He has been abusing his privelidges on the computer . Spending every breathing moment on Msn and Habbo hotel .
I finally found a cure .
Ive been obsessed by yahoo answers , now my son can't get near the PC , and he is telling me off , and trying to limit me to 45 minute sessions
What Sould I Tell Him
Am I wrong in feeling pleasure , at the expense of his distress
2006-09-09 23:16:06 · 31 answers · asked by kevin d 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no way my elsest is always on my case to let her on the pc my answer to that is when she can pay the bill and buy her own pc she can spend as mch time on it as she likes they gotta learn somehow that life aint easy best they do it at home saves them learning tough lessons in the real world. your house your pc your rules, they should do as u say not as u do. tough on them
2006-09-09 23:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, that's a little sadistic. Why are you arguing and competing with a child? Not very intelligent. Look, come up with a plan that will set proper boundaries for where your son can surf on the internet and for how long. Next, apologize for being an immature knucklehead about the whole thing, you'll need to keep those lines of communication open (hello he's a teenage boy). Remember, you're teaching him how to be a man, so don't jack it up by being a bad example. Finally, limit yourself to a specific time on the computer. Do what you need to, then live the rest of your life. Best wishes...
2006-09-09 23:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for children at this age to test boundaries, but he has no right to impose time limits on you - you are his father, not his son. You have a right to be on the pc - it's yours, not his (unless it was a gift to him, then it's his, and your only concern would be with his health and any effect on his schoolwork, other than actual internet usage).
You should just sit back and consider not whether you will impose boundaries on him but WHAT boundaries you will impose. I would suggest for a start that he is not allowed on the pc at all after 10pm by which time he should be in bed if he has school the next day. In addition he should show you that he's completed his homework BEFORE he's allowed on the pc. Further, you can get programs which allow you to limit his access. If he doesn't stick to the guidelines you set, change the passwords on the pc so he can't get access for say three weeks. Then let him back on the pc on condition he sticks to your guidelines. Try to be fair and reasonable though, he will have a sense of injustice as it is, without having genuine cause!
2006-09-10 01:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that a serious question?
Of course you are the parent and have first order in the house. He should be respectful of you. I was scared of my father when i was 14, but now I love him so much for being so strict!
Geez, what happened to good old-fashioned discipline. We all sit back and think about why the world is gettine worse and why the teachers refuse to teach nowadays. (i was a teacher but quit). It is because parent have quit being parents and have begun to be friends (not to say there can't be some friendship, but parenting should always be the priority).
Perhaps you should get rid of the computer or change the password and neither one of you get on it unless its work related. A 14 year old should not have much access to the internet, and actually you could get into trouble yourself with the law by allowing a 14 year old to use a computer like youare.
2006-09-09 23:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leasure activities on the net (msn, myspace, yahoo answers) should be limited but you cannot limit your child about this. he wouldn't listen. I know from myself. I've been in front of the computer for 10 hours straight every day since I was 13. BUT I'm not spending my time on msn. I'm doing researches and reading books, reviews, lesson courses. I'm even solving test online.
You should talk to your son about not spending his time on the net doing useless things. In the meantime, you should be an example for him, finding him fun homework websites, flash games with educational content. At least make him have foreign friends and encourage him to learn Spanish or German online or something.
2006-09-09 23:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by applejuice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the dad.. that is what you are supposed to do. You have a right to allow him a certain amount of time on the computer a day or week.. however you want it. You have the right and ability to be on the computer for how long you choose and when you choose. Its yours. Your not wrong but you need to set some guidlines for him... Set up an internet account that will only allow him on the internet for a certain amount of time every week. SBC Global... has a great one. Good Luck To you!
2006-09-09 23:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by ashley65@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your the adult and he is the child .. Needless to say he doesn't have the option of limiting you on the computer. I do believe that there is away of being far.. My son has his computer time daily and I do believe in family time. The computer shouldn't be the only thing in the household that everyone wants.
BTW - we have two computers in our house - and needless to say sadly my son is turning 9 years old next month - he is getting his own lap top (Parents own a computer store) but even with the three computers its still limited.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-09 23:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ive heard this before, your gonna have to share im afraid.
i too love yahoo answers and another good way to spend time on your pc is to create a blog in yahoo 360.
make up a roster together and between you work out a fair method of sharing the pc, put the roster next to pc so there can be no arguments x
2006-09-11 08:24:17 · answer #8 · answered by Girl From Mars 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahah thats hilarious. hes seeing whats its like now.
The computer can be addictive as you see I'm on at 5:20 am.
Just tell him that hes 14 and he should be out with his friends sometimes hanging out getting some sun or exercise or just having fun.
Says in a motherly tone "Now boys yall need to share the computer" haha.
Just make sure hes doing other things besides basing his whole life around the computer. Its perfectly normal for teens and others to chat with friends on aim, msn, yahoo or myspace etc. It doesnt mean hes a nerd. Cause most people are online chatting with friends at sometime in the day.
2006-09-09 23:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by sarah20xoxoyeps 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You need to be more assertive with your son, you are the parent, you make the rules. You need to tell him how it is without making a scene with him as this will only make things worse. Maybe make a compromise about times on the PC but you shouldn't really need to, he should respect your decision like an young adult. You are allowed to use the computer as much as you want as you paid for it and who pays the Internet charges I bet he don't, once he starts earning the money to contribute then he can buy his own.
2006-09-09 23:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who is in charge, you or your 14 years old
tell him to get a book
why don't say son lets go for a drive
you take him to the public library and say son I would like to introduce you to book now make yourself a card
so you can borrow books and also use the internet
(you see at the Library time is limited on the internet)
2006-09-09 23:21:56 · answer #11 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋