how do i cope?

Question

after being dumped after a 2 year relationship? im crying constantly what do i do to take my mind off him?

Answer 1

You just have to know that he's somewhere happy and cry free. He's not thinking about you. Think of it that way...the mere thought of him being happy with someone else should motivate you to get your mind off him. I wouldn't say jump into another relationship or try to replace him because that's continuing the weakness he has instilled within you. However, simply making friends with various guys and talking to them is extreamly healthy and will help you keep your options open and to learn the essence of diffrent types of men. This will ensure you don't go through the heart break syndrome again. So I would suggest getting your self a friend.

Also, try this: Get a journal or something and write down 10 things you loved about this guy that your so broken up over. Then write 10 things you didn't like about him along with five reason's why you should mourn over him. This will help you see your issues on paper and you will have a better glance. Whatever questions that are leftover and feelings that are still balled up on the inside express them through your journal. Getting things out can be very theraputic. Because the reason that it still bothers you after two years is because there was something left unfinished and you probably constantly ask your self "why?" and you may ask your self if it was you. Get all this out and this will help you cope and get over him. Also, keep your self busy with other things so that your mind doesn't become idle leaving room for the jerk to creep back in your head.

Answer 2

I know it may seem like he was the one and that you will never get over him, but trust me you will and you will look back one day and ask yourself "what was i thinking being with him?" If you are 150% sure that you will never get back together, you need to get rid of anything and everything that is associated with him and the two of you as a couple. Most importantly, GO OUT! Whether it's for walks, or clubbing with your friends, do not stay home and mope, evertime you think about just staying home and being sad and depressed just think that he is out there living it up and not thinking twice about you so why should you be home thinking about him? I'm sure you are a wonderful beautiful person and it's his loss so make sure you show him that by not sitting at home crying. Be strong and good luck, I promise you it will get better :)

Answer 3

You stay busy. Honestly the absolute BEST thing for that (this may sound strange) is volunteer. Go online and look at what in your community might need your help. Go to the rest home and cheer up some elder people. Or volunteer at a food drive once a week. It's going out of your way to help less fortunate that help you realize that your problems aren't so bad, and you can move on with a wider perspective.

Answer 4

I know it's really hard. The same thing happened to be recently. And I know this sounds like bullshit because everyone says it but it's true; it's just going to take time. You can never completely heal a broken heart, but you will eventually get to a point where you'll be okay. Cry. Crying is good, dont' be afraid to let it out because if you hold it in, you might fall apart even worse. Go out with your close girlfriends and cry with them. Keep yourself busy, but don't deny your feelings. Find things to do. I really find just being with other people makes me feel better. Talk to your girls about it, cry with them. In time, you'll be okay. Just hang in there. If you need me, you can message me. I'll be there for you.

Answer 5

Hey hon. Sucks dosen't it? You should call up some of your girlfriends and get together for a good ole guy bash!!! This will make you feel better and laugh. Eat some ice cream and watch your fave programs, shopping or just chill and get to know you again as a single. Good luck hon

Answer 6

Dear, there are other fish in the sea. Plenty of them. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and find one of them. You will be dumped again and do some of the dumping, too. That's life!

Answer 7

I've been thru that and I'm going thru that now...I think yuh would haffi do ting 2 take yuh mind off of him like do fun things: go out with di gyals, go shopping, amusement park, etc.

Answer 8

i no just how you feel my bf of 3 yrs broke up with me a week ago i was riped apart

but it made it easyer knowing he had cheated on me b 4 we broke up........ so i knew he did not care and it made it a bit easyer........

but the best thing is to get out of the house and have a good night out or shoping spree to get you back in to the swing of things HOOORRAAAYYYY

Answer 9

go out with the girls. do things that you like to do ,but try not to do anything that makes you think about him. but whatever you do don't jump into another relationship until you're over him.

Answer 10

You'll feel even worst if you get drunk, It will get better as time goes on. Time heals all. Or the sooner you find someone else you like it will get better.