I am 33 y.o. she is 27 and I met with her 1 year and half ago.
Since then we did lots of stuff to together, but she could not conquer of selfishness, of not caring really, instead she put herself a wall in front of the world, she is apathetic, rude and maipulative sometimes.
She do not want to have children, instead she loves animals like rabbits.
She seems that she cannot really live with and understand the other.
I cannot leave even with or without her. she do not attract me anymore but she is offering some support and I offer her also.
we both lived in quite unhappy families.
How would you read this?
2006-09-10 00:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by freemind ci 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't love her then I would leave .. but that is a decision you really need to make on your own. Maybe take the time to write the pros/cons of the relationship .. take the time to really think about it and then ultimately you can make the decision on your own. BTW, you can not use the basis of you both being in unhappy families - that isn't a reason to stay together.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-10 00:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you enable each other and there won't be any change until one of you stops. Support is nice to have but it can become a crutch too. Unhappy families are not uncommon these days, if you look around, there's actually more unhappiness than the other so don't use that as a reason for staying together, like I said, it's a crutch. You've got to find the strength to grow on your own then leave. Counseling sounds like a great idea for you both. Good luck.
2006-09-10 00:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give it a little more time, because even though you don't seem content with her, it does sound like there is love. Give a little more time, talk to her, see if you two can come to some agreements, or at least respectfully agree to disagree. The hardest thing to do in a relationship is talk about the things that we don't like, but it is absolutely necessary. If the two of you give it some real effort to make it work, and find that you still aren't happy, then you can decide to go your separate ways. I'd say 6-8 months. But keep in mind, I'm no professional.
2006-09-10 00:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe the way you describe her, listen to yourself...you are presenting her on a very low level...then ask yourself: Do I want to live with a person like this, remember I always think that no matter how bad our families were on the past, happy, drunk, or anything, you cannot follow the same path if you want to live happy, you can change things around so you and her don't have to live unhappy. if you even care for her talk to her bro...tell her how you feel, and at the same time think of the way you behave as well. Life is to short and precious to live unhappy, think about it .You have to be happy first to make others happy.Good luck bud!!
2006-09-10 00:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by John R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First you need to figure out what you want from a relationship. Do you want kids? What do you want from life? Does she give it to you? If not then it is time to move on. You may of had fun, but if you are ready to settle down and she is not then it is already over.
2006-09-10 00:32:45 · answer #5 · answered by csc1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt get any deeper into this one,it is obvious you are not a match for each other,I would definetly say to break up and find someone that is more compatible and meets your needs better-good luckl
2006-09-10 00:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you two arent even in love. its just the support u need, u feel sympathy for each other thats all. the truth always hurts, dude. good luck in finding someone you really love
2006-09-10 00:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by gweneth lynn paltfeir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man im sorry but do you really have to ask?
You dont even like her!!!! You shouldnt be with someone you dont like or respect. Talk to her about how you are feeling.
You will know in your heart what to do.
2006-09-10 00:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Susie Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man,you are hanging out with her for what, i don't understand, talk to her and exit the relation at the earliest, coz you and she also have a long life ahead of you,,,,,best of luck
2006-09-10 00:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by honestanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a "borderline" personality.
RUN, do not walk, to the nearest exit.
And look at www.bpd411.org
2006-09-10 00:30:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋