ok..me and my girl friend have been dateing for a really long time she cheated on me 5 months ago and she was really upset about it and i took her back and she doest flirt or anythin i love her to death and whenever were in a fight i always bring it up that she cheated and she gets really upset..should i just stop bringing it up..
2006-09-09 16:59:37 · 31 answers · asked by jon s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES ....Stop bringing it up to her or you will eventually drive her away....
Cheating on the one you love is almost unforgivable.....So if you truly love her and really forgive her you must stop bring it up when you argue. If you need to talk to her about why she cheated.Talk to her about it when you are not arguing
2006-09-09 17:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by plus123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When infidelity occurs in a relationship, trust is lost. If you no longer have trust, you really don't have a relationship. You say that you love her, and if you do, you will realize that love is an action word! You must admit to yourself whether or not you are able to forgive her for her actions. If you can forgive her, then let the situation go! What she did in the past , can not be changed! She is trying to show you that she wants to change, by not flirting. Your constant bringing up her mistake is not helping the situation at all! Communication is the key to a healthy and loving relationship! Have you even asked her why she cheated? If you love her like you claim you do, talk to her- not at her.
2006-09-09 17:14:19 · answer #2 · answered by shell d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously plan to stay in this relationship, yes, you should stop bringing it up. When you reunite with an ex that does you wrong, there is this unspoken agreement that you do not bring up past wrongs. You have to start fresh, with a clean slate or it will never work. Another thing you have to think about is WHY you keep bringing it up? Do you not have any other ammo? Perhaps this is not the girl for you.
2006-09-09 17:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by ycatstouch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bring it up, you probably should talk to her about it because it still bothers you. If that doesn't work it out and you can't figure something out between the two of you, you might want to rethink the breaking up idea. But she's only human and people make mistakes. I'm not saying forgive and forget. It just seems like you shouldn't throw all the time you guys have spent together.
2006-09-09 17:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard of a Freudian slip?
It may be that you keep bringing this cheating up because it still bothers you. Cheating, when in a long term relationship can be a very serious problem. I know that it would be for me.
You night want to consider counseling to bring your true feelings out.
2006-09-09 17:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by woundbyte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. Maybe something is not all out. You guys should get help and get it all out and find out the real problem and work on that. And you should probably stop bringing it up if you did get everything out already. But if you don't find out the real reason you guys are hurting each other then she will most likely cheat again.
2006-09-09 17:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by billy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you took her back, and you say you love her to death, then what's the point in bringing up ancient history. Neither of you can change what happened, but if you keep flogging her with it, you're going to turn her off completely.
2006-09-09 17:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you took her back, that means you forgave her and are willing to try to work it out. To keep throwing it back in her face is a total cheap shot. If you love her and want to be with her don't keep bringing it up. You don't have to forget, but at this point you must forgive.
2006-09-09 17:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Agent A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try, but something like that is extremely hard to "forgive and forget". You bring it up because it hurt you alot. Have you two talked about it and why did she cheat on you?
2006-09-09 17:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Polrky1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes john stop bringing that up! it makes matters worse. if what she did still hurts you then sit down and tell her how you feel. you are a better man than me john! cause if she does not care enough to cheat on you and did not take your feeling into consideration i dont see that as love. but i hope the best for you john!
2006-09-09 17:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋