I find it that falling in love again and again is due to the lack of love in previous relation.?

Question

does it happen mostly to men only as I do, or girls/woman too fall into the love the same way again and again.
what is the reason ? does it change person to person.?

Answer 1

Yes, it is but to find the real love. try to walk into and you will stay in the relation.

Answer 2

Anybody can fall in love - but to make a life is very difficult like some start an Institution !

Love is an important thing in human life (animals do not care)

Love does not mean intercourse only - it has so many aspects
First think as a human being - think of others how they live or build their life - it is not easy or simple.

As day go ahead in life things should get better not worse.
Try to learn something new which you did not learned yet in this world - realise what is life - see other difficulties in practical life

Note: When you look at somebody - they are dressed well !!! It does not mean they are OK

Answer 3

It happens for both the same gender...some at a fast paced level and some slower.
Lack of love in previous relation contributes to falling in and out of love.
BUT THE QUESTION IS ....DID WE LOVE THE RIGHT PERSON?
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.



Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.



But after a few years of marriage or being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.



The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.



At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages or relationships breakdown. People blame their each other for their unhappiness and look outside their relationship/marraige for fulfillment.



Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.



But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage or relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):



THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE AND IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.



SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.



Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.



Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.



TRUE LOVE is indeed a "decision"... not just a feeling.

Answer 4

I think the whole problem is you are "falling". Instead of "falling" into love you should walk into it, knowing what you want, and being sure this is the person that give you want you want and vice versa. I think a lot of people take advantage of love and fail to give it the respect it deserves. You must first know and love yourself completely before you can honestly love someone else. So the next time you feel yourself "falling", pick yourself up and walk into it (if it is right) with your eyes WIDE open and I guarantee you will enjoy it and the person you are loving will to.

Good Luck :o)

Answer 5

Why would you think it was from a lack of love in other relationships? It has been my experience that it is only when we have truly loved someone that we are open to feel that way again. The more we fall in love the easier it is to fall in love again. I have also found that those who were hurt tend to put up walls preventing them from falling love. Love hurts, but loving another heals all wounds.

Answer 6

Yeah they do, again and again and again, until they learn not to rush into a relationship. That's the single biggest mistake people make. They take it too fast. And that's because they want acceptance, approval, a someone, anyone. It's common. Learn to like and respect yourself more, to say no over and over and over again, until someone truly appropriate comes along. And then it will really change and be the different kind of relationship you've been wanting to have. Thanks for asking, because I've been at this a long time, I keep saying no to many men who have come into my life, because I know they aren't right for me. And when the right one shows up, I will gladly say yes.

Answer 7

What do u mean by "the same way"? The way I look at it, love is love and it's a normal part of the human emotions, both for men and women alike. It is only when we don't learn from our past mistakes and do the same thing over and over again and getting the same results that we fail.

Answer 8

No its not because of lack of love its because of difference in love. Every love is different and its human nature to experience as many different loves(in this case) as it can. So, we fall in love again and again. Actually, we need to rethink our social system which defines our love lives and whether when we turn to another lover, are we really doing something wrong or are just being human.

Answer 9

it's not alling in love over and over...it's the fear of being alone. Most people jump from relationship to relationship for that fact alone. Just start thinking of how your life would look like if you were alone. The things you would wanna try...the kind of romance you would want to happen. We tend to cling to people as soon as we feel they like us.We turn , like, into love mentally. Which can lead to bad relationships. If we take a step back, and play hard to get...then you'll see the difference.

Answer 10

i think when a relationship is new it is always more exciting.with time u come to know of the weaknesses of ur partner.thats the time of test.how u cope up with the things that are not acceptable to u.in every relationship u have to constantly put in the effort to make it work.its not about falling in love,its about putting in that effort to make it last.everyone has too many options and its easiest thing to quit.once u r out of a relationship u r open to other relationships and the cycle goes on.