my girlfriend and me are togather now for 8 months. but she came to me after a 6yrs relationship and they still keep in touch. for that reason she did admit that she couldn't concentrate on me 100% and love me whole heartedly. i know how tough it is for her when her ex is a wonderful boy! but i also love her more than anything and anybody. she also loves me and knows me truly. but how should and what do i do now?
2006-09-09 17:38:56 · 13 answers · asked by don_yourmate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People often remain friends after ending their relationship. If you force her to stop talking to her friend, you will probably push her away and back to him or someone more understanding. Let her find her feelings and make the decision herself. If she leaves you, then it wasn't meant to be and you will find another too. If you are understanding and she stays, she will love you more.
2006-09-09 17:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by CylonLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's something i came up with a while back.. "if you truly are for me then you'll always befor me no matter how much i set you free." As much as it hurts, give her some time, give her space. Just treat her the way you've always treated her. Chill and don't give it too much thought unless it becomes an issue. Most times, we (as humans) tend to blow things way out of proportion when nothing has really happened. But just be prepared for.. it.. if something like.. u know.. if she ever leaves you.. just know that she has made her choice and wish her the best.
2006-09-10 00:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by xxeverlasting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sweetheart and it's obvious you really care about her a lot. I think right now you just have to be supportive. Listen to her to her feelings. Dont rush her. Let her take her time and let her know that you'll be there for her. Dont try to scare her with commitment or tell her shes got to get over him or you're leaving..everything will fall into place naturally. Eventually she'll come around. Good luck.
2006-09-10 00:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its simple ..she has to make a choice...either she gets rid of her past and be with u or go back to her ex...u cant love 2 ppl at the same time or force ureself to love someone else. talk to her bout ure feelings and what changes could be made in this relationship...if she wants to be with u borders must be put with her and her ex, rules on how far things can go, whats allowable and not between em...if she doesnt adjust it means she isnt into u that much, and doesnt respect ure relationship and then its best to break it off and find someone that isnt hung onto the ex
2006-09-10 00:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space and let her do her thing. If you really love her than let her go free. Don't cage her in like a bird, she'll just hate you. But this shows you love her and want to protect her. That's okay. Just let her free though. I know that's what a lot of people do when they really love someone.
2006-09-10 00:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by devilishangelgirl10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you that much just ask her if you guys can have a lil more you guys time shes never going to get over that love she has with her ex but im sure sooner or later she willput you first just give it time
2006-09-10 00:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be accepting of who she is, so what if she comes with baggage.When you find someone in life no matter what ,"they have a past,"just be understanding about the situation,but do not allow yourself to become the doormat.
Be honest &open with her about how you feel and explain to her how her relationship is affecting you and your partnership with her.
2006-09-10 00:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by nighneev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she is still talking to him. If she still has feelings say for him, tell her your not going to take 2nd place.
You shouldn't have to take 2nd place. You deserve to have someone love you equally.
2006-09-10 00:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Blah Blah Blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her and set her free...because the other guy...IF she comes back she's yours...IF it wasn't to be she won't be back...i know this is hard...but it will be hard later if you married her and she flew back to her EX!!!!
2006-09-10 00:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously loves u and wants to be with you otherwise she wouldnt be. so whats the problem? shes with U dude not the other guy
2006-09-10 00:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋