i was told that when a guy flirts with you, sometimes it's harmless. but when he makes it an effort of his to continuously do it over a long stretch of time, normally he has a motive... whats your take on it? the reason why i ask is because this is happening to me and has ben happening to me for about 6 months now, and at first i thought that i was just imagining it, but it's way to obvious now...also he is my personal doctor,... so whats your opinion?
2006-09-09 16:00:20 · 12 answers · asked by nicole t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What i see.. is a doctor trying to get advantage of his patient.
2006-09-09 16:04:08 · answer #1 · answered by Raven Hood® 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he definitely has a motive....to make you feel either uncomfortable or is playing a game of seduction. Married men don't and shouldn't flirt if they respect their wives. The question is how do you feel about his coming on to you? If you are feeling confused, uncomfortable and are afraid to be in a room by yourself with him; don't continue having a relationship with him. Or else talk to his wife and find out whether this behavior is part of his "harmless touchy feeling person" and maybe she needs to have a discussion with him about being too friendly. Maybe he really is clueless and thinks he is just being friendly.....however I suspect that he knows he is crossing the line. IF you are feeling flattered by the attention, I would again end the relationship. Is it worth hurting yourself and his wife (especially if you are friends with her). Finally, if you are the type of person who can confront this straight on....point blank ask him what he thinks his behavior is being interpreted as when he "accidentally" brushes against your breasts or puts his hand on your knee. You are not imagining the come-ons....what you do will be up to you! Good Luck and stay strong!
2006-09-09 16:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by river 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl,
First off I am a big flirt and right away I can sense if a person is uncomfortable with my words I also ask the flirtee if they are uncomfortable with what I say and appoligize if I offended them. So that is me.
You first of all need to tell this person that his behavior is uncomfortable and very unsettling to you and to please stop. He is obviously unhappy in his marriage and testing the waters to see if he can attract a lady. His problem not yours. Do not put up with it.
A friend of mine accepted the flirtatious words of her married doctor and ended up causing a divorce and marrying him and ruined many lives. A doctor should not flirt at all.
If he does not change his attitude toward you change doctors and be safe.
Hugs to you,
jeffrey
2006-09-09 16:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you might want to get a new dr and most likely he has a motive. There is a chance it is just how he is .If he treats all his female patients this way then do not worry about it but if he is only treating you this way worry
2006-09-09 16:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to quit, flat out. First of all the flirting makes it weird cause he's your doctor, Second--he's married and shouldn't be flirtin all like that. He may be testin your waters to see if you're game (hope you're not). Let him know it ain't cool
2006-09-09 16:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by jobs1012003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's married, so just consider it a sign that you're attractive to the opposite sex. If he wasn't married, and you were an adult, I'd say go for it. If you're creeped out by it, find a new doctor.
2006-09-09 16:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by occasionallyrowdy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with your Physician or other HCP you are free to choose a different office for care at anytime for any reason.
2006-09-09 16:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be clear of your situation. Confusing this relationship will just harm you more and his family. Think about it if he can do this to his wife what can he do to you unless you are out to have fun then ehmm......
2006-09-09 16:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by ukiller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report him to the medical association ,he is a preditor ,your probably not theonly one he is doing this to,you may save another women from embarressment ,or worse,report him
2006-09-09 16:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by augydoggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change doctors
Seriously!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 16:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋