Jerry Seinfeld, obviously a male once said "Women need to lower their expectations of men. We are basically just highly evolved dogs."...How many people think this is true? And does this mean that I can sill expect diamonds and long-stemmed roses but, I need to cancel the idea that a man that I'm in a physical relationship with can be empathetic and insightful and loving? If so I think I can live with that (LOL). But is there any truth in it?
2006-09-09 18:04:07 · 16 answers · asked by Kaitlyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, it is true. We do expect a lot from men. It's partly because we expect them to be as emotionally extravagent, as they are with their money. And plus, most guys turn on the charm, and make sure we know they have a feminine side in order to A) get us to like them, and B) get us to sleep with them. After that, it's basically "I got what I wanted...I'd like more of it, but hey, I don't want to work that hard for it again."
2006-09-09 18:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think women should expect any less from men when it comes to emotional intelligence, nor do they expect too much. Equality in these issues is required, not just preferred. Your sense of self-worth is part of the whole package. Some men are basically just highly evolved dogs as Seinfeld puts it. A lot of women do think this is true. They qualify their belief saying that I am not one of them. I have gone down the road of diamonds and roses and was in a physical relationship where I was empathetic, insightful, and loving. Why? It's just my nature of who I am and my inherent love of women. Please don't cancel the idea that a man that you are in a physical relationship with can be empathetic and insightful and loving. They can be. I know that to be true.
2006-09-10 01:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The quote actually seems to be quite accurate. Expect the diamonds and long-stemmed roses but, the guys being insightful and empathetic....not so much. Now this would be for most guys not all guys. I would say if the guy is really and I mean really into you he would be more in tuned with you. Therefore he would be more likely to be able to be insightful. But if he is not in to you for some reason or another, he won't ever be insightful towards you. The ones that put any type of emphasis on sex in any way seem to be the ones that are least likely to be capable of being insightful and empathetic......Just my two cents.
2006-09-10 01:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by wishuponstarson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is no truth to that. True, most men ACT like...hmmm no actually they act like just plain dogs most of the time not intelligent or eveolved ones, haha. I can say this because I AM a guy and I hear them say talk when women aren't around.
You can expect roses and diamonds insightfulness and love and all that, BUT it's rare...VERY rare. If the guy isn't all of these things you really don't even need to be a physical relationship with him, because you can do so much better. if more girls wouldn't settle for so little in a guy there would be more guys who were worth it. Until then guys know they can get away with anything and still women to like them...I'm ashamed of my own sex.
2006-09-10 01:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Mark M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's kinda true. But I do know that there are still a few good men who still exist but they're getting extinct.
Most men are more physically in love more than emotionally involved. It's very rare to find a man who is so sensitive to your needs and desires and be sweet, loving and romantic, too.
Some of them are going to be what u desire for at first and after a few years of being married to them, they become insensitive and very physical..e.g. if a man hurts his g/f verbally, he'll not be be bothered by what he just did. It's like nothing bad happened. Then if he feels like making love, he'll just do it to u casually. That's being physical. Women can't respond right away to lovemaking if they're hurt emotionally. Men can. As soon as they feel the urge, they'll just do it.
In other words, men are physical and women are emotional beings when it comes to realtionship .
2006-09-10 01:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Holly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the training, and upbringing of the highly evovled canine that you are conspiring to "put on the leash".
Some will never rise to the emotional plane that you are discussing, and you will have to accept their strong sides as the pluses in their accompaniement (sic), and the emotional/insightful/ Tim Allen-isk attributes, as the concession that you have to make.
Others will be so much on the emotionally intuitive, and insightful of your wants and needs, that you will swear they are gay.
That would also be a give and take, you would have to take the emotional man, over the brawny, cromagnon man, and there would be concessions there too.
If you get Lucky, you will get a happy medium, and have the best of both worlds, but those types are rare. I feel I am that way, but if you ask my wife, I am less emotionally intuitive, and empathetic of her than she would like/need, but more so than her ex.....
so,
yes and no
to answer the question in 3 words
2006-09-10 01:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people, male and female are emotional beings. A lot(not all) men sometimes hide their emotions to be more masculine because they feel it makes them look weak, but they are still there. Hidden until they let go of the mask and find someone they can truly feel comfortable enough with to let in and see their feelings. There aren't many people around who don't have feelings and emotions. There is just finding the differences in peoples feelings and emotions. Everyone man does not love the same.
2006-09-10 01:11:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are not any less emotionally intelligent they just have different priorities. Also the sooner you learn to find a man with the attributes you desire and stop trying to instill them into some who is only a highly evolved dog, the happier you will be.
2006-09-10 01:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Eleanor R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women by nature are far more into feelings and emotional connection than men. However if you are clear with what you are wanting from a man you can help him become more in sync with you. We can be just as loving, but never as nurturing as women.
2006-09-10 01:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by BURGIN24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Kaitlyn,
Yes, I think that women expect too much from men. You want the roses, candy, and diamonds, and the guys want the hot sexy action, negligees, and BJs. If we both lower our expectations, we can all just deal with it.
--Rick
2006-09-10 01:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋