What do you look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend that would make you fall in love for life? And do you believe that marriages last anymore in this day and age? Do you believe in being faithful and commited to someone you love for life? or do you believe long lasting love is over rated and impossible to achieve? please give your reasons behind your thoughts. thank you.
2006-09-09 18:32:55 · 10 answers · asked by succubus_angel_666_777 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uuum... How many questions is that? Daaaaaaamn woman!!! hahahaha.
OK... Here we go....
1) It's not really something I "look for" It's more like something you just find. My girlfriend is someone that just popped up when I least expected her. There is just something about her. The first time I talked to her I saw my future. I knew she was the one. She is everything I never knew I always wanted. And when I found her I just knew.
2) I fell in love with her by just talking to her. I hadn't even seen her at that time. I was just shooting the **** in a chat room and she IM'd me. We started talking and it went all night. Nothing sorted or dirty mind you...Just talking. I couldn't say goodbye to her. Everything she said to me made me fall more and more in love with her. And when she sent me a pic and I saw her, well actually I started to think there is no way she is real. I figured she was some imposter that was just saying all the right things and had a pic of some model out of a book or something. But she turned out to be real. The funny thing was it didn't really work out at first. I mean everything fell into place just about perfectly. Almost like fate. The funniest things kept happening. For instance... She lived in Louisiana and I live in Denver Colorado, but she happened to have a best friend that had just moved to Denver, for some unknown reason. A friend that she had latterly grown up with. Anyway he had moved to Denver and was telling her to come up and live with him till she could find a job and a place of her own. She was thinking about it. Fate has it that he lived one block from my shop. In a world of 6 billion people. with her living 1500miles away from me. Having met months earlier in a chat room by chance. She was able to move one block away from me. Now that has got to tell you something. Well when we actually met, like 6 months later. I literally lost my breath when I first saw her. I drove up on my bike and there she was. I actually thought it must be someone else. It couldn't be her. But it was. She came up to me and hugged me and I just knew. We've been together ever since.
3) Well there is where I get funny. I do not believe that marriage lasts in this day and age. I think that marriage will actually cause more problems in a relationship. Nobody believes in "Till death do us part" today. It's more like "Till I find something better" or "Till I don't want to any more." Nobody believes in the fundamentals that made up marriage. I believe in the fundamentals that make up family. And in my opinion you don't need a marriage in this day and age to make a family. All you need is love, respect, faith, and trust. You don't need some dried up ink on a line that tells you you are supposed to be there. I want to wake up every morning and think to myself wow.. I get to wake up next to her for the rest of my life. And marriage just doesn't say that anymore. So no I don't believe in marriage any more.
4) I do believe in being faithful and committed to the woman I fell in love with. I couldn't see myself with anyone else. If fact I actually see being unfaithful to her as an attack on my family. The same way I would feel about her with another man. And that is something I would never do.
So I hope that answers all your questions.
My advice for you would be .... Stop looking. I honestly believe in fate. When you are ready... "HE" will show up. And you will know.
2006-09-10 05:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I'm in the woods I feel the possibility for adventure, the mystery, the beauty and wildness of being outdoors. When I'm indoors I feel dull, cut-off, and bored. Most people make me feel the same as I do when I'm indoors. The day I meet someone whose presence gives the same feeling as when I'm in the woods, that will be the day I'll admit defeat and give in to the idea that true love really exists. In the mean time, I'm certainly not going to waste my time looking for 'the right person'. A life centered on that goal would be boring. I'd rather spend my time searching out new adventures and enriching my life. I think that so many marriages fail because everyone thinks that they HAVE to get married...it's like the 'next step' along their life's path, or something...like getting a job. You should spend your life doing meaningful things, and then marry someone only if you CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT THEM. Don't just find someone you're 'compatible' with or you'll just end up living the same life as a billion other bored people. As for your other questions, I believe that if it is true love, it will certainly last. Of course, since I've never felt anything like that for another person, I cannot say what the future of true lovers would hold. I imagine there would be some hardships, but they would pale in the face of true love, whereas 'compatilbility' wouldn't stand a chance.
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2006-09-10 01:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first of all need to look for someone that you can trust. That is the foundation of any relationship and without that then nothing will work. I believe that marriage or any relationship can work as long as you work the person that you are with. Marriage is a partnership and once married you are a team. You have to learn to compromise and choose your battles. I think that in this day in age people want a fast solution so they divorce at the first signs of problems. If you and your partner are willing to work through your problems and take your wedding vows seriously that anything is possible. I also think that lasting love is perfectly achievable and you just have to take the time and don't rush into anything. Make sure that you take the time to truly get to know the person and sometimes you are wrong about the ones you think are it for you. You sometimes have to get hurt in order to find the person that you were looking for all along. I don't think that lasting love is overrated at all. You just have to make sure that you are willing to sacrifice and make things work sometimes if you really love the person that you are committing your life to. Good Luck!! Remember EVERYTHING happens for a reason!
2006-09-10 01:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I look for someone who would love me for who I am am. I would never have to hide my real self. Someone who I miss when i am away from, someone that makes me a better person....If marriages last in this day and age, I believe the peole are very lucky or very desperate. So many people are so afraid of being alone that they stay in bad relationships. How do those peole when when they are on their dying bed, wondering how they wastedaway their life with someone they didnt truly love....I believe lasting love is achievable, if you can find your soulmate...
2006-09-10 01:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by slaytanicmobilization 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in love for life....and I would like to be in a faithful and commited relationship but now a days, it seems almost impossible because everyone is cheating just because they can.
2006-09-10 01:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by SEXiiNESS_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It possible to stay or fall I been there done it with one man but love better be 50 50 You know what I mean if your in love you think about the man I love to stay it easy to feel if ya in for the long haul it might be beautiful I working on falling one more time it work as long as thier honesty truth LOVE TRUST ... I been marry for 8 yrs and gee it all
2006-09-10 01:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life long partner! Listen I have a love that I have known for almost 40 years. Good times, an bad, angry and not, in love, out of love! A partner loves you even when they hate you!
2006-09-10 01:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want a guy who loves me dearly and is polite, nice, caring, cute, intelligent, and makes me special.
2006-09-10 01:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by maysimay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive in someone whos faithful, cute,nicebody,sense of humor, big dick,nice smile and someone i can trust.
2006-09-10 01:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love, compatibility and yes.
2006-09-10 01:36:36 · answer #10 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋