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Question

hello everyone its me again i just ask about trusting my husband thank yous for your advice. i really think about this sooo much it really bothers me i even think i have doubts about his love for me at times he shows me love but at times he acts like he does not care. i believe its my fault at times because i show him a lot of love i really spoil him i show him that he really means a lot to me and i have never denie anything to him. i always want to be with him. i really love him but i dont know whats wrong with him. he even tells me i am not used to soo much love and caring. how can i be strong and leave i have thought about it a lot of times. i have gotten to the extreme that when he goes out i think he might be with another one i dont know but i really dont trust him. i didnt wanted to travel to his country i was scared and i did for him i have done soo much for him and he does not appreciate it. but i do love him. how can i forget about him kill the love i have for him

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to spend less time on here and more time talking to him!

Answer 2

You will never kill the love, its something that time cures, the bottom line is, you deserve what you give and if your not getting that, then you need to find your own happiness. Even if it starts with going out with friends and enjoying yourself more, go pamper and spoil yourself and try not to let him disturb your thoughts. Its hard when youve put so much time and energy into him and received nothing, been there, done that but now im on my own, i am so much happier and healthier and honestly you wont know what to do until you make that first move, good luck

Answer 3

Hi there
firstly stop worrying If U wish to be urself happy!!
The problem here is that you have spoiled him soo much that he has forgotten to respect you in response,what do u think u should be doing?STOP SPOILING HIM AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
Secondly ,you both need to take a breaK like a holiday together on weekends both on your own.
You got to start socializing out,make friends go out partying shopping,etc Give him space and make start missing you on ur unavailability.
Let him go where he wishes to and don't stop him and you as well indulge urself in some activities of sports or hobbies of ur likes to keep u busy and ur mind as well.Stop questioning him!
Take up a job and work this wil keep u occupied.
Give him time to get to you becuz sometimes guys just want to have their space and their lifestyle for their old habits.It takes time to break break the old habits.Don't ask him too many questions regarding his going out or being with his friends.
When and where your not happy at dinner time sit together and tell him ur feelings politely and tell him when he is ready you would want to have a good time again with him.
I think this guys sounds like a westerner,so as ur not yet compatible with their way of living don't run into conclusions it just takes time to get to know and mend things rite.
Please Stop Spoiling him,let him do the things he wud do when he was a bachelor.
Get yourself busy ,work, socialize and make many friends males and females and live your life happily and stopp thinking too much about ur husband,you have done a good job by doing alot for him till now ,now give a job to do & make him think about U!!!

Answer 4

You are in a bit of a quandary.

Love is a difficult thing to understand, let alone, define.

Sometimes it gets one sided, as it seems to be in your situation.

It takes two to Tango, that much is a given.

Whenever love gets off balance, watch out, it's splitsville soon after.

You can break up and find later on in life that you still feel love for your husband, but by then, it's too late.

He may be taking you for granted, and that's a sorry thing to do knowing he can lose something special and never get it back again.

Movies have been made about all kinds of love stories, love lost and found, love never had or understood, love lost forever...I can go on and on, but you get what I mean by now.

A quote from "Gone with the Wind":

(Scarlet believes she really loves Rhett Butler, and says to him...

"But I do love you Rhett".

His answer:

"I guess we've been at cross purposes, Scarlet. That's your misfortune".

So you see, in life we have many love situations, and either love dies or it gets rejuvenated, but it will always require two working together.

Good luck! (Let your heart be your guide)

Answer 5

All I have to say is that you were stupid for marrying him and even worse to have a child with him. He is obviously a womanizer and I am sure that is what partially attracted you to him in the first place. I am sure that he had the charm and sewpt you off of your feet. I am sure that you had doubts when you two got married, but you brushed those off. Now you are stuck, in a very nontrusting relationship. You know that he has cheated on you but you won't come to terms with it. He is hiding things from you by putting passwords on things. Just go back home and be with your family. he will soon forget you, so you need to do the same.

Answer 6

did he have a green card b 4 u married him?
i know it's hard when u love someone but Please don't sacrifice common sense for love. if he's not returning your love then then maybe you need to think about moving on.
and he's not from this country they treat women different in different countries. but you need to ask yourself if this is the 'love' you want to get back after putting so much love into this relationship. you can't in my opinion just kill the love, it will hurt for a while but it won't kill you. my advice MOVE ON!!

Answer 7

how very sad you sound but i can not make you happy
i can say only truths as they seem to me from your words

i think that you have admiration and respect for your husband
but not REAL LOVE
i think you made a mistake to marry him --- and will not admit this to yourself --- so you try to love without success

you say you did not even want to go to his country !!!
so why marry and go ?????
i think you are " a stranger in a strange land " and not
a woman in love
my brazilian fiance came to u k happily to be with me
and i go happily to brazil to marry her there so she has her family at her wedding
then she leaves all --- happily --- to return to u k as my wife
because we " love each other " and NEED to be together
THIS IS REAL TRUE LOVE
her family is just a phone call or internet away haha

admit your feelings and act on them now please

love your husband --- or divource and go HOME

DO NOT run away or hide

FACE YOUR FEARS and deal with them
have a LIFE

best of luck sad lady

yours

the M. M.

Answer 8

Stop Kissing his A-- and do what makes you feel good the heck with him. You have to make you happy in order to make someone else happy. But if you feel something is not right go with your instinct. Most of those men have other women out there anyway.

Answer 9

It is nothing but your own insecurities that is making you to think in this way. see you both have your own individual life. i know you love him too much but that doesn't mean that you should not give him some space. usually men do not like to get loved too much by women. they need some space from their partner. if you try to catch him lose then his love will fly but if you try to catch him tight then his love will die. so don't let your insecurities to come between your relationship.

Answer 10

hello , very nice question . trusting you husband or boyfriend , is cannot be possible . true love and perfect relationship , i am not sure is existing .
love is the beautiful think people have but, is hard to give or to get .

Answer 11

The trouble is, you married a foreigner, they treat there women differently than we do. Move back home, close to family and friends, and get the support you need