When i'm around my boyfriend and his friends he won't even hold my hand. Then he tries to run away. Did he really mean yes when he said yes when he said he would go out with me? And what should I do?? I am so confused right now!!!! Answer quickly..
2006-09-09 19:50:39 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's never had a gf before and im 12 he's 14 and definatly not popular
2006-09-09 19:56:38 · update #1
yeah it's not that im a loser or anything and it's not that his friends dont like me cuz all his friends like me! ugh. that sux..
2006-09-09 20:15:20 · update #2
He was just shy...or he has been hurt before...
2006-09-09 19:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to use some tough love.
Tell him that from the way he behaves around his friends, he apparently does not think much of you and that you really don't want to, but you are going to start looking for a new boyfriend.
Wish him good luck in finding someone else, and walk away.
He either really cares about you, and this jolt will snap him to his senses or if it doesn't, you haven't lost anything as you have nothing on the other end and it is time to do exactly what you told him you were going to do.
It takes guts to pull this off, but it is better than him trying to be macho in front of his friends and not showing you the respect and admiration you need and deserve from him or any man.
I sincerely hope it works out for you, if not, you haven't really lost anything except a deadbeat boyfriend, and just remember, he is the loser.
Darryl S.
2006-09-09 20:00:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady, you're all of 12 years old. And your 'boyfriend' is 14. Now from your perspective he stands mighty tall, but from where I stand, he's still a kid who needs the approval of his peers more than the approval of a girlfriend. People have been giving you advice as if you were an adult, but you're not. Sorry, but you're both living under your parents' roof. Neither of you are earning your own money and paying your own rent. That means that neither of you are in any position to get so serious about romantic issues. Yes Juliet was 14 and Romeo was 16, but in those days, people were lucky to live beyond thirty. Now with the life expectancy at 80, 14 is still a child. Now think about it, if you get serious with this guy, you're going to have to be with him for 68 years. Do you think you can handle that? I doubt it so let him be a kid with his friends and you be a kid with your friends. You only get a chance to be a kid once. Enjoy it.
2006-09-10 05:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by pepper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't date you in public, he's not dating you and if you had to ask him out, he may have said yes not to hurt your feelings but he may not really mean it and doesn't want his friends to think of you as an item. I strongly recommend you read "He is just not that into you: the no excuses guide to understanding guys." It will help you be less confused in the future. As for this guy, sorry to say but he is not your boyfriend. He is not even your friend or he would not treat you this way.
2006-09-09 19:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by Wildfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U both are too young for this. Concentrate on ur studies. May be ur boyfriend is embarassed or feels sad when he introduces u to his friends. Dont get emotional. Dump him.
U be with ur friends, take on some hobbies, learn new things.
Try to be a good person and make ur parents proud.
2006-09-09 20:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah christyn i know u love him and all and i know ur his first gf and u dont wanna crush his heart but, sorry to break it to u girl.. he is not worth ur time! u said 2 17 year olds asked u out i mean c'mon u deserve someone that will kiss u and all that stuff in front of his friends and WONT run away.. someone who u love as much as him.. but, not so desperate that u wanna know what room is his... lol im ttly kidding but, still that guy is NOT worth your time and what u do is talk to him in private like call him and tell him if he isn't going to treat u like u want him to! and depending on what he says then i would seriously break up with him!!! best of luck!!!
luvs,
♥holly♥
2006-09-09 20:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ sexxy kenny jensen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know how much crap guys get when they hang out with the guys...and his girl is there...holding hands...no..not gonna happen. Clingy stuff ain't gonna work either. Let him be him...mine goes to the guys as soon as we show up...i go do my thing...If you think it has something to do with you....no...just try giving kisses infront of his friends...in the beginign of your relationship. Not gonna happen...ONly later...and I do mean later...when you have been around enough....he will feel comfortable and his boys will know that you are a keeper to him....then some of that stuff can happen...but not all....
2006-09-09 19:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you confused? Why would you want to be with anyone who treated you this way? Do you love yourself? Then that's all you need. Step away, quickly, from this jerk and let yourself be free to be able to share with someone who will respect and care for you rather than humiliate and degrade you. Walk with your head high and be in control of your dignity and self respect.
Let no man treat you this way...ever!
2006-09-09 19:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His not a real bf im sorry but if a guy your suppose to be in relationship with wont even hold your hand in front of his friends is not a guy you should be with. Bring it up to him and ask him why he doesnt.
2006-09-09 19:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, He needs to Act Like He always has with his boys and You Get in the Way of that. If hes cool he will always choose them before you.
2006-09-09 19:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by Billy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay listen you need to talk to him. Because if I were you, I would dump him right away. He's not worth it. Any guy who is ashamed of you is not worth your time. Just ask him what's up and talk to him...he has to give you a reasonable answer...if its not, then break up with him. Let him know you are not playing games. Good luck. :) Peace.
2006-09-09 19:57:37 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋