I asked a question in the relationship area and got an answer that made me need to ask this one.
Situation is this... Husband had an affair and moved out but says he still loves me but is not ready to move back in and be a family. But will soon cause he wants to make sure he doesnt make same mistake again.We have a child. I still love him think hes worth loving in spite of all that has happened. is that right or wrong? How does God view this?
2006-09-09 19:29:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No it is not wrong to take him back, if you both still love each other Get back together, but be advised take baby steps. What I mean by that is start going out on dates together, start to get to know one another again. If you two love each other then I can bare to you in the Name of the Almighty He approves of families working out their problems and staying together. That's why he created marriage, not to destroy each other but to bind man and woman together. In Jesus name. Amen.
2006-09-09 19:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by princezelph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, it goes like this.
Us humans don't get to know what God thinks, or even if he exists.
Work out what is best, in the long term for your kid. This may not be the obvious answer - after all having 2 parents that fight might well be worse than two who get on but don't live in the same house.
But just to be on the safe side, I would also advise asking the Lord in prayer (as described in Matthew 6:6 so you have a clear head at the time)
Hope that helps!
Cheers,
R_A.
P.S. yeah, I am an atheist..... you don't mind do you? I heard Americans can be a bit funny about that....
2006-09-10 02:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Scriptures say that adultery is a sin..it is wrong! Your husband sounds as if he wants "his cake & to eat it as well". In the Bible the one reason that God gives in which a person can get a divorce is adultery! I truly feel bad for both you & the child, but if your husband does not want to concider a serious relationship with Jesus Christ as his personal Lord & Savior, then I would say that chances are VERY high that he WILL sin against you again & again! Until you either get a disease,or ask him to leave!
Your best chances for happiness reside in NOT allowing him back into your life without alot of counseling...(perfering a christian counselor...but even a secular one would do!) May the Lord bless you & keep you safe, & help ou decide!
2006-09-10 02:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by maranatha132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God says you are hiswife and must accept him, mistakes or not, However, Even God would insist he got an aids and std test done before you let him back, and that you kept him on a very short leash.And if he strays again, kick him to the curb, because he is just using you as a cushion to fall back on when he can't get laid elsewhere. God doesn't like doormats any more than the rest of us.
2006-09-10 02:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is all in the wifes hands, God speaks out about affairs but it won't go against the wife, only the husband if he don't ask for forgiveness.
but that is also true what the person above me said
but....
my husband cheated on me a few times and we are still together, i forgave and he quit, i know he quit because we do everything together , even work but the trust was gone and here it is about 9 yrs later and he just got my trust back about 4 yrs ago
2006-09-10 02:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since Jesus said to forgive others 70 times 7 times, it seems that if your husband is genuinely repentant, it is your job to forgive him. Especially since forgiveness is not for his sake, but for yours.
As for him moving back in, as long as you remained pure during this time, you are still married in God's eyes. So, as long as he's willing to give it a try, I think you should too. If he does stray again, you may have to repeat this cycle.
The presence of a child does complicate things, not Biblically but practically. You want to set a good example for your child, and hopefully your husband does too. I'm guessing that you also want your husband to participate in raising your child, which is difficult to do from a distance.
For reasons of setting an example for the child, or for repeatedly demonstrating that your husband is not really trying to remain faithful to you, there may come a time when it is necessary to separate. However, I do not think that this need to, or should be, divorce. You can maintain separate households yet remain married.
I hope this helps. And, I hope that you have good friends who can support you during this tough time.
2006-09-10 02:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by midlandsharon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in Christianity, the ONLY valid reason for getting a divorce is adultery. And it looks like the husband gave that reason out on a platter.
I am very experienced with relationships. But if you find someone who betrayed and lied to you as someone "worth loving," he might not be the only one with a problem.
2006-09-10 02:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible states God hates a divorcing.
The only way to divorce is if one person commits adulty and then its ok in Gods eyes to divorce but it also says that if your husband returns and you are agreeable and you have relations then you are to remain together.
2006-09-10 02:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by ~♥ L ♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says God hates divorce in the book of malachi. If he wants to come back I would give him another chance. Give him some time and pray for him.
2006-09-10 02:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by upsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love can never be wrong only someone taking advantage of your good heart. He is the one that did wrong why would it be bad or wrong for you to take him back you will be the bigger person here have you forgiven him ? And more important forgotten it ?
2006-09-10 02:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by denise f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋