What can I do about anger?

Question

I feel so angry all the time. Not so bad that I feel like I'm going to hurt somebody, but I just feel angry inside so often. Sometimes I can't even sleep because of it. Sometimes I say things I don't mean. What can I do?

Answer 1

Have you checked out therapy? Might be helpful to find out the root cause of all this anger and defuse it, freeing you up to feel simple joy. Even if you KNOW what's causing it, without the right guidance through the landmines of it, you still won't have the coping skills. Seek references from your local mental health department, ask specifically if they can recommend someone who is skilled in this particular problem.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

As a person that once suffered anger issues I can say that it requires vulcanism. Yes yes I know I sound nerdy but it works.First analyze why you're angry. Now, determine that constructive use your anger has. None right? Its a simple predictable response to a situation. Self-talk is important. Tell yourself that being angry serves no point and then smile and be friendly. Fake it until you feel it. It won't work always but but it will sometimes. Also, exercise makes a HUGE difference and if your an intense person then a hardcore cardio or weight training session makes all the difference. Those endorphins sure help and all that energy can be channelled in a positive manner instead of inward as a fuel for anger. Trying praying for guidance and help from your angels, spirit guides, and god.

Answer 3

I am sure you will get many answers for this ?. Many of them will probably be worth considering. I am just giving you the answer that has helped me. For the last several years i had noticed i was a very angry person inside, i have a lot of personal issues which i am sure after a matter of time just caught up with me. I have a tendency to keep everything stuffed inside, like a little stick of dynamite it lit and burns slowly until one day everything i had been keeping in just explodes, sometimes on the wrong person. It got to the point where i physically felt sick from holding so much in.....it turned into stress that started taking a toll on my body. sleeplessness, neck and back pain, etc. I started writing in a notebook i kept to myself. After i forced myself to get into a daily or weekly log, i found when the pen hit the paper, i just wrote myself to exaustion. i still do it now i have so many notebooks i could probably write a novel! But i gotta say and i cant emphasize enough how much this has helped me control my anger inside. Its like feeling like you just had a word battle and won and a weight seems to lift a little more at a time. The best part is you can write WHATEVER is on your mind, whatever is frustrating you or even if you don't know why u are in charge and it makes sense to you, thats all that matters. but definately do something, just letting it fester is a lot worse and it gets a lot worse. You cant ignore it and hope it goes away, it builds.

Answer 4

You don't say what in your life experience you have experienced severe disappointment that turned to anger because you were unable to "deal with it" at the time of the disappointment. Probably because you were just a child and did not have the skills. You would do well to get referrals to a therapeutic counselor who can help you put your experiences in proper perspective. As just one of a couple of hundred possibilities, boys whose father's desert them early on leaves the child wondering when dad will return. He becomes obsessed with that idea and plans for the day that may well never arrive. Disappointment when he becomes an adolescent turns to anger and because he does not have adult reasoning skills, that anger is turned on himself and he "explodes." Unremiting anger demands that you see a third party to help you identify the triggers and root causes and then put them in perspective to your whole productive and promised future. Stop wasting your time going into these anger episodes. That is like taking a drug to zonk out the present difficulty. Anger masks your ability to think and see the big picture. Alone, you will be unlikely to make progress. Important that the helping person not be someone in the family or someone who is a friend, etc. Do as I suggest and you will be amazed at the melting away of the anger after 8 - 10 sessions.

Answer 5

I'm very happy you're looking for a way to resolve it. Many men refuse to do anything about anger, so you get a pat on the back. But, what you can do is always release your emotions at night, or morning, or anytime you feel is right. Write them, talk about them, but don't just keep them inside of you. When you are angry, get to the deep roots of why you are upset. try to do something about it. Always think about what can cause anger, and do whatever you need to do to escape these paths. You're in my prayers, and good luck!

Answer 6

try anger management, or just start trying to add a nice thing into your personality everyday,
I use to be that way, not mentioning the family history,
but, I decided that i would start thinking a positive thing everyday, smiling or helping someone doing kind things, it is kind of in how your mind set is, I would just tell people that "you suck" if they were talking and I didn't like what they were saying or whatever, that's not all, but, I had to make the change within myself.
It is kind of hard, but it will eventually happen.

Answer 7

stay away from people or other that make u feel that way i used to be the same way i left an 8 year relation ship as much as it hurt ifeel beter know but ill still beat someones bass at the drop of a hat if they push it i also found workking out helps now people totaly dont piss me off

Answer 8

do some meditation yes like martial arts would be good but you need to find out what is really bugging you get to the bottom of this . and get it fixed. you can't go around be angry all the time you must be so drained.

Answer 9

Do Not Try Effexor XR. I have personal experience with it; it rendered me manic and resulted indirectly in my diagnosis with HIV.

Talk with a counselor. Inappropriate medication will not help. The counselor can decide, based on their experience, whether a pharmaceutical solution MAY BE helpful. In that case, SPEAK IN DETAIL WITH A REAL CERTIFIED PSYCHIATRIST. DO NOT START TO TAKE ANY MEDICATION FOR MENTAL CONDITIONS WITHOUT A PSYCHIATRIC CONSULT!!!!!!!

Answer 10

take up boxing or martial arts to get some of this aggression out on dummies and other strong guys. and at home, try some calming yoga exercises or tai chi to ground you.