I wonder why I don't want children. I never have since I was young and I don't now.?

Question

What are some good reasons not to have them?

Everyone says that I am so good with kids and I love being around them.

Answer 1

Children are a responsibility for many years. It is not something that you can try for a while and if you don't like having them then send them back. Children seem to like me but I don't want them around permanently. I say the best thing about children is that they do not belong to me. Babies are ugly and helpless, toddlers are always up to something and have to be watched all the time. It doesn't get better as they grow either so let another have the responsibility and enjoy them from time to time and send them home. There are too many of them around so don't increase the population more.

Answer 2

Not surprised at all by the selfish answers provided here. We live in an age where it is about "me" and not about the future generations.

Funny how people who have never had kids can speak as "experts" on the fallacies of raising kids.

I was one of these pricks once. I used to tell my mom, "I don't like the way you parented, so I will NEVER have kids."

That was until I found the love of my life, had a kid, then another, and maybe another down the road. Kids are the absolute best. Nothing compares to them. The challenges are more than rewarding to those willing to accept responsibilities. But then again, this is America - a nation devoted to me, consumerism, and laziness.

That is OK. All you losers who want to stay single and not have kids because you don't like them, Darwin's theory works best on you. I get to pass along my superior genes to my offspring, and you, well, just be happy playing with yourself during "me" time.

Answer 3

I'm 30 and have no children and never have any intention of every having any. My reasons are:

I'm too selfish. If I want to go buy a pair of $100 shoes I can do this without worrying about whether or not I have diapers or school supplies.

I can get up and go WHENEVER I want without having to worry about a babysitter.

I prefer sports cars opposed to a four-door sedan. With children it would be more advantageous to own a four-door vehicle.

And...

The way the world is today, I wouldn't want to subject a child to it. I'd rather spare its feelings and heartache.

Answer 4

My stepdad never wanted to have children either. He married my mom when my brother and I were in our teens and he was a fun guy to be around but he never claimed to be a "dad".

Now I'm 49 and he's the best dad I could ever ask for. He's so good to me, my grown kids and my grandkids. He makes sure we have all our needs met and is always there for us.
You don't have to want kids to be a terrific person. Who knows what life has in store for you.

Celebrate your uniqueness. I don't want a relationship and everyone seems to think that's some kind of pesrsonality flaw, but I'm very happy to be alone.

Answer 5

I think your quite smart to know your own mind. There are many reasons for not wanting children, my sister-in-laws happens to be that she had a crappy childhood and doesn't want to put a child through he same thing. At first I couldn't understand how she could NOT want kids. But then my brother told me abit about the horrendous childhood she had and I am now thankful that she knows in her heart that she wouldn't be a good mom. Also she has the option of being the "super cool aunt" ............ when ever she wants to spend some time with a kid, she barrows one of mine!

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with not wanting to have children. Some people are not into that. Better to know that now, then have a child and then realize you never wanted him/her in the first place. That messes up the kid.

Answer 7

I love my child but...
There are so many reasons not to...
They eat too much (three and four times a day whether you are hungry or not) EVERYDAY
They have hearts that hurt, but YOU feel their pain 10 fold
And all of a sudden EVERYTHING you do matters. Because they only do what they see you doing. If you are not perfect then you will beat yourself up for being a bad example. And if you can't follow through on everything you say you will do then you will really screw them up!!!!
So unless you are immune to pain, filthy rich, (or own a restaurant)
and a saint who always keeps their promises,
you don't need any kids.
Unless of course you have no conscience, then it's pure bliss

Answer 8

Perhaps you are focusing too much on what ‘childhood’ was like for you, rather than what you can make it for someone else…
“I daydreamed too much in my younger days, instead of living in reality, and made unhealthy choices, and now I will forever remember that ignorance!”

There is nothing to say that you have to have children in your life.
If you are after reasons not to have them, there are perhaps plenty…
The dirty, smelly nappies when they are babies… the cost of clothing, feeding, and educating them… and so forth !

Children are the future…
If nobody has them… there is no future !!!

How you feel about ‘yourself’ can have a lot to do with the way you feel about ‘children’.
If you base the ‘future’ on your past, rather than ‘using your past’ to help you ‘influence the future’ then you will continue to not want children in your life.

Don’t lose sight of what your childhood was like for you…
But at the same time, allow yourself to focus on how you can help to influence someone else’s childhood !!!

Answer 9

Since I was 13 years old I've always said I wouldn't have children and then a year later,oops Im pregnant.I don't regret my son but sometimes I do wish that I could have more me time.Its not a bad thing that you don't want children.Maybe because you don't want to feel tied down all the time and buying more things for your child.Thats what I use to hate most.But now I enjoy it.

Answer 10

My sister didn't want children either, until she met her current partner and became pregnant. I actually have never seen her this happy it's great. Perhaps you just haven't met the right person, or children just may not be your thing. Everyone has different feelings about these things.