, and it is their business to take care of. Unless he has contracted a disease, I think you should not contact her. You won't be doing her any favors.....and since you don't know her, you have no idea what kind of person she is, how she will react, and whether or not this is something she is capable of dealing with....without more information about her, I would leave it alone.

Answer 8

Of course you should. You said she already knows and that he don't live with her. she is probrably devasted and going through this alone, and it might be easier for her to pull through this knowing that you are facing the same feelings as her.You 2 might find you have other things in common other than your wondering spouses.You might find happiness, while those other 2 buzzards cheat on eachother and won't have you two to run back to.But please, don't contact her just to piss her husband off, because she's the one who will suffer the most in this mess.

Answer 9

that not necessary she is already aware of it as you said just move on and take care of your kids and as for your wife well your better off do what you can to keep in good standing regardless of the problems you have had your kids are the more important thing now

Answer 10

Yeah if you feel like contacting her and bothering some people you could do that, what would you guys talk about, or would two of you want to get together for pay back, it's your decision...don't do stupid things.

Answer 11

If your wife's lovers wife found out first, would you want her to contact you. I say yes, you would want to know. Especially if it has been going on for two years.