I'm not asking this for myself, its for my sister
She's deep into school work and she thinks that if she "locks her heart up" from even THINKING about the attraction of guys, she'll get distracted from school and get horrible grades. (everyone is aiming for straight A's. =\) Is this right? She's just planning to get interested when she's done iwth high school or college.
SHE IS NOT A LESBIAN. She's just super studious. =\ any advice i could give her?
2006-09-09 17:53:48 · 14 answers · asked by Jade Heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The school is important then the guy i think she should just go and talk to him that she won t have to keep thinking about him that way she could focus on her school work. But if she thinking about him tell her that guys come later school is important that she should finish hs and get a diploma.
2006-09-09 17:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should focus on her life, guys at her age will just distract and play games. She could do OK with a man in her life during school, but she could focus a lot better without one. She should still go out and enjoy herself, but keep to her studies and the world will open up for her. I did 7 years ago when I was 22, and now I own a house, have a new truck, and now I have met a great girl. PATIENCE is the key... Stay focused.... Good luck
2006-09-09 18:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by Snake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has her priorities in order. Stay focused on whats important. That doesnt mean she shouldnt have a social life. Part of growing up and becoming a well rounded person is learning how to interact with other people. That includes people of the opposite sex. I would encourage her to keep doing what she is doing and look at boys as friends just like she would be friends with a girl. She is right, there will be plenty of time for serious relationships when she is older, more mature, and done with school and heading in a direction that she wants.
2006-09-09 18:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by geeves 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let your sister be herself. If a guy is more interesting than her school work then she will notice him. Sometimes grades are as important as social life, maybe more so. Your sister will know when the time is right to date. It will balance both her scholastic schedual and her social needs. She just hasn't found that center yet. No sense wasting time. She has chosen what is most important at this particular time in her life. Things change in time.
You are a great sister for being so concerned. I hope you two stay so close and loving through the coming years.
Best wishes
2006-09-09 18:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by sandra j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're nevertheless youthful. you're 17. severe college has various people who're going from youngsters to youthful adults. Boys around that age are immature at circumstances. i does not difficulty too lots approximately your self. you're youthful, have lots going on, and a destiny a head of you. Being tall is totally high quality. My closest buddy replaced into 6 foot and tall. adult men did no longer be conscious her in severe college, yet in college it replaced. She began putting out with extra mature people. adult men flaunted over her like mad. possibly you should get some concepts interior the extra youthful female magazines to concentration on makeup techniques. purely somewhat. the main important element for her, she pushed her shoulders back and walked with self assurance in her suggestions. a guy will come your way, provide it somewhat extra time. you're doing high quality.
2016-11-07 00:35:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i was like that too... i wanted to lock my heart away and i wish i could take the effects away. if your sis really feels that way let her do it but tell her to think hard because it could hurt her in the long race... if she locks her heart away and never lets it out she could feel too fragile when she wants a real relationship... she could make herself; just because a guy turned her down, put her heart away forever and that is not the way to live life. you need to be hurt so you can heal your wounds later on in life. if she doesn't learn how to pick herself up now she will never learn. she will put herself in a more dire situation that could affect her health.. so tell her if she wants it that way to think about the consequences.
2006-09-09 18:02:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wll you shld let her know that grades aren't an excuse for shyness, she will get attracted eventually and will have a very good excuse not to respond. No it's not right. going out with guys make girls mature.....since guys are so mature LOL!!!!!
2006-09-09 18:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Bodom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her be. When it happens it happens. If she has strong enough feelings for a guy someday she'll change her way on her own.
2006-09-09 18:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good on her,it is sad but true that a lot of girls get a boyfriend and loose interest in studies ,its a distraction.and she has plenty of time.Its true that girls in all girl schools do better to.
2006-09-09 18:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u only live one life.tell her that she should like boys when shes comfortable but that she can have a boyfriend and gett good grades
2006-09-09 17:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by holla_girl350 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋