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Question

Please, dont pay attention to the question. Its just an attention grabber. Sorry.

I'm in high school and there is this girl that I like. I think she likes me too cos she is always trying to be around me and she is always smiling at me. She is shy and I am shy too.
I'm planning to give her a note next week. It will say: "I really like you and I think you are very beautiful so I was wondering if you wanna be my girl friend. If you are not interested, please feel free to say No"

Is it too bold?
Just tell me what you think about the whole thing, feel free to offer some advice, okay?

PS: I'm new to this dating thing. Thank You

Answer 1

A) Wrong category, but you sound sincere, so I'm going to give you an answer.

B) A note is never bold, it is pretty much cowardly. It's tough to get out of yor shyness, but she will respect you more if you have to guts to talk to her about it face to face, no instant messaging or anything, in person. There's something that is so different about talking to someone than just handing them a note that really changes what she is going to think. If it helps with your shyness, think about what you are goign to say first, about what you want to say and the best way to say it, and then tell her, almost like a monolouge, and then let her respond, otherwise you are going to be very impatient waiting for her response and you are going to be afraid that she wants nothign to do with you now (I know from experience) so just tell her in person and see what she says, I hoep it goes well.

Answer 2

Too bold and yet at the same time, not bold. Writing a note is the easy way out and considered impersonal in this situation. The boldness comes from you asking her to be your girlfriend. How do you know you want her to be your girlfriend if you can't even talk to her in person?

As a girl in that situation I would prefer that you start talking to me....Hey! How was your weekend? As the friendship develops you'll have a better idea about her and whether you like her or she likes you. If you like her (regardless of whether you can tell if she likes you) ask her to meet you somewhere (if you are too young to date) like the movies or the mall or a coffee shop. If you are old enough to date ask her if she would like to see a movie and have some dinner sometime. If you don't have that kind of money, ask her if she likes coffee (or bagles, whatever) and then ask if she would like to get together and get some.

Movies by themselves are not good dates because there is very little talking and the point of a date is to talk and get to know eachother better.

Girls like boys that are confident, I'm shy too but I am also confident -- the two can go together. You show your confidence by looking her in the eyes and giving her a smile and a warm "Hi!" in the hallway.

What you are thinking of doing would bug me a little because you slipped me a note instead of talking to me and asked me to be in a committed relationship with you although we really don't even have a friendship.

Good to ask for advice, it never hurts to ask!!

All the best to you!

Answer 3

Ah, High School. The memories are, well, not the best time of my life despite what so many say. Look, in real life, if you like someone, you establish a relationship with them. You talk to them. High School is sort of real life, at least mine was sort of like life after High School.

If you are attracted to a girl, sure, you can tell here. Rejection sucks, but it is part of life. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. But, before jumping right into the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing, why not just say that you like being with her, would like to get to know her better, and also that you find her not so hard on the eyes (different words here might be good-you have to remember that I am old; thirty something.)

I passed notes all through High School. It was fun, it was exciting, and it lead to an enhancement of my writing skills; the ability to put into written words what I am thinking. Just remember that what is written is hard to deny. Be prepared for others to read what you have written besides the intended person.

Now, since this is the religion and spirituality portion of this site, let's talk just a little about that. Set your boundries for your relationships. Flat out, premarital sex is wrong and dangerous; don't do it. I know from experience. It is not worth it. It will come back and haunt you later in life. Also, treat a woman with respect and dignity. Remember that the model for husband and wife relationships is Christ and the Church. Do not do anything to a woman that Christ would not do to His Bride, the Church; in other words, everything should be to her benefit. And while you are not talking marriage here, you need to treat all of your male/female relationships this way. Learn now how to treat your future wife; who knows, it may even be this one you have your eye on.

Anyway, write your note, be creative and see what happens. Just one more piece of advice: the whole "check yes or no" idea ain't all that original; just tell her how you feel and she'll let you know what she thinks of it.

That's it, from an old geezer like me. Take it for what it's worth

Answer 4

NOTES ARE BAD!!!! DO NOT GIVE HER A NOTE!!!! She will have all the upper hand in this, and you will look like a dork. All the things you were going to say to her in that note, rehearse and say to her out loud. You'll be there with all the things you want to say, and you'll have an instant answer. Give her a note, and she'll have all the things she wants to say ready to deliver to you while you sit there like an idiot. Notes say that you're too much of a coward to approach her yourself. It's like getting your buddy to ask her out. Also a BAD idea.

If she wants to make you miserable, she will wave that note around, and make you look stupid. At least, if she tells you no and talks smack to her friends, you can play it off because there's no evidence. As tough as you think it may be, this is how grown ups do it. Start out doing it the right way, and more girls will respect you for it.

Answer 5

Talking to her face to face really is the best way. Try to find something you have in common, even if it's a teacher you share, to strike up a conversation. If you absolutely feel you have to give her a note instead, don't ask her to be your girlfriend- it just doesn't happen that fast. Tell her you like her, you think she's beautiful and has a great smile, and maybe she'd like to get together sometime.

Answer 6

it would be great if you could go up to her and ask her in person. Or at least start by saying hi. If she is shy too, then she may not believe the note came from you. Unless you personally hand it to her. Do not add the part "please feel free to say no". It will almost make a shy girl think, does he want me to say no? Ya know? lol. Good Luck. I bet she says yes.

P.S. Girls like to be asked to school dances.

Answer 7

No, that certainly isn't too bold. If you're shy and that's the only way that you can make your move, then go for it.

However, I wouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend when you haven't even really hung out yet. So, instead of asking her to be your girlfriend, ask her to meet somewhere for coffee or something so you can get to know each other better.

You really should never be ashamed of putting yourself out there! Good luck!

Answer 8

This isn't in the right category, but I'll answer anyway.

I think that writing a note is adorable. But I think she'd appreciate it if you asked her face-to-face. Person-to-person. One-on-one. I know you're shy and all, but hey, we all gotta do what we gotta do eventually. Hope she says yes, have a good day.

Answer 9

Don't do a note. Not yet. Just say something, anything, to her and start talking. When you're ready to "pop the question" just hand her a note that says "wanna be my girlfriend?"

Answer 10

sounds like elementary school. Just go up to her, tell her you like her, think she's attractive, and ask her out for a date. If she says no, then at least you will have tried. If you do nothing, you'll never know, and before long someone else will have asked her out.