She came home yesterday and as she got off the bus, she was absolutely desperate for the toilet. She came out of the bathroom, and she said that her teacher at school told her that she had to wait until she got home. I want to go to the school and yell at her teacher, but I don't know exactly what happened.
2006-09-09 17:40:36 · 38 answers · asked by Em669j4 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Set up a conforence with the teacher to find out why she isnt able to go to the bathroom and find out what happened on that day. Then if she tells you what your child told you then you should talk to the principal to get things straighten out and if that doesnt happen then go higher until get it resovled
2006-09-09 17:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by love_30034 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There may not have been time for your daughter to go to the facilities and return in time to catch her bus. The teacher may also have had the Bus duty for the day and needed to supervisior ALL of the children departing that day. You will need to ask her first. If none of the aforementioned possibilities is in actuality the truth then bypass the teacher and go straight to the Administration. Explain what happened and then ask if the school will be paying for her pediatricians visity when whe develops a bladder or kidney infection. The answere undoubtedly will be know but u can let them know you will be holding them responsible. I suspect the principal will be condescending but after you leave will speak with the teacher although you will not be privy to that. It will either occur again or that will be the last time it will ever happen.
2006-09-10 03:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and talk to the teacher would be a good start. Don't yell, don't be confrontational. Just say you were wanting to know why your daughter wasn't allowed to use the toilet and explain that by the time she got home she needed to go quite badly. There may be a good reason, possibly your daughter had gone about 10 times that day and the teacher just thought she was wasting time. Have a talk to the teacher
2006-09-09 19:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your daughter?
I think the first thing you should do is talk to your daughter's teacher. There may have been some sort of misunderstanding. You may want to include the principle after if you don't like the answers that you get. Or you may want to include the principle during that first meeting just so that there is another person present and the principle can know what is going on in their school. Make sure to bring your daughter with you that way if the teachers lies about what was actually said your daughter can tell you.
2006-09-09 18:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About five or ten minutes before the end of the school day, some kids start thinking about ways to make it all end sooner. The sudden need for the bathroom is a common strategy. Your daughter may have had a genuine need, but I never let kids go to the bathroom in the first five or last five minutes of class just as a matter of principle.
Talking to the teacher is a good suggestion. I would also suggest going to school with your daughter and sitting in class for an hour or two, just watching what happens. You wouldn't believe how things have changed since you and I were in school! After you see how rudely the teacher is treated by kids for hours on end, you may lose the impulse to yell at her.
If you suspect your daughter may not be a perfect angel at school, you could ask a counselor to observe your child in class for about 15 minutes. You'll probably need to sign some sort of consent for that, but your daughter won't know she's the one being observed. Part of my job is observing individual students to see how their behavior impacts their learning (it's required by law for some groups of students). I taught school for three years before I did these observations, but each observation is still a eye-opening education for me!
2006-09-09 18:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Beckee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out exactly what happened, on the reason why your child wasn't able to use the restroom. Maybe the child took it as a misunderstanding. I hope it had something to do Wit, the teacher didn't want her to miss the bus. But you still need to go and talk to teacher and principal so this don't happen again. She could of wet her self in the process of getting home from. Also, explain to the teacher it's not good on the bladder to hold urine if you have to urinate. She, don't want anyone to deprive her from going to the restroom she she has to go. Nicely say don't let it happen again. When you say it mean it.
2006-09-10 10:36:20 · answer #6 · answered by hotnpink 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out exactly what happened before you confront the teacher. It could have been that the class was readying to go home and there wasn't time for your daughter to go to the bathroom without missing the bus. Would you rather she gone to the bathroom and miss the bus?
2006-09-11 20:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to the teacher before jumping to conclusions. If she isn't allowing your daughter to use the restroom then you need to ask why. Perhaps there was a miscommunication between your daughter and the teacher.
If the teacher did in fact tell your daughter that she couldn't use the restroom until she got home you definately need to address it. Inform the teacher that you expect that a grade schooler would be not be forced to hold her urine/stool. If the teacher is difficult take your concern to the principal.
I hope it goes well.
2006-09-09 17:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teachers are trying to get kids to use the restroom at recess & lunch. Most kids won't bother & run off to play, then have to run to use the restroom at the last second.
Ask for a conferrence with the teacher to find out what happened. It may be that your daughter was about to get on the bus or was late for it. School buses won't wait on a child who has to use the restroom, talk to their teacher or stop by the office.
If you child has a wetting accident at school, they get sent to the office to call you. Are you prepared to leave work to take your child home to change clothes, then stay home? If you're a stay at home mom or work part time, can you leave immediately to pick her up?
2006-09-09 17:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by Belle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First call up the teacher and ask her what happened.. Then if she gives you the same answer, that she doesn't let kids go to the restroom at school, then talk to the principal and fight for this. Those are young children who need to use the restroom requlary or they will get a uninary tract infection. However, your daughter could be stretching the truth on what actually happend. It could have been a total misunderstanding. I would advise tallking to the teacher first before you take drastic measures.
2006-09-09 17:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to the teacher and find out what happened. My best friend in gradeschool got a bladder infection for that very reason. Kudos to your girl for holding it tho. I probably would have made a mess. My teacher told me the same thing but I had the hershey squirts and I just ran to the bathroom. When I had to go to the principal I explained what happened and she never told me to wait agian. That's crap that she should have to wait. Especially not letting her go before the bus.
2006-09-10 02:00:01 · answer #11 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋