She tells me thats the life she wants to live, I respect that but, she even forces our kids, I love her but I'm getting tired of all the discusions. I believe in God but, don't know what to do. Thanks
2006-09-09 19:39:54 · 21 answers · asked by pony 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ouch, that's rough, the same thing happened to my dad where my mom got way more religous and then forced it on us kids getting us to think something was wrong with dad because he didn't go to church with us and crap.
I certainly feel your pain. Best thing I can say is encourage your children to be open-minded, took me 19 years to get out of the spell, now I basically hate my mother and wish she wasn't so close-minded.
As far as the wife goes, encourage her to let the kids think for themselves, she's setting em up for some major rebellion especially during those teen years.
2006-09-09 19:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by phalsephasod 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What exactly do you mean by "fanatic"? Is she going out on street corners and preaching? Or, is she simply requiring herself and your kids to attend church every week and maybe even read the Bible daily?
You say you believe in God, but is He personal to you? Do you have a relationship with Him?
I think you need to talk to your wife and see exactly where she's coming from. Be prepared to let her talk and you just listen without judging. Then, and only then, you can share your concerns. Be sure to phrase them as concerns, not as criticisms.
2006-09-09 19:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Beware that she doesn't turn into one of the self righteous fanatic chrisitans, those are the worst.
Tried talking to other family, her friends, or priest/pastor/minister and your church?
Edit: It seems phalse's mom (post above) is a textbook example of the self righteous fanatic.
2006-09-09 19:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by someavgguy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time this.
Just be glad she is running around town, and hanging out in bars. Or teaching your kids to steal.
If you love her, then hopefully you can adjust. I truly wish you the best of luck, Hon.
2006-09-09 19:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man I hope she stops, my mom drove us away with that. We understood that it was her choice but to force it upon us was a bit too much. I couldn't wait to leave home.
If you can't reason with her, maybe her pastor can tell her that she can't force you to change......you'll change when you're ready......a pastor had to tell my mom that about my dad, and I remind her everyday that when they got married, they were both unsaved and she got married for better or for worse, so now she's patiently waiting.....
2006-09-09 19:46:57 · answer #5 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh oh. Why the change? Has anything happened in your relationship? Both of you need professional counsel. Good luck.
2006-09-09 19:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get thee to her pastor.
Something else is going on here and needs to be sorted out.
Yours in Christ,
a pastor
2006-09-09 19:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
good, make sure to tell her to sell all her personal belongings and give the money to charity. That is what Jesus said to do.
2006-09-09 19:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by heidavey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her your glad she found god.But your not ready to join her in her excitement.That you'll talk about it when you want to.but until then tell her you refuse to talk about it anymore.As for the kids you don't have to let them go with her.
2006-09-09 19:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by crazygirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it actually depends on what church she goes to or what type of christian people are influencing her....
what you can do is to find what out what & check them out... do your research & if you believe in God, maybe you can start to see if you actually believe in Christ too....
i mean, that's your wife you are talking about... checkout why see is turning out the way she is...
2006-09-09 19:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by 4x4 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋