ok my brother is very rude! he calls me fat ugly stupid and other things! he thinks he is the funniest thing in the world but what he doesn't realize is that he is hurting me! he used to go to partys all the time get high get drunk and do stupid thing he graduated got a job and stopped smoking! he got a job and start to treat me great he told me he loved me and that i was beautiful and we started to get our realtionship bak! well that lasted bout 2 months and now he is bak to his old ways! he make me cry and says rude things to me i try to ignore him but it is soo hard!! i want to punch him in the face but i no that he would just hit me bak and he is much stronger! but my question is what do i do to get him off my bak and just ignore him! or just what do i do period! i need help i think i am goin to go crazy if he doesn't stop! please help me and answer either or both of my questions! i am tired of crying and feelin so worthless and bad bout myself! anything will help thank you!
2006-09-09 18:49:22 · 26 answers · asked by bballgurlie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell him straight up what you feel and experience.
Don't do a confrontation, or he will close down and ignore what you say. Good luck. And remember- you are worth it.
P.S. Ignore the mean people (look up).
2006-09-09 18:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Double Century Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say treat people how you want to be treated and obviously your brother isn't treating you how he would like to be treated so first I would say tell him how you feel if he still doesn't quit or just keeps doing what he's doing, do it back because sooner or later he will feel the same that's what happened with me and my brother and it worked he used t beat the s hit outta me though! so i started hitting him back with all my might and like you he was alot larger then me so instead of punching him I would kick and pound (lol) yes pound him it worked and now we are closer then ever. Also either way don't listen to your brother we all know he's just jealous of you! that was another problem my brother had was I have succeeded more then him and if he's older next time he hits you threaten to call the cops I did it once but didn't press charges it's a f ucked up world out there and you need to take care of yourself first if none of the above works just ignore him and let him know that you don't have a brother anymore, make sure you say stuff that will get in his head and really sit there and make him think that's what really gets anyone goin! Goo Luck!!!!!
2006-09-10 01:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by ~Bethany~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey here the problem needs a long term solution so u may have to take a tuf procedure to come over it.
What u have to do is u have to be as good as possible to him as u can.Be gentle, polite but neednt be always submissive but u can be sacrificing some of ur luxuries for his happiness.
When u continue to be so good to him than any normal person he comes across, he himslef will one day start realizing or rather start thinkin why ur so good to him when he is so rude to u.
He will realize that ur his sister and still he doesnt care abt u but u do care abt him a lot. That thought can bring a sea change in him.Not just in his behaviuor towards u but his genereal character itslef will be changed. U said he stopped smokin, so that means he is a person who is not tat dumb. So he is a person who sits bak and reviews himslef and his deeds. So this review will notice ur character towards him and he will see the vast difference each others approach.
I understand this is really tuf for u as he has never shown any love for u.But tats where the challenge is.Loving someone who loves u is much easy but loving ur enemies is tuf thing and ppl with character can only do tat.
And if u feel hes rude wats the use being rude to him.Then wat makes u different from him.
I guess u understand me.For any help in this regard u can feel free to IM me. It would be my pleasure helpin u out.
Remember one thing: Sword is not the answer for sword.
2006-09-10 02:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but don't let your brother's mean comments hurt you so much. You said he is back to his old ways...does that mean he is drinking again? If so, just understand that he is the one with the problem. He probably isn't happy with himself, but it's easier for him to be mean to you than to deal with his own issues. Try being really nice to him when he is mean to you...when he calls you a name, tell him how much you love him. That should throw him off a bit!! You could also try telling him how much his mean comments hurt you and you were proud of him for getting a job, etc. and how much you worry about him. Just don't let his mean comments make you feel bad about yourself!! Good luck...
2006-09-10 02:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks that he hurts your feelings, but you have to realize that you can depend on him to make you feel good emotionally. He loves you, but its obvious that he doesn't make very good decisions. Be there for him while he goes through this crap and I know he'll be there for you no matter what... after all, you are family and nothing changes that.
Just don't let it get you down and talk to him. Remember, you know what you are... don't let him control your emotions and the way you feel about yourself.
Jesus loves you and He thinks you are beautiful!
2006-09-10 01:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by LZB217 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see him coming your way turn around and walk away. He will get the hint if you do this every time. Eventually he will ask what your problem is, tell him how you feel and tell him you choose not to be around people who make you feel bad. He is way to old to still be treating you so terribly. He should be ashamed of himself!
2006-09-10 01:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi B.BALLGURLIE, It sounds like you have a real winner for a brother(i use this word lightly).Your brother has no reguards for your feeling, and could care less.He's probably has alot of problems and unhappy and is taking it out on you.That's no reason to act like he is. Your need to have a heart to heart talk with him ,And tell him you love him,But he is hurting you alot, on his nasty remarks and ask him to please stop.If he is your big brother he is suppost to watch out for you,not to be the bad guy.If for some reason this doesn't work,You need to talk to your parents about this. Hope everything works out for you. A Friend.
Clowmy
2006-09-10 02:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his doing more than just drinking those sort of nasty mood swings come from coming down off some party drug. Ignore him it is totally his problem tell him you there for him only if he treats you well.
2006-09-10 01:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the drugs have a lot to do with his behavior. your family might want to get him into a rehab facility.
my only advice is too stand up for yourself and don't let him see that he gets to you because he will continue to do so as long as he knows he can get to you.
tell him things that you know will hurt his feelings.
an eye for an eye. i think this will be the only way.
2006-09-10 02:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Znai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's brothers for you. Just ignore him or use childish comebacks like "I know you are but what am I?" and " I'm rubber and your glue. Everything you say bounces off of me and sticks to you." Tell your brother how you feel. He is most likely making you feel like crap because he feels like a piece of crap. That's what people do, they try to make others suffer and feel as miserable as they do.
2006-09-10 01:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by deathdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋