why do i keep falling back to the same pattern my family is drama and my husband is always warning me to stay away from them,but i can't help to always get a week spott for them i'm talking about my one brother and my sister and sister in law and my 17 year old daughter who i especially always get shitted on by!i feel like disowning all of them none of them get along with eachother and as soon as i'm back in there lives there bringing me in there...drama i'm now 35 and soooo tired of it,is it wrong to walk away from my family untill they can grow up i have enough stresses and anxiety's as it is wright now my drs. been trying different meds on me which i refuse to take because i want to deal with this drugless.my 17 year old daughter started cussing me out already as soon as i broke down and gave her my new # what the hell is that?please help what would you do,if your marriage was a stake and you had a four year iold daughter that you don't want seeing drama?
2006-09-09 19:14:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your not the only one with family drama, the best thing is to keep to yourself and your little family, try not to get into any mess with your other family members, if you stay home and away from the drama you will feel a lot better, as for your 17 year old, you will just have to ignore her until she gives you the proper respect that you deserve. Good luck.
2006-09-09 19:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by browneyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are strong hearted to want to stay connected to your family. I can uinderstand how challenging this might be for you. Especially trying to reach out to the 17 year old and her not being very receptive.
We always want to have a relationship with our kids no matter how hard it is. And you should. Don't let your husband bully you into making it a " her or our marriage" thing because that is not fair.
You don't have to stay involved with anyone else.. don't let that drama suck you in, but do try your best to stay involve with your daughter. maybe one day things will turn around and then your little one and the 17 yr old can have a relationship with each other that doesn't have to be wrapped around turmoil.
All teenagers rebel. I know I was horrible, but now my mother and I have a friendly relationship and I'm okay with that as she is in my childrens life and that's what counts, whether or not we are the closest in the family doesn't matter.
Keep your chin up and know in your heart that you keep trying out of love for your family, and stay strong for yourself and your kids reagrdless of what your hubby or other family members do or say.
2006-09-10 02:25:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kris17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can kinda relate i cut off my family for six years til they could get it through their heads that i do things my own way and that every one is entitled to their own opinions. i respect trying to do it without meds and i agree that it is very hard to walk away but you have to do what is right for you and not for them and if your 17 year old cannot respect you then think about the influence she is having on the little one and that should be enough to do it. you want the little one to have a chance at a calm life without thinking that is all part of the deal its not and you know it .........but it is very hard to put your foot down to those you love.......at this point its not about them its about you. Pick your priorities ........is loosing your marriage worth the crap that you will get to keep in the long run if you dont walk away from it all now?
2006-09-10 02:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by wing23ca 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your faith in God and ask Him for guidance and help. That is the most important thing you can do. In addition to this though you need to let your family know what they are putting you through. Just you alone telling them may not be enough though. Try getting a group session with a therapist and have him/her talk to you all in a group and then individually.
2006-09-10 02:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Martin523 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well unfornately there are issues between all of you . You can either take it or you can get couseling without medicine.As well as take time off from them. you shouldn't let them make you feel this way. Just find the right doctor and support for yourself than work on your family you can only change yourself and take things one day at a time.
2006-09-10 02:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
omg.....my mother and i know exactly how you feel. she kept my sister and me from seeing our fathers side of the family after our father ditched us and refused to pay child support for ten years so i would say thae leaving you family for a while mit help. just pack up you your husband and your kids and move states and contact your family when you think the your *glorious* absence has made them relize that they need to grow up and stop the drama over petty grade school bullsh*t good luck candie
2006-09-10 02:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut the ties darlin'. At least until you can get some counselling and de-program yourself. You need to put the fun back in disfunctional, you need time to sort it out for yourself before you can react to them in a healthy, stable, rational way.
2006-09-10 02:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by takeitorleaveit-loveitorhateit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that answer to that. Your husband and little girl doesn't deserve this life. Stay away form all of them and concentrate on your daughter and hubby. You will be healthier before you know it. Stay strong for yourself and them...Good luck!
2006-09-10 02:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and daughter come first before anyone else. Stop the drama... tend to your immediate family first its your responsibility.
2006-09-10 02:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your family is nothing but $hit, walk away from it all and be good to the family that is being good to you. your tot does not need to see the drama. when tot is older tell her about $hitty **** family, so that she knows they exist. tot is entitled to know that much , when she is older and can make up her own mind.
good luck and good ditching!
2006-09-10 02:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋