I would love to find a good guy. Why can't I find one. I am a single mother. I have sated several guys, but most have no ambition in life, do drugs, have no job, etc. I just want to find a nice guy, who is dependable, and likes me and my son for what and who we are. No drugs. Is that setting my standards too high?
2006-09-09 18:07:22 · 26 answers · asked by misti c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*dated* Just to clarify - i don't date these guys knowing that they are into drugs and such, but that is how it generally ends up. There are three questions that I always ask a guy that I am talking to. 1. Do you do drugs? 2. Do you drink more than socially? 3/ Do you like kids? and 9 times out of 10 I get good answers to these questions, but then after I get to know the guys, they end up being jerks.
2006-09-09 18:29:27 · update #1
Just like banana's at the super market, the best ones are always taken, but give it time, but hell what do I know I'm only 16 but advice is advice and my mother tells me this crap every damn day...
2006-09-09 18:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your standards don't seem to high. What is sated? Is that something new? How do you ask for a sate?
How in hell can a guy go through life doing drugs, have no goals or job. That makes no sense to me. Where do you get your money from?
You'll be all right, look you have your son. That's a good little guy. He will always love you. In time you will find the one for you again.
Keep your head up, things will work out.
2006-09-10 01:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by lhm1968 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's hard to find any good guy no matter where you are. I can understand trying to find someone who doesn't do drugs and that would be capable of helping you raise your child or children. No, I don't think that your standards are too high. In fact, I think that if more people were too raise the bar on what they wanted, there would be LESS people who did drugs or had no job. I understand that it is hard to raise even one child on your own. My mother was able to do it for the first half of my life and to this day, we have a better relationship between us than most. So I say go for it. Raise the bar. And don't give up hope you'll find him someday.
2006-09-10 01:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by cool arrow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly, there is no guarantee that you will find a good guy. My mother never found another good man after my dad cheated on her and left. We made it on our own. You'll date as you have, and decide eventually that it's better left alone. Things have to flow at their own pace, it it's meant to be, it will come. It's not impossible (yet) to find a good guy. It's just really really hard. :)
I wish you good luck and can promise you things will be okay even if you don't find a good guy. Sometimes there is no good guy but there's one that's good enough. You and your son will benefit some from either situation.
2006-09-10 01:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dulie Woolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are out there but will not approach you.
most of us have been laugh at and treated so poorly over the years by women that we will not make a move. It's better to be alone than to be abused, used, and made fun of. as soon as you find a good guy some hottie, or bad boy will catch your eye and you wil dump the nice guy in a heart beat!!!!!
2006-09-10 01:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am a single mom, and the good guys are out there...but you have to ask yourself WHERE you are looking for this guy. In a bar? In a club?? Think about this...you meet good guys in good places, church, civic activities, art galleries, not a bar or a club. Everyday life could lead to outstanding contacts...
2006-09-10 01:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard,some of us guys can be real pains.dont give up but at the same time,dont just go for any guy,you have your son to think of.its ok to be single for a while too,just take it slow.i am,im in no hurry.theres a person out there for everyone.good luck,you sound like a good caring person.i wish you all the luck .
2006-09-10 01:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by wilddog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your standards definitely are not too high at all!! Theres definitely a guy who fits these descriptions... but patience is what you need, when the time is right, you'll meet him.. i dont know how, but something will happen... *wow, i kinda sound like a fortune cookie...* you could also go onto a date site and search for a guy with those characteristics too...
2006-09-10 01:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the more you desperately look for them, the less chances you get of finding them. take it easy, look after yourself and the right one will come at the right time. if you want to keep looking, don't search in bars and on the streets. you might find good ones in church or in the supermarket. and don't worry about it, you're not the only one in that situation.=)
2006-09-10 01:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are not looking for a good guy. YOu are looking for a jerk and are passing up a lot of good, although ugly, guys in the process!
2006-09-10 01:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by darlene_b_bain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋