My fiance went off on one when I told her I was having a night out with my best pal who was moving away two days later.I finished our relationship.Was I wrong???????????
2006-09-09 16:48:31 · 13 answers · asked by niolbonthrone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Um.. You're saying that you broke up with her because she got upset about this? I'd say both of you went a little off here. Unless this night out was on a very special night, I don't think she should have got so upset about it. And just the same, you really over reacted by breaking up with her over something so trivial. Why would you take so much time and energy out of your life to build up a relationship like this just to end it over something so simple? You two will disagree on things your whole lives, whether it be with eachother or other partners. These disagreements 'can' be worked out though.
2006-09-09 16:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was your best pal a gal or a guy? If it was a guy, there's no big deal. If it was a gal, there's a HUGE lack of trust on her part, and a lack of discretion on yours.
This doesn't really have anything to do with morals, it's all about relationships. Having a night out with someone who is moving away in two days time isn't a huge event. It's really surprising she'd go ballistic over something like this, unless you have previously given her reason to mistrust you.
It's really hard for an outsider to say whether you were right or wrong, but as you were up to the engagement stage in your relationship, you might want to rethink what happened, or get together over coffee and talk about it with her.
It's possible you both over-reacted.
2006-09-09 23:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you were wrong for calling it off but she was also wrong for throwing a fit about you wanting to go out.obviously there is a trust issue in you relationshipnow youve lost the one you love for one night of going out to have a good time.she should have let you go but you could have said ill be home by 1 pm or maybe you could have asked her to meet up with you guys later in the night so you and your friend could have some male bonding time.so now what r u going to do.if i were you i would call her and have a heart to heart.i think its pretty stupid on both parts so give her a call and find out why she didnt want you to go and then go from there and if you get back together well than good if not i guess it wasnt meant to be. good luck
2006-09-09 23:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by queen4clewis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke off the engagement because your fiance went off on you? Easy come, easy go huh? My god....there wasn't much depth of feeling for her on your part huh? You must think you were wrong if your asking the question to a bunch of strangers.
Just because she went ballistic, is no reason to break off the engagement.......unless your not in love with her. If you were married to her, would you feel the need to bail everytime you two have an argument????Bad Judgement.
2006-09-09 23:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long you were engaged, Dude. And, frankly, it sounds like you were looking for a reason to dump her anyway. So...I would think, yes, you were wrong if you used this as an excuse. If you just didn't want to get married, you should have told her straight out. One incident doesn't make a man want to leave his bride-to-be. Godloveya!
2006-09-09 23:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing. It's better you found out how she is before you got married. My best friend got married and his wife made him give up a lot of things and she wants him around all the time. This kind of person will drive you crazy, you have a right to see your friends and your fiance should trust you.
2006-09-09 23:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was your best pal a man or woman?
2006-09-09 23:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, for starters no one owns anyone, and you should be able to do things on your own with in reasonable means, and she should be able to also. your not dog to ordered around to do what and when as she pleases. in short "she has control issues", stay away from her you might have left future trouble beyond your capability.
2006-09-09 23:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by concrete water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I BELIEVE THAT YOU WERE WRONG, IT A MATTER OF
TRUST, AND IT SOUND LIKE IT NO TRUST THERE. AND THAT
THE PROBLEM AND WHY IT NOT IS THE QUESTION YOU
AND YOUR FIANCE NEED TO TALK ABOUT, YOU DONT]
JUST GIVE UP A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THIS WITHOUT AT
LEAST TALKING ABOUT IT, YOU ASK HER TO MARRY YOU
SO YOU WER IN LOVE. SO TO GIVE UP SO QUICKLY IS
WRONG TALK TO HER.
2006-09-09 23:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope!
2006-09-09 23:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋