I have been seemingly singled out everywhere we go. I thought it was my personality, but I soon found out that it is possibly my own husband! Every new friend I meet, they really like me until the very next day after I introduce them to him! I prayed about it, and asked God for His help, and no matter what...He seems to be pointing back to my husband! I love him, so I don't know what to do about this! It seems like he is really married to me to ruin my life! People I never met come around me and glare for no aparent reason. My husband's friends all started out really liking me. As soon as they paid a little more attention to me than him, a few days later, they started giving me dirty looks behind his back! I'm at my wits end about this! I dare not tell him what all of my user names are online! Every site he finds out about...people go from liking me to hating me! Yet he always confesses his undying love to me! What do you think God would want me to do in this situation?
2006-09-09 19:59:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Biblically, you go to the person first, and speaking the truth in love ask them about it.
If they deny it - go to counseling or to church leaders - try counseling perhapsbecaause it is private - and he should go.
If he does not respond or you cannot get to the bottom of it with him - go to the Pastor, or decide if you can live with it or not.
That would be abuse or negligence by that point - but try the other options first.
I will pray for you.
2006-09-09 20:10:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definately confront him about these suspicions. Shining a light on deviant behavior usually ends it. If he doesn't fess up confront one of his friends that glare at you and ask what did I do?
Sounds like hubby got some security issues and some marital counseling probably in your future.
Remember to be faithful in all ways.
Some guys (especially insecure ones (super sensitive)) can pick up on even the slightest of dishonest or unfair behaviors even though its most probably unintentional.
Could be a signal or a vibe that you are not even aware of. If its no more than a pea under a stack of matresses, He may be a little princess.
So treat him like a little princess.
either that or he's got a "Sancha", but you would already have that feeling in the pit of your stomach. You would "know".
Be faithful!
BE FAITHFUL!
2006-09-09 20:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God helps those who help themselves.
I would start by finding out what your husband is saying about you behind your back to make these people change their tune about you. Maybe he's so insecure the only way he feels he can keep you is to make sure he ends all contact with others. By lowering your self confidence he makes you more dependant on the attention "only he will give you". Scary. Ask some of these people why they changed their opinion.
Or are you just paranoid?
2006-09-09 20:15:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tina R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 13:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by vanderbilt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ABSOLUTELY sure it's your husband?
If you are, look deep into his eyes, and calmly ask him if he was the one who did this. That's the direct approach.
Take a look into your history with him. What did you do to him? Did you offend him at all? If you did, calmly apologize. Give him a gift, even. If he really loves you, he would forgive you.
But sometimes, even after the storm, the damage is not so easily undone. Now that your friends have his hand off of them, it's time to rebuild your relationships with them.
I know, it's a tough job, but it has to be done.
2006-09-09 20:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by CuDoPa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your husband why is it that it seems after your friends meet him they seem not to want to come around after that? And ask him about his friends that seems to give you looks as you said, be up front and ASK him. If he loves you he will help you figure things out.
If he is the kind of man that wants YOU all to him self and will not change you have a problem and have to keep working with him to see it your way or go your own way.
If you go to church as you said you prayed on it talk to your Pasteur about it.
2006-09-09 20:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by LINDA THE LIONESS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God would want you to get some serious marital counseling, not just with your church pastor either. Someone who knows about personality disorders. He may be a control freak who controls your interactions with others through passive aggressive means. How well did you know him and his before you married? Did you do a background check?
On line user names? How many do you need...?
good luck, you need it.
2006-09-09 20:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by knewknickname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one that you need to seek out God about and do whatever it is that is in your heart to do. I would ask him what the deal is..you need to talk with him.(your hubby)
Do you love him enough to work this out?!..if you leave, can you live without him?
God will give you the direction that you need..only trust Him, do not lean to the arm of flesh..it will let you down every time...I will pray for you...peace and blessings.
2006-09-09 20:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Judah's voice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TheGirl1,
You sound like you want to be gullible when it comes to your husband. I've actually acted like you friends when I knew that the husband was cheating on his wife. I think that she might have gotten the same kind of looks from me.
But did you ask them? I think that you didn't ask them because you are afraid. Be strong.
2006-09-09 20:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband about it.
Ask one of the people who you feel comfortable enough with why they started treating you this way.
Maybe even see a marriage counselor.
But, DON'T start thinking about divorce. There are LOTS of things you can do before you reach that step.
2006-09-09 20:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋