i did in 2002 and i still cry when i think of him.
what happened if you dont mind me asking, and do you still feel the same way i do and feel sad when you think of not having them to hug and tell you love them?
2006-09-09 20:45:16 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was thinking about my daughter today and it made me start feeling sad. She was 2 days old when she was taken off of the life support,the doctor fouled up really badly. He was trying to deliver a 9 lb.1.5 ounce baby naturally when he should had done the c-section like he had said he was going to do in the first place. All my previous babies had been a lot smaller.The doctor couldn't get her shoulder bones past my pelvis,he tried everything,even the vacuum suction. So he had already cut the umbilical cord and from what her dad had told me,he pushed her back in and ordered an emergency c-section. All I remember the staff doing was covering my face with a blue sheet because they had put me to sleep.Later I learned that she had lost all oxygen in that little bit of time and that was why she couldn't breathe on her own.All her bodily functions were gone and she was brain dead,specialist looked at her and said there was no help. The hard decision was deciding to take her off that life support. She was a perfectly healthy baby until that doctor screwed up.It was hard to accept that this beautiful healthy looking baby would not be coming home.That was in 1998. I had a son a year later. Then in 2005,I had another son and who did I see on the day they were taking me into the operating room but that same doctor,my heart starting beating real fast and the nurse said that my blood pressure had shot up real high. And the strangest thing that happen was that my son ended up weighting the same exact weight of his sister,down to the ounce. I guess the Lord works in mysterious ways,I can't explain it. But I cry too when I think about her.
2006-09-09 21:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by T.Mack 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not my own child but my niece, she was 6 months old and she would still be here if someone just paid attention and did not let an 32 inch tv fall on top of her and kill her. I cry when I think about that day. I pick up her little hat and her baby smell is out of it, I cry.
I cry b/c I know I will never see her. I cry b/c I wish If I knew the last time I saw her I would have not have told her mother I could not babysit. She was born Nov 3 2003 was made an Angel on May 22,2004. She was just starting to smile b/c she knew who you was. was starting to laugh all the time and making all of thoes baby noises.
Sorry for you loss I know what your feeling.
2006-09-09 21:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandson was killed in a car accident in 2003 , 9 days after he turned 16. We were extremely close and I had practically raised him. After the shock and disbelief, I went through a period of 'rage , screaming insults and promises of hating God forever' , then a period of crying and sobbing on a daily basis, then a 'ritualistic time
' where I set up areas like altars with his photos, little things that he liked, fresh flowers, candles etc. Then I made a website and put pictures and stories about him on it. I dream of him often. Right now I am in a period of 'quiet acceptance of something that I cannot change'. I did make my peace with God again and no longer blame him. I still ask 'why??'. I understand that I will move back and forth through these periods again. And that I will never forget him, I will never get over it, and that unless someone has experienced it they have NO IDEA of what unimaginable pain, despair and total feelings of helplessness that one goes through.
My advice is to allow yourself to go through these different stages. Don't listen to people who tell you to get over it, or that you have grieved enough. But also don't let it consume your life. Just because your child has gone to Heaven does not mean that you cannot still talk to him/her or that you cannot still tell them you love them. I have had some unexplained experiences since then and they have made me believe in the after-life.
I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.
2006-09-09 21:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by kar_summers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i have back in 1981 she was 22 years old when someone took her life. It was very hard and it took me a long time to get over it and even now once in awhile i feel that lonelyness. Especially when I see a mother and daughter together. I can tell you time heals all wounds but it takes timeeeeeeeeee! I miss her and always will but as long as she is in my heart and in my thoughts she is never really gone. It is only when you stop thinking about them that they are gone. Always remember the good times and the fun you had with them for that is all that counts. I hope this helps you somewhat God Bless
2006-09-09 21:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by trixieamorearyen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way.. and I can't get over it.. i miscarried twice .. I did not and can not share the same pain as you are going thru'.. but I can not get it out of my mind..
People might say.. that it was ment to happen and I am young and can conceive again..but
they don't know how painful it is untill one goes thru' it ..
and now I am having difficulty conceiving and there is always that fear that it might not end well..
But talking sure helps ..i am glad that you have come out and expressed ur feelings.. sharing sorrow reduces some burden but not all.
God bless!!
2006-09-09 21:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by pritz_9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have been there , i lost my only child , my son as he turned 21 to a car accident and there's not a day that goes by i don't think of him but i know in my heart he is happy with what i have done for him in his last resting place cus he is closet to his best friends in life and as i go to see him at his grave i still see all the love his friens give him , so that gives me pease in my heart
2006-09-09 23:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never experienced the loss of a child but you will probably feel that way for the rest of your life. It is natural and expected to feel sad whenever you rehash what happened.
2006-09-09 20:48:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes i lost a daughter in a car accident, i was not in the car...this was in 2002 also and i still think of her daily and have my moments unfortunately it will never change, no words of advice but life has to go on in remembrance of our lost children my thoughts are with you
2006-09-10 00:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by Paul I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes about 2 years ago a gal i was dating got pregnant had the baby put her up for adoption and i never met(found out it was a girl)the baby didn't think it would bother me but sometimes i catch my self thinking about her never told anyone about this oh well
2006-09-09 20:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by soldierof the 82ndAirborne 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I haven't, but my mums boyfriend lost a child to SIDS and now he can watch any movie where children cry
2006-09-09 20:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋