I've asked questions about this guy before, so bare with me please. I've seen my casual lover/bf/best friend for more 1.5yrs, about every wk/wknd. Went through alot 2gether, but never really became 2 serious. We both weren't really ready for a serious relationship but always gave each other mixed signals of something that could be more. He asked twice where I bought my jewelry from, & said awhile back that it'd be fun 2 get a log cabin 2gether, where he is from. He understood the fact that my parents were a lil better off than his, like he'd always compare them, maybe to see if I'd look down upon them, which I would NEVER do, if I liked him, I'd like his parents. I'm a city girl, he's from a small town, so I guess I seemed more uppity to him, but tried 2 show him that I liked him 4 who he was, not money. I always dressed nice cuz I like fashion(used 2 model) But I used 2 like the simple life, outdoor life like he does now. And now I regret that I didn't show him I can be like that.
2006-09-09 16:25:17 · 11 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm having trouble with the "what ifs" and now I since he moved away, I'm having a hard time coping with what could've been if I would've been more laid back how I used to be. I thought after seeing him more than a year, it didn't bother him that much & he liked me for who I was. But I wish I could've showed him that I can live the rugged life, "the simple life" I've learned a lesson that I want to share with him, but it's the fact that money doesn't make you happy, people do, and he made me happy. We're keeping in touch, but I want to be honest with him, & not be so showy anymore because that's not me. I was being dishonest with myself & I think that hurt my chances with him. What should I do? How should I handle this? I really miss him, but I want to give him time to get situated. When should be the nex time I contact him, his bday is Sept 11. Please help, I'm having a hard time :(
2006-09-09 16:31:56 · update #1
It's never to late to show you you really are to someone, show him how much you love him for who he is and how flexible you are to whatever he wants to do, but don't sacrifice anything just to make him happy, that will begin a long, but bad, relationship.
2006-09-09 16:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by locomonohijo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What mixed signals? I don't think you got your question out clearly!
Are you still together? What was dishonest? What about the jewelry?
You say this guy is your casual lover, but not someone you love?. Unless you plan on getting more serious, I don't see where casual friends have to tell all.
2006-09-09 16:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nevr 2 late 2 b honst about something u havn't lied about. show him u share most of the same moral values and hobbies. it'll show him u care enuff 2 go 2 the trouble. but nevr change urself for a guy, it nevr works out in the end.
2006-09-09 16:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by iheartme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you be both? People think that they have to be one way or the other. For me, one day I can be seen in skater wear and the next in fashion wear and the next in...well you get the point. You can be both persons. If both ways are you, then I don't feel it's too late to show him...
2006-09-09 16:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him that you can be both? i dunno...too much info. you use to be a model, o.k. so what...just tell him you are fond of both city and country ways of life.
2006-09-09 16:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not too late.
Just make the changes subtly.
Talk to him about it I am sure he will appreciate it
2006-09-09 16:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by witchfromoz2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am really confused as to what your question is.
2006-09-09 16:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're still friends/bf/whatever, it's not too late. :)
2006-09-09 16:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"NEVER" TOOO be to late or honest with "uR self...... "BE TRUE TO "YOURSELF"....ARE YOU THAT ' EVIL" TO continue..?????/ on the path of "DISPITE"?????????? YOUR YOUR "face"... or other 'EMOTIONS" LIKE THAT..!!!????? "TRUE/BLUE".... KIND OF "GAL"..??? OR ARE YOU A "skeamer"????/
2006-09-09 16:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by deenishia1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go and move on.......
2006-09-09 18:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by cub6ib9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋