Is getting angry with someone else because they destroyed something of yours a sign of immaturity?

Question

Is this self-centeredness or immaturity?

When someone uses all of my shampoo or tears up something that belongs to me it makes me so angry! Even if it's an accident I can't seem to get over it without getting angry.

What can I do to "grow up"?

Answer 1

First it is normal to feel angry when something of yours is broken or if someone uses all of your shampoo BUT it is how you handle it shows your maturity. NOW if someone broke a CD you had laying on the floor that would be your fault for leaving it there. But say someone game into your room took a shirt and wore it and then stained it, you would feel angry but how you handle it is the maturity part.

We all have feelings and are allowed ro be happy,sad,angry so, but if you BLOW up when someone forgets to put the toilet paper on the roll you have an anger problem and need to get help.

I have a son that gets anger fast and I help him deal with it.

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Answer 2

It isn't immature to get angry. It appears that you have healthy boudaries, which is OK. It's NOT OK for someone else to do these things to you. It's the way that you express your anger that is an indicator of maturity. You can let the other person know how you feel by speaking camly and quietly. Yelling and screaming only gets people on the defensive and serves only to escalate the situation. If you have to spout off, go outside and go for a walk, do something that burns off that energy. You'll feel better and no one's feelings will be hurt.

Also, the degree of anger should match the "crime". To go overboard for a little bit of shampoo seems ridiculous. To help you get a proper perspective on a situation, just ask yourself, "Will I even remember this in ten years???" If the answer is "No" then it's too insignificant to get upset over. Go ahead and tell the person how you feel and that you expect certain behavior, but just be cool and don't let yourself get too steamed. Still allow yourself to love the person, but take issue with their behavior. "I like you, I just don't like what you did." Or some such thing.

The anger doesn't hurt the other person, it hurts you. Harboring angry thoughts and emotions only ruins your health. It can also ruin relationships, if it's inapproriate.

Cut others some slack if it's an accident. You've done things unintentionally or accidentally. Treat others the way you would like to be treated if you were in their shoes.

You just need to learn to think before you speak or act when you are angry. That's why some parents have a habit of counting to 10 before they say or do anything when their child misbehaves. They are calming theirself down and thinking about what is the best response. Just stop and think!

Answer 3

If people are being inconsiderate, using all your shampoo, or just unkind like tearing up something that is yours, anger is a natural reaction. We all wish we could control our anger better at times, but anger is not a bad or immature thing all by itself. If someone does this kind of thing to you frequently, may I suggest it is actually them who should grow up? Go ahead and be angry, but also use it positively. Let them know (ideally without screaming) that what they are doing is not acceptable to you, and how you would like their behaviour to change. Good luck. I don't think wanting to be treated with respect is self centred or immature. :)

Answer 4

Anger is a normal feeling for all human beings. It dosnt mean your immature, it means that you respect all of your things, wether it be shampoo or an important letter. You might have a problem with ''shareing'' but thats a different thing all together. The way you express your anger could be why people think your immature. Do you explain why your upset or do you just have a tanty?

Answer 5

remembering that they are human. remembering the times that you broke mom's favorite dish or the neighbors window and didn't really care that much. your loss of shampoo is significant because you are slowly learning that other people are immature and have not been taught how to respect other's property. For you it is important to stand up for your respect.... don't get angry....get even and make sure you have a valid point with your revenge. Make sure you get the message across and help this person grow up, themselves.

Answer 6

Of course you get angry ... its a perfectly normal healthy reaction when someone disrespects your things ..especially when you stop to think that if it was THEIR stuff they would be more careful or not use as much shampoo or whatever the case if they were the ones who had to pay for it right??

Answer 7

This is normal. But if you suppress ur anger then it is not! Bring it out and tell them how you feel. Here comes the maturity level on HOW you convey ur feelings. Be straight forward but not rude becoz anger is short term and relationships are very delicate. It is in your hands to set your limits and be clear on what you like and what you don't. Just do not be rude and do not suppress ur emotions. You just have to mould them.

Answer 8

lol, who's the idiot who told you that being angry in the situation above makes you = childish?
Almost everyone (unless your Jesus) will get made if someone breaks their property, etc. However, I want to know HOW YOU ACT after you get mad. Do you keep on nagging that person every friggin day? Do you walk up and punch that person? Do you mumble to youself?

Answer 9

If they are doing it on purpous, then you have a right to be angry, but if it was an accident, you should probably try to control your anger a little bit and realize they weren't trying to piss you off.

Answer 10

Anger is a normal part of our human emotions. To do nothing about it is immaturity.